self esteem-advice needed

[Wutang_Forever]

I'm in college, socially active, and not bad looking. I've had many chances to hook up with numerous beautiful women this year, but i continually squander them. I can talk to women, all my friends are impressed with all the women i dance or flirt with at bars. On more than one occasion this year i have been in bed with someone who i would love to hook up with, but i have been unable to "get it up" due to extreme apprehension. I've never really told anyone about this problem, it's very strange. Theres only one girl who i've been able to have sex with since i was 17, and we've literally sexxed hundreds of times, i could get laid by her on any weekend i want. but for any other girl my dick is just scared. I've even had a boner, then when things heat up it drops due to *i assume* nervous apprehension. Honestly i don't even want to go around fucking all the time, i just want to experience this physical connection with someone else. it's isolating to be unable to connect. Advice anyone? lol i know i could just get some viagra but i want it to be REAL

 

[l33t]

Well you sound like you dont feel comfortable and thats why this happens. I remember this happened to me with a virgin. We were about to do it and she prepared everything and because she so wanted to be perfect everything the first time, I couldn't let myself go and I couldn't even get hard enough to pop her cherry. Of course, in the end it happened but I just wanted to show you one time that I had this problem and I am usually SUPER sexually active and I can only not get hard if I had more than 5-10 times sex in a day.

So if you dont have any problem masturbating or getting hard at all it seems that you need to RELAX. I know for men is a bit more difficult because we have to do all the work and make sure we do it nicely so there is lots of pressure but when you relax, everything will just flow perfectly.

Do not worry. In fact thats normal. You are in college what the FK are you talking about viagra

For me the best thing that helps my self esteem is learning to value yourself and of course experience. SOME * one glass of * alcohol will do wonders as well, maybe cannabis too if you are not one of those weed anxiety types.

Btw I dont want to lower your selfesteem but not getting hard for the first time with a girl is BAD. Girls assume that you dont find them sexy and its a HUGE turnoff, ESPECIALLY the first times. It's best to communicate rather than leave them think that you don't find them attractive.

Sometimes it still happens to me with new girls and if I find myself into this situation I just hug her and kiss her and tell her she is amazing OR ask her for oral or go down to her and masturbate Sooner than later the "server" will be up and running again

 

[jammin83]

Not every guy is really into one night stands and need a relationship factor. Have you ever considered you might be the monogamous type? I've had hook ups and all that but I prefer to be in a relationship. The numbers game is a bit over-rated. Find someone you like and spend some time to get comfortable around them and you should have no issues.