I don’t know how I could have managed with these changes in my life before DBT without getting depressed and then doing nothing but being desperate as currently I live in my fiancee’s apartment although I have a house of my own.
This is because although we have four cars atm my fiancee doesn’t have driver’s license and there are just a single bus that goes from the road I have my house nearby and it goes to the community center at 8am and comes back at 4pm so if I wouldn’t be able to drive her to get her ORT drug she would have to hop into that bus and then change bus and sit some 50minutes until it reaches to the nearest city where she lives and gets her ORT drug three times a week (unless UA is positive for something and then it is again 7 times a week for a while) and wait for another bus to go back to the community center and wait for that 4pm bus that drives nearby my house.
It would be a shitty day because of logistical nightmare.
Therefore I live in my fiancee’s apartment (and we are moving into another apartment next monday) but I can’t officially announce that I live in that apartment as it would mean that our social system would judge us as a pair and it means that my income would be her income as well and she wouldn’t be able to get compensations for living costs or social compensations at all.
That means that my ORT treatment can’t be at the same clinic as she goes to but instead in the community center near my house as I still officially live there.
That means I have to drive 50km and back three times a week (and when my UA is positive it is 7 times a week.). And as some of you know all of my cars are gas guzzlers it means it costs quite a lot and also the drug I am currently on also isn’t covered by our national healthcare it costs quite a bit too as well as it is time consuming to drive around and around.
Some asshole also came right in front of me from a junction totalling my BMW 740 and she had stop sign so she is going to pay for (or actually her insurance) but my lovely BMW that I have cared so much and have been waiting to be able to get museum registered won’t be driveable for a while if ever. (Actually I drove my car back from the scene to my house but her SUV was in a totally undriveable condition
BMWs are made from real steel it seems.)
I also got a permission to teach driving and we have been doing some basic stuff like getting known to car and getting move and changing gears (as well as using automatic gearboxes as three of our cars have automatic transmission although it is very rare here in Finland for some reasons.) as well as driving around parking lots and private roads. It has been quite fun but also a bit explosive sometimes
She is going to real teacher’s classes soon also as we decided it would be best if someone ”neutral” would be teaching the most important stuff.
She is about to bloom with car enthuasism soon as she has been using sentences such as ”The gear ratio in Sebring seems a lot different than that in Journey in a way that Sebring would win a quarter mile”.
My own house has been AirBnB’d for a while and it gives some extra money every now and then to cover up those costs that come from driving to get my drugs.
