WaterOverLiquour
Bluelighter
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- Apr 18, 2022
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The title isn't a pun, I just didn't know what to call this thing and gave up after staring at it for over 10 minutes.
I'm sorry if this might be difficult to read since I don't think I bother formatting it.
Starting at the beginning, I have always been very insecure about myself, maybe it was the toxic parent I have cut out of my life, maybe it was being fucked with in school because I was fat, maybe it was lack of validation but I know that it's always been like that. For a brief period in my life it actually wasn't the case for once and I was by far the happiest I've ever been I think. Only thing that changed was that when I looked in the mirror I genuinely liked what I saw. It feels incredibly stupid talking about this and part of the reason why I chose to bring it here. It was the hair that gave me the confidence and positive perecption of myself I feel I sought all this time. I found a haircut that I actually liked, like the one piece missing from the puzzle was finally there. I was completely and utterly satisfied with myself. Calling it vain wouldn't be wrong but it wasn't all there was. I was in love with who I had become, proud that all those hardships before had culminated in something worthwhile, the self hatred melted away and was glued to the past, to stay there for the rest of eternity. But life's wonderful sense of humor struck again, and decided that I should be the punchline. Washing away the soap from my body that morning, what was supposed to be a nice and relaxing shower, turned into concern that pushed my eyebrows so close together that you wouldn't be able to tell that there was still a gap between them. The water was up to my ankles and when I reached down to unclog the metal shield, in my hand appeared a fistful of hair. I don't remember when the first time was I had to do this in order to prevent my bathroom from being flooded, but each consecutive shower was not once exempt from that step. The temples were the first to show signs of this, becoming thinner and thinner. What once was a head of hair dense enough to make carpets, was disappearing day after day. I was crushed, it chewed me up, spit me out and smeared me over the pavement. Just as things were starting to go smooth, before I was fully able to catch my breath from the struggle of yesteryears, it was ripped away from me. I cried myself to sleep more times than I could count when it was getting really bad. Only managing to compose myself when i was forced to put on my shoes and go work my shift. Maybe I ws the fool for thinking that shit was finally taking a turn for the better. I was angry but I didn't know who I was angry at. I felt cheated and betrayed. Believeing in karma is something most people are surprised to hear I do, and most of the first months after this whole situation started, I was scouring my memory for a wrongdoing I partook in to deserve this. I had my moments in the past, but that was long ago and I have changed since then, deciding that I want to only do good for the sake of it long before any of this was even close to beginning. People I spoke to about this often comment that my new shaved hair looks great, thinking that would make me feel better, and while I do appreciate the effort, it does not have the desired effect. I think it looks horrible, I hate it and I want my fucking hair back. I liked how it looked and didn't care much for others then, same as I dont do it now. I don't wanna feel like this anymore but I just dont know what to do anymore. I've been to doctors who think they can fix it but nothing seems to be working. I feel like what are supposed to be the best years of my life, are going down the drain because I feel like complete ass all the fucking time. I can count the times i went out without a hat on one hand, I dont wanna be seen like this, jesus chirst I hate it so fucking much. I dont know if I will ever be at peace with this and its been fucking with my mind for the past two years almost. I'm at my fucking limit here and dont know how much more i can take. Nobody is kicking me harder than I am myself and I cant remember the last time someone had a negative remark about me. Im not suicidal and dont plan on ever being. But what will happen when i finally do snap? I just wanna go back to when none of this was happening and stay there forever. I'm sick of feeling like this and will just take anything to make me forget about it just for a few hours. I spent the entire last week amped out of my fucking mind just so I could take a fucking break. I'm done with everthing and simply wanna go back to enjoying life, is that really too much to ask? I need help but dont know where i can get it. I cant afford a therapist, i barely afford the meds my doc is giving me. Im scared that i will feel like this forever, that i will never have the courage to do what i want to because of it, that even the people who love me now are going to leave me once they had enough. I dont understand why this is happening and know there isnt an explanation for it thats gonna be what i want it to be. I dont know what else to say other than that its pathetic and that im putting too much value into looks. I hate that i feel like that because of it, my emotional and mental state dont feel like an appropriate response, like they are not justified in proportion to what is happening. I dont know anymore and i am on the verge of completley giving up, cutting everyone out of my life and spending the rest of my days couped up alone in this tiny apartment.
