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SSRIs and libido...there is hope!

God I hope you are right! My boyfriend is on Effexor (Venlafaxine) for depression and that combined with stress from University has reduced his libido to 0. Fingers crossed!
 
Thanks for this post. It's very reassuring for me. I'm a male, and started the medications when I was 16-17 years old. I was on it for about 8 months. I tapered off of it myself.. I was too impatient to see my doctor. I'm wondering if that might have a terrible effect or not and was wondering if you had an opionion on that. I'm 18 now and I don't find it was returned fully. It's very frustrating but I'm hoping time well solve this!
 
From personal experience, escitalopram killed my sex drive and ability to get an erection for the very short time I was on it, 2 days. Side effects were so bad that I just quit. Everything returned to normal once the drug cleared my system.

Next up was duloxetine. I've had fairly good experience here on 30mg. Adjusting was never very difficult for me. The first couple weeks did have some sexual side effects, but low libido was not one. After about a month on it now everything seems to be completely back to normal, erection, orgasm feeling, ability to control orgasm. It works well for me, I hope others give it consideration. I've had experiences with duloxetine in the past as well, and back then I did not even notice any side effects at all. In fact I was wondering if the drug had any effect whatsoever. It was only due to others telling me that I looked happier and was more active and involved with everyday normal life that I considered the drug to be working. This time around I actually could feel its effects during the adjustment period, but once again after 1 month I almost do not notice it at all. Only in the morning before I take the med do I feel anything, a slightly shitty feeling, since the med is wearing off. A lot of the time this is dependent on my quality of sleep though. In the past, I did the 1-week withdraw during a physically active vacation and the only effect I had was 1 vivid nightmare.

So for me, 30mg duloxetine (or the least amount you can live with) is good for fairly sexual side effect free relief of depression and anxiety.
 
i think proac is the worst AD for women (regarding orgasms and libido) been with one on proac, can only cum if i go down on her and even then, not if she's had a drop of booze, and been with one on escitalopram i believe who was horny as fuck, and wasn't fakin it (i hope... that would make her an amaing actress)
 
for some reason viagra/cialis/levitra etc... ed meds are not widely promoted for women. Cultural bias?

They seem to work for both sexes, at least to the point of being able to get excited and orgasm from oral sex or whatever.

Unfortunately expensive and not covered by Rx (kind of crappy considering sex should be viewed as part of a healthy life) and they can have their own issues regarding desensitization/libido-dependence with continued use.
 
hey all. new to the forum so hope i'm posting right :)

as for all my psychological and psychiatric issue it's a long way to go, but basically in terms of this, i had noticed some changes in this area. never big on sex, don't mind - but over the past years not only have my wet dreams decreased, but on top of that, it hurts when it comes out, and, lately, I feel extreme anxiety but anorgasmia. could it be with my urinary system? had it checked a year ago and said it's fine. but on top of that i have frequent needs to urinate, feeling of incomplete emptying etc. so i don't know what to attribute it to.
some time ago woke up in the night; normally I would've had a wd by itself but no way! it hurt and hurt, ready to explode but wouln't come. it's like a roller coaster- before arousal would go up, then down and then the feeling of relaxation. now even the slightest stimulation is unpleasant, physically and emotionally. hard to explain (or have i developed an aversion?), but anything which arouses me makes me feel anxious and overexcited (in a bad way) and instead of feeling "good" I feel more uncalm, anxious, as if with extra energy that i can't get rid of, basically more frustrated, irritated and annoyed. interestingly, the same could be said about say, laughing, or anything exciting - as if i'm tired of it all, and instead of feeling positive and good it's as if "by force" and even if i seem to enjoy myself, laugh and share funny stories, deep inside I hurt.
years ago when I'd approach a girl i liked i felt good about it; lately i started to feel this "pain" and I have an immediate reflex to withdraw. interestingly enough, as far as i remember i did not liked to be touched/hugged often; i'd just withdraw; then i did try to overcome it voluntarily, but there's an automatic part in me to withdraw - but lately, even if I'd want to voluntarily, the tension/anxiety/arousal increasing to the point I get more only anxious, and in the case of sexual arousal (due to dreams most often; I don't masturbate, have sex or watch porn) and feel pain and pressure in my groin, but it never goes down again. so basically it's a pressure cooker with its vent blocked. it's sad that a guy relatively sexually pure as myself should suffer as the most promiscuous and beastly :(

since i've been on a variety of drugs (mirtazapine, clonazepam, lately quetiapine), i wonder if it can't be due to my receptors being screwed up? If my reasoning is right, i did notice that since having taken & quit mirtazapine my brain has becomre more sensitive to tryptophan and any 5-HT substances. Now having 1/2 litre milk in the morning does make me feel the extra Trp in the system. after quitting it, i could take a tiny dose of Trp powder and felt awful for ages (like serotonin syndrome).
So i'd like some help whether that could be sthg to do with my prostate, urinary system or is it due to the medicine, or both? thanks for the ideas
 
Yep, although it's not one of the main usual suspects, Abilify certainly can negatively affect your libido.

Elajas if it hurts when you ejaculate you should certainly see your doctor. No harm in getting it checked.
 
Has anybody who has gone off the meds experienced premature ejaculation?

I'm 17 and was put on meds when i was 15. At first, it was prozac. It decreased my libido, to the point where it very negatively affected an important relationship of mine, but whenever i could get aroused i had no problems with length.

I am now on lithium and latuda and I'm supposed to be on effexor (I have to fake take these pills everyday because i am so afraid of the loss of libido).
I feel as if the libido is beginning to return, but after such a long period of time of sexual inactivity (I mean not even masturbation or anything) I think it has caused premature ejaculation. Is this something that will fade with time? I am afraid to become sexually active with a girl because this could be potentially very embarrassing, and I'm not old enough for any ED meds or anything like that.

