I don't understand "pro-life" arguments at all.
You don't have to understand it. The problem isn't people not understanding it. The problem is people making arguments that any logical person could see obviously won't apply in a pro life value set. You don't have to understand how you came to a pro life value set to grasp it.
For example when pro choicers try to argue that pro lifers don't have a right to apply it to other people. Well indeed they don't, but only if you already accept that there is no life beyond the mothers at that point to begin with. If you do that argument falls apart. It's no different from saying I think murder is wrong but don't have a right to apply it to anyone else.
Anyways. Obviously this is something that would be a much greater problem for a straight man who is pro life. It doesn't really apply if you're a pro life straight female. But imagining it. I would have a problem with it too because if my own pro life values. I mean, I'm a fairly moderate pro lifer, I don't really try and force it on others and I don't accept the argument that abortion is murder. Even if only because it can't be murder where the murderer didn't know they were killing anyone.
But I can understand how difficult it would be. If I were a straight guy, I doubt I could have a relationship with a pro choice woman where there is a risk of future pregnancy. And honestly, I don't think you should have to understand the pro life argument to appreciate that either.
I could explain all the reasons I'm pro life to you assuming I haven't before, and I highly doubt it would change your mind. But it really shouldn't matter.
It's one thing when you're talking about if being pro choice or pro life is logically or reasonably a legitimate point of view. But if all you're talking about is the wider implications of the view, understanding it's origins are largely irrelivent. All that matters is some of us do rightly or wrongly honestly and selflessly believe that human life or at least right to continued life begins at conception. As soon as you can accept that even if you disagree with it you should be able to appreciate why most of us can't just leave it alone and not let it matter in wider social life.
That's the part that most upsets me, that pro choicers show such contempt and disrespect for pro life beliefs. I understand why, it's a very emotive issue for everyone. An unfortunate and usually completely honest difference of opinion on such a simple matter that has such enormous ramifications. But despite that don't feel any ill will towards anyone for their beliefs on this. It's a very profound question about a subject we still don't have a completely clear idea about. What life is, what consciousness is, the nature of existence, and most importantly, when and how it begins.
I understand that people of a pro choice belief set are honestly standing up for a reasoned and understandable belief about free choice, a political stance that I normally show extreme loyalty towards. I'd love to be able to be pro choice. And to be honest. I hope I'm wrong. I want the pro choicers to be right because everyone would be better off that way. But I've given it a lot of thought and I simply can't support it.
The best I can do is stay out of it. And honestly even in that I find myself questioning if that's morally right. Because if I believe life begins at conception, or again, that at least the protections of sentient life begin then, then how can I justify not taking a stronger stance to try and actually stop people having abortions. I know why I don't, because I know they honestly don't see what they're doing. Because I know that the choice to have an abortion for most is not an easy one. I worry how outlawing it will have side effects that could put the mothers life at risk too. And because it's hard to want to do things that hurt innocent people alive and here now for the sake of someone who can't yet speak for themselves. But then I also think perhaps that's all the more reason I should.
Honestly I hate all of it. Nothing but hurt feelings and anger all around from every side where everyone thinks they're doing the right thing.
Anyways. Like I said. You don't need to be able to understand coming to the belief to understand how having said belief affects people and their relationships in the world. And given that this is SLR and not CE&P. That's probably all that matters.