Sex isn't what I thought it'd be

[Gormur]

I am but most people just feel like strangers to me as it is. If a girl is attractive to me, I'll feel more at ease and familiar with her but that's no guarantee that we'll get along

 

[ControlDaddy]

A great discussion. So much to reply to but I gotta go go sleep so I’ll just say this:

Gormur I am also a visual person, sexually attracted to women, and when I get into the missionary or doggy position it’s only after I have been sufficiently aroused by the rest of the sex that I am about to nut. I don’t start there or want to hang out there forever. The only exception to this would be when with someone I am in love with or someone with a very sexually attractive face, or if we are talking dirty to each other and I want to give her the dialog face to face. In that case I will mix mish in with the rest of the action, but I don’t stay there for long. In other words for me neither of those positions give me sufficient visual simulation, or a variety of sexy things to look at, and are a terrible place to start sex. Most guys are happy to look at a woman’s ass and can do that for hours so they can get aroused from the doggy position so I am an outlier in that regard. I also don’t want to start in missionary because you are both only starting to get aroused, her eyes are probably open and IDK eye contact is just not ideal from me for that position and with all the humping... it is just not a place I want to start having sex from. If she has sexy breasts and I want to watch them do that wave thing with the fucking motion, I will modify missionary by pulling her to the edge of whatever so we are more perpendicular to each other and I can see them moving. You said you like when she does the legwork so either of the cowgirl position might be a better initial position for your encounters to start from. I like to start with kissing, move to fondling/ripping clothes off, progress to giving and/or receiving oral sex (I do love eye contact if she is going down on me, for some reason that’s sexy and not awkward), and then if I need more arousal have her ride me facing me before going to the rest of the Kama Sutra. Only late in the game go for the vaginal sex where I am doing the leg work. She is usually much wetter by then and might even be having contractions down there if she’s finding it all very sexy. Don’t give up too soon, vaginas can be amazing places to get off in, and you might just not have found a good one.

 

[ControlDaddy]

Cialis gives me big hard erections, a headache about four hours later, but it doesn’t effect my libido.

I like viagra and a rich fantasy life. My fantasies are lifelong possessions, I like to recycle and modify worn out ones when I can’t create a brand new one. I think about a fantasy to focus my attention on sex and get the libido humming.

 

[ControlDaddy]

Caffeine isn't better than sex. I think that's the craziest thing you've said so far. Personally, I think it's weird that other people say good drugs are better than sex, but I can kind of understand where they're coming from. Caffeine though? Caffeine is an awful drug. Sex is not a drug. People just say that here because this is a drug forum and everything revolves around drugs. Sex is sex.

Exactly.

I think seeing a professional sex worker might solve your problems. It won't feel like fucking a belt. You won't have teeth grinding on your shaft. So, if nothing else, you'll be able to determine whether or not you physically like the sensation of sex.

I have yet to hire a pro, but I have fucked a few women who work that occupation, and you are correct, they will provide the next best thing to “making love” in terms of pleasurable sexual sensation. I struggled to not get off too quick with all three women.