I'm sorry if this might be difficult to read since I don't think I bother formatting it.
Starting at the beginning, I have always been very insecure about myself, maybe it was the toxic parent I have cut out of my life, maybe it was being fucked with in school because I was fat, maybe it was lack of validation but I know that it's always been like that. For a brief period in my life it actually wasn't the case for once and I was by far the happiest I've ever been I think. Only thing that changed was that when I looked in the mirror I genuinely liked what I saw. It feels incredibly stupid talking about this and part of the reason why I chose to bring it here. It was the hair that gave me the confidence and positive perecption of myself I feel I sought all this time. I found a haircut that I actually liked, like the one piece missing from the puzzle was finally there. I was completely and utterly satisfied with myself. Calling it vain wouldn't be wrong but it wasn't all there was. I was in love with who I had become, proud that all those hardships before had culminated in something worthwhile, the self hatred melted away and was glued to the past, to stay there for the rest of eternity. But life's wonderful sense of humor struck again, and decided that I should be the punchline. Washing away the soap from my body that morning, what was supposed to be a nice and relaxing shower, turned into concern that pushed my eyebrows so close together that you wouldn't be able to tell that there was still a gap between them. The water was up to my ankles and when I reached down to unclog the metal shield, in my hand appeared a fistful of hair. I don't remember when the first time was I had to do this in order to prevent my bathroom from being flooded, but each consecutive shower was not once exempt from that step. The temples were the first to show signs of this, becoming thinner and thinner. What once was a head of hair dense enough to make carpets, was disappearing day after day. I was crushed, it chewed me up, spit me out and smeared me over the pavement. Just as things were starting to go smooth, before I was fully able to catch my breath from the struggle of yesteryears, it was ripped away from me. I cried myself to sleep more times than I could count when it was getting really bad. Only managing to compose myself when i was forced to put on my shoes and go work my shift. Maybe I ws the fool for thinking that shit was finally taking a turn for the better. I was angry but I didn't know who I was angry at. I felt cheated and betrayed. Believeing in karma is something most people are surprised to hear I do, and most of the first months after this whole situation started, I was scouring my memory for a wrongdoing I partook in to deserve this. I had my moments in the past, but that was long ago and I have changed since then, deciding that I want to only do good for the sake of it long before any of this was even close to beginning. People I spoke to about this often comment that my new shaved hair looks great, thinking that would make me feel better, and while I do appreciate the effort, it does not have the desired effect. I think it looks horrible, I hate it and I want my fucking hair back. I liked how it looked and didn't care much for others then, same as I dont do it now. I don't wanna feel like this anymore but I just dont know what to do anymore. I've been to doctors who think they can fix it but nothing seems to be working. I feel like what are supposed to be the best years of my life, are going down the drain because I feel like complete ass all the fucking time. I can count the times i went out without a hat on one hand, I dont wanna be seen like this, jesus chirst I hate it so fucking much. I dont know if I will ever be at peace with this and its been fucking with my mind for the past two years almost. I'm at my fucking limit here and dont know how much more i can take. Nobody is kicking me harder than I am myself and I cant remember the last time someone had a negative remark about me. Im not suicidal and dont plan on ever being. But what will happen when i finally do snap? I just wanna go back to when none of this was happening and stay there forever. I'm sick of feeling like this and will just take anything to make me forget about it just for a few hours. I spent the entire last week amped out of my fucking mind just so I could take a fucking break. I'm done with everthing and simply wanna go back to enjoying life, is that really too much to ask? I need help but dont know where i can get it. I cant afford a therapist, i barely afford the meds my doc is giving me. Im scared that i will feel like this forever, that i will never have the courage to do what i want to because of it, that even the people who love me now are going to leave me once they had enough. I dont understand why this is happening and know there isnt an explanation for it thats gonna be what i want it to be. I dont know what else to say other than that its pathetic and that im putting too much value into looks. I hate that i feel like that because of it, my emotional and mental state dont feel like an appropriate response, like they are not justified in proportion to what is happening. I dont know anymore and i am on the verge of completley giving up, cutting everyone out of my life and spending the rest of my days couped up alone in this tiny apartment.