With all due respect, it is not alright to blame the victim for an alleged sexual assault.
The fact that a victim may have been stoned, drunk, drugged, passed out, or asleep is never a legal defense to unconsensual sexual contact with that person. I'm assuming the person most involved with this is not reading this thread. Regardless, I hope she has gotten some kind of outside support by this point.
But being CONSENSUALLY stoned, drunk, or drugged and showing consent (and later realizing what happened) is a different story. (Passed out or asleep is a different story, as consent cannot be obtained at all. Inebriated consent is still consent - so long as the state of inebriation was voluntarily entered.)
Legally there are only a few things to consider; "Was she consious during the sex?" (blacked out - was she passed out, or just doesn't remember?) and
"Was it consensual at the time?" - regardless if that consent was acquired through personal choice, or personal choice to use drugs/alcohol eliminating inhibitions one has while sober and reducing one's reasoning abilities.
I'm backing Ryan in this one - if she consented to the drug use, and had sex willingly on drugs, even though she would not have willingly had sex sober (and realized she made a mistake after sobering up), she did consent and this wasn't rape.
Revoking consent after sobering up from a voluntarily entered altered state of mind doesn't make the issue "rape" at the time it happened.
As for giving her the drugs, that's a different story - but the minor in possession charges for the alcohol aren't going to help her case any... presuming she brings one.
There are 2 questions that need answered; Did she take the drugs willingly, and did she consent to have sex at the time it happened. If both are answered affirmatively, the act itself was not rape.
Morally there are other considerations, but they aren't
legal considerations.
If consensual drug/alcohol use doesn't apply to minors, then I'm not sure about that, but since they were both minors, I don't see how it should be different than 2 adults.
Legally, the alcohol and drug things are a separate issue, and bringing this case to court could lead to many unintended consequences as both parties are guilty of drug crimes and were minors in possession of alcohol.
While it isn't right to blame the victim, she could end up in serious legal trouble bringing this case to court...
Which invalidates any claim of the state that the drug laws serve to protect anyone.
I'll second the counseling thing, and tack on drug counseling as something to consider as well.
Once in a while alcohol and drug use is ok (from a completely moral perspective - legally, not so much) - but completely losing yourself due to drug use and ending up in these kinds of situations is something that should be seriously considered as having abuse potential.
The xanex was a first - what about drinking? Is this habitual behavior, or a one-off thing that she never should have been involved in?