He got lucky. I've met a fair few people who have described what the scene was like back then to me and it sounds horrific what wes going on. Just a blur and it was like half the guys around you are dropping like flies. I'm glad it's not such a big deal today. For the most part, if you take your meds you're going to be undetectable.
He has not really changed. He likes being fucked hard, rough, and raw/unsafe, by dominant jocks, with no barriers, and no shame. I actually saw his profile on A4A, and he claimed to be on the Truvada but I know he is not on it. But he is an adult, and knows how to have safe sex and his one excuse of being allergic to latex does not work as there are condoms that are not made out of latex and they are not those icky lamb intestine ones that apparently just barely prevent pregnancy.
What is your age/age range? People are still getting infected with HIV and dying from HIV/AIDS. I am almost 40 and I knew people in my age group who became HIV+ and who had AIDS but luckily got tested, started medications and are doing better, and I know multiple people who died from AIDS.
The 'undetectable=untransmissive' campaign/PSA/theory is not accurate. There have been people who were on Truvada/prep and took it daily but got infected with HIV-which is what I have been told will happen eventually if someone has unsafe sex with lots of people or with someone that is HIV+ and if condoms are not used.
The prep/Truvada/descovy is maybe at best 70% effective, it does not work on all strains or other STDs, and the TV ads say to use condoms with it but almost everyone I know that has taken it or who is now on it does not do this, or unsafe anal sex slip ups made them start taking it and they figure it is fine not to use condoms. But if someone is on antivirals or HIV meds unsafe sex with other people who are HIV+ makes the medications less effective at preventing infection/transmission.
A friend of mine who has been living with HIV since the early 1980s only has sex and dates other HIV+ men, condoms are used so as not to make their meds stop working, or risk reinfection or infecting each other with other strains of HIV. My friend does not date or have sex with men that are HIV-, that say they are neg but really do not know, or who are on prep/Truvada/descovy as most men on prep want unsafe sex or were having unsafe sex before it became available and was super agressively marketed as a replacement for condoms, the new safe sex, etc. My friend has been on all of the meds and they all have not so pleasant short and long term side effects.
Also being undetectable is not a permanent state. My friend has taken meds daily for decades, has safe sex, and is otherwise healthy, does not use any drugs or even drink alcohol or smoke pot, but depending on the blood test he has done one type will show him as being 'undetectable' but another type shows him as being 'detectable'.
I read some article or study that said how people who have HIV who are on meds can test undetectable but that HIV transmission/infection still happened because condoms were not used, and despite taking medications daily they were not undetectable or did not stay this way.