Sexual fantasy gone to far?

[treezy z]

i can't say i've ever had those fantasies myself. i'm not above a tag team but i ain't ever lettin my bros bang my girl (when i'm in a relationship) under any means. also if she's available i don't see the need to videotape.

that said i don't think those fantasies are too over the top or "bad" or anything.

it's a problem if he's trying to pressure you though

 

[MrCookiE]

Yeah that is defiantly weird, he should get off on fucking you himself not watching you get fucked.
Ask him what other weird shit he's into, if he says anything else weird, get rid of him.
No one likes a weirdo!

 

[gr33n3y3z]

If your not comfortable with this (sounds like your not), don't let him corner you into doing sexual activities that your not okay with!.I mean why are you with the dude if you two are not connecting with each other. A partner should make you feel loved and cared for not the other way around.

Defiantly talk to him maybe he can fill you in on his fantasies, hell maybe you might find them hot if you get the background information first before judging. Good luck op.

 

[bulon]

I would be worried that it indicates the person might have some unresolved subconscious sexuality issues and I wouldn't want to be involved any further. It's totally different if said person had been upfront about that sort of stuff and had owned up to it. But it sounds like he's only expressed this desire recently, after a good time together, and is trying to push her in that direction when she clearly doesn't want it. Seems creepy to me. Maybe i'm just not expressing myself well. But yea it can be pretty mild depending on the context.

I challenge you to tell me what part of human sexuality is not an unresolved subconscious issue. Are you really saying that you have even the sketchiest understanding (scientific objective understanding) of what kind of phenomenon your own sexuality is? If so then I would suggest that it's something you've never really thought about.

 

[bulon]

True, i just admitted to that above. Yes, i am a bit prejudiced against it. I don't think being close minded is always bad.

I can't think of an example of when it's better (as in the outcome is better for everyone) to be closed minded about anything if that means not being prepared to consider how some issue looks from a different perspective (just in case you've stupidly overlooked some aspect of it for example due to having only experienced a vanishingly small subset of all possible experiences). Can you?

 

[baggerr]

Well when it comes to sex it is supposed to be pleasurable for both of you. If you're not getting the right kind of pleasure or not liking it, dont do it. He needs to be reminded that its not all about what he wants and his fantasies. I cant believe he doesnt believe that you are happy and want just him. That says a lot and he needs to get a clue LOL And he should be really glad you were willing to do it in the first place
If you've done his fantasy for him, you've done your duty and having sex with other men is a boundary that should only be crossed when you both agree. Sounds like you're not agreeing and he should be happy that you did it in the first place. Many would say hell no! And if he has a hard time accepting you dont want to, his feelings for you need an evaluation. Because if he really likes/loves/cares about you he'll be more respectful of your boundary.
Sometimes you do things your partner likes to make them happy but doing other men shouldn't be something expected of you. Never make someone do something sexual that turns them off, it will just turn them off to sex with them period.
Having my girl tell me she just wants me and I make her happy is a HUGE compliment. He should pay attention
You can always remind him that NO means NO.

 

[baggerr]

Yeah that is defiantly weird, he should get off on fucking you himself not watching you get fucked.
Ask him what other weird shit he's into, if he says anything else weird, get rid of him.
No one likes a weirdo!

There are a lot of guys that get off on seeing their girl get banged by other dudes. I'm not one of them LOL in a porn setting seeing a girl with multiple guys is cool but that doesnt mean I want to see my girl do it, if I have feelings for the girl thats a hell no!