Thoughts?

Also - could latuda potentially be decreasing my libido still? I feel as if it is somewhat back, but it is nowhere near the average 17 year old boy (at least not any one that I know)

thanks,
- t1gersxjaw
 
As you already know, each person reacts differently to each kind of medication. I'm not sure about the meds you speak of, but recently cruising a forum about Paxil I learned that people who stop taking do experience premature ejaculation. It usually corrects itself after a couple weeks.

Hang in there, and try not to let the sexual side effects deter you from getting some beneficial chemical assistance. At 17 you have many good years ahead of you.
 
Yuuuuup serotonin plays a huge role in vascular constriction and lexapro turned me into a sexless zombie. "It "does come back.
 
I know what you are saying, sometimes the medicine affects one person negatively and another positively. It depends in part because of how many receptors a person has and which ones are affected according to a pharmaceutical website. It has to be balanced for the person. And at times even the best Doctors don't have the time to do a good job. And sometimes they can't keep up with the workload and the new knowledge. Some Doctors noticed that for some reason it affected me to love a long time so to put it. They weren't sure why, but they still liked me. I was a nice guy to them and they heard that somehow I became a lot more prolific in bed from my ex. They hoped it would be good. And the last Doctor probably began to like me. She was very nice and sweet and attractive. But even too much of one thing can be destructive. It went from almost no sex to so much that all the women I worked with wanted me. I found out the FDA did some bulletins and I gave them to the Doctor and she was willing to take me off them. But, poor thing, I think her husband was not good to her. When I told her I also wanted something to temporarily kill the sex drive, like you are supposed to get, she literally screamed, "Nooo...!" and from a scream it became almost a whimper. I fought the urge to, hit my forehead with my palm and asked her why. (Because too much after a long time could have caused cancer if I survived the angry husbands.) They had almost killed me, even though I never touched anyone after my ex. But because she was a good Doctor I recognized that she was a good woman and I was able to move and I'm doing much better now. But, some drugs can help also. Like Wellbutrin killed my sex drive, but the medicine for shaking Artane with caffiene raised it. They found out in the Iraqui war that they gave their soldiers lots of artane and caffeine before battle and not only did it make them sexual soldiers but it got them to attack fortified machine gun nests. If the took the nest and lived afterwards they had to do a lot of screwing until the drugs wore off. But, it made them also take machine gun nests in the face of huge caliber bullets, zipping right past their heads. So not only could it help a man take a big risk, but in low doses along with caffeine, it did also heighten my sex drive. If it works for you, it may help. You have to take it with caffeine, and it might depress your sex drive. But if it helps and balances your sex drive you can love the love of your life again. Cogentin has a similar side effect. If you get that side effect then you might feel better again. Some urologists prescribe these medicines for low libido. So if you are suffering and can get your Doctor to let you see a Urologist or Dr who has some specialty with sex hormone medicines you might feel better soon. I can't see the one I loved, because it was rough and they knew they had messed up, so they told her not to talk to me. But, I hope God willing He can let me find the love of my life too,very soon. I am feeling a lot better now. My physical body has to heal. But hopefully in a while the Lord will let me find the right love of my life. It is true, "for this cause a man will leave his mother and father and find one and the two shall become one." We don't always know how it will happen, but I'm glad that we know He will make it happen. Hope you guys do well.
 
I agree with n3otphy7e if a good urologist can figure it out it would be worth it to see a Doctor. And if he can't help you, another one may have run across that in the past also. I had a very good Doctor who spent a lot of time asking me questions about what I was feeling with the blood pressure symptoms. She had to figure out what to prescribe with all the rest of the medicines. She would always take about 20 to 30 minutes asking questions and testing. But she was the best Doctor I ever had. She figured out what I needed and I felt well. So sometimes just a plain Doctor who knows the medicines they prescribe in their specialty can do wonders. But a urologist can have knowledge of the role of sex in medicines also. So I agree with n3otphy7e, see a doctor and also let pain be your guide to know if it Ok to do something if it is getting better or not. Your body was made with lots of backup systems to take care of you too. Take care of it and yourself.
 
Stop using ssrti that poison, problem solved. And by the way for some of us decreased libido is good thing. But if you insist using ssris then switch to bupropion, it increases you're libido.
 
Ryan01 said:
One of my ex girlfriends was prescribed adderall to combat loss of libido from prozac. Worked very well ;)
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Good, I really love USA in that there are good doctors. Must really light up youre sex life ;).
 
Please! Ask about Venlefaxine. Don't get the XR. Get the regular daily tablets. I'm at 100mg, three times a day. My sex drive is high and I feel amazing! So much better! Please don't throw away your depression problems because of sex. That's dangerous for your well being. First thing is first! First! Your depression should be #1. It's dangerous. Please follow up with your doctor ASAP. I climb the walls with my sex drive. Try it. Try it. You won't be sorry! Promise! Good luck! ?
 
cmwc1977 said:
Please! Ask about Venlefaxine. Don't get the XR. Get the regular daily tablets. I'm at 100mg, three times a day. My sex drive is high and I feel amazing! So much better! Please don't throw away your depression problems because of sex. That's dangerous for your well being. First thing is first! First! Your depression should be #1. It's dangerous. Please follow up with your doctor ASAP. I climb the walls with my sex drive. Try it. Try it. You won't be sorry! Promise! Good luck! ��
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Users say venlanzine gives you heroin typoe of WDS, thats why I never used it two days longer, even then I felt really shit like being in mild opioid WD, no thanks.
 
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