attempt4
Bluelighter
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I, along with my mother, am completely at my wit's end.
I will spare you the details, but long story short, she married a cunt (my father) who abused her and me, cheated on her, fucked her over and left her to bring up 2 boys in a scary new place much bigger than the wee place we lived before.
Then she met a policeman (who I ALWAYS knew was a snake, I could tell from his fucking slimy eyes) who claimed to be this saving grace, a great guy etc. Turns out he lied INCESSANTLY about this gambling problem he has that is the REAL cause of his ex-wife leaving him. He told us it was because she cheated, and he made out he was this poor guy but nope, he stole £40,000 from her and gambled it away, made a grovelling apology that he had changed and lo and behold, he did it again.
Then he met my poor, stressed, abused mother and painted himself as this great guy who could support her. Turns out, after 8 years marriage, he actually lied about taking mortgage cheques to the bank, invented some guy at the bank called "Gavin" that he has been speaking with when actually he was gambling it. He has now stolen over £100,000 from the value of the house. This was the only thing my mum had to rely on for later in life. She works 40 hours a week at minimum wage and has no savings....she had to bring up 2 boys on her own remember? He has taken out loans in my mother's name, credit cards in what few friends he had left's name and completely lied and fucked us over.
So anyway....I just don't know what to do with this. I didn't know where to put this thread, I just really need help, and so does my mother.
The jist is this:
She can't afford the mortgage on her own (600 a month) so she has HAD to take him back in the house after throwing him out. He made a grovelling apology, claimed he has changed, put on a few waterworks and managed to convince my mother that he had indeed changed.
Now, my mother wants to move back home to Orkney where the remainder of her family, her support, her few friends and she can be free of the shackles of all of this fuckery. However, she just found out this morning that once again, he has lied about making 2 mortgage payments and instead pocketed the cash. This is fucking sick, and I will genuinely kill the cunt next time I see him. I'm actually slightly worried about the next time I see him. I went to stab the little ugly cunt when I originally found out about this, and I can assure you I am NEVER violent, I just can't stand anybody taking the piss out of my mother. After what she has been through, she deserves the fucking world.
So anyway....what we need is this:
The bank to not repossess the house but we cant magically find £1200 for the 2 late mortgage payments. He is away for work just now, but she doesn't want him back. Though, how can we afford this mortgage on our own? I only work part-time currently and she has had to cut her hours due to stress, plus she only gets minimum wage (which is fucking disgraceful for a care worker).
She needs to find the strength to know she can do this move back to Orkney. She is almost 50 and is now saying she is too tired to do the move, she can't do it, she doesn't have the strength even though she knows it's the right thing. I keep trying to reinforce her strength but it's difficult. She has been through so much - like her sister driving off a cliff to commit suicide, abusive ex-husband, my brother's dad running away as soon as he found out she was pregnant, both her parents dying when she was really young, being horrendously bullied at school, all of this shit, being cheated on constantly and having a druggie son put her through loads of stress (me).
We just dont know what to do, how to get out of this trap we are in. I don't even know how anybody here could help....I just don't know about how to get around this. I don't know much about mortgages and shit. She is worried about being homeless, so she has to keep this guy living here which is one of the main problems. But there aren't swathes of homeless middle-aged women on the streets so there must be some financial support available, but where?
God, what a mess.
Thanks for reading, brothers and sisters.
C
I will spare you the details, but long story short, she married a cunt (my father) who abused her and me, cheated on her, fucked her over and left her to bring up 2 boys in a scary new place much bigger than the wee place we lived before.
Then she met a policeman (who I ALWAYS knew was a snake, I could tell from his fucking slimy eyes) who claimed to be this saving grace, a great guy etc. Turns out he lied INCESSANTLY about this gambling problem he has that is the REAL cause of his ex-wife leaving him. He told us it was because she cheated, and he made out he was this poor guy but nope, he stole £40,000 from her and gambled it away, made a grovelling apology that he had changed and lo and behold, he did it again.
Then he met my poor, stressed, abused mother and painted himself as this great guy who could support her. Turns out, after 8 years marriage, he actually lied about taking mortgage cheques to the bank, invented some guy at the bank called "Gavin" that he has been speaking with when actually he was gambling it. He has now stolen over £100,000 from the value of the house. This was the only thing my mum had to rely on for later in life. She works 40 hours a week at minimum wage and has no savings....she had to bring up 2 boys on her own remember? He has taken out loans in my mother's name, credit cards in what few friends he had left's name and completely lied and fucked us over.
So anyway....I just don't know what to do with this. I didn't know where to put this thread, I just really need help, and so does my mother.
The jist is this:
She can't afford the mortgage on her own (600 a month) so she has HAD to take him back in the house after throwing him out. He made a grovelling apology, claimed he has changed, put on a few waterworks and managed to convince my mother that he had indeed changed.
Now, my mother wants to move back home to Orkney where the remainder of her family, her support, her few friends and she can be free of the shackles of all of this fuckery. However, she just found out this morning that once again, he has lied about making 2 mortgage payments and instead pocketed the cash. This is fucking sick, and I will genuinely kill the cunt next time I see him. I'm actually slightly worried about the next time I see him. I went to stab the little ugly cunt when I originally found out about this, and I can assure you I am NEVER violent, I just can't stand anybody taking the piss out of my mother. After what she has been through, she deserves the fucking world.
So anyway....what we need is this:
The bank to not repossess the house but we cant magically find £1200 for the 2 late mortgage payments. He is away for work just now, but she doesn't want him back. Though, how can we afford this mortgage on our own? I only work part-time currently and she has had to cut her hours due to stress, plus she only gets minimum wage (which is fucking disgraceful for a care worker).
She needs to find the strength to know she can do this move back to Orkney. She is almost 50 and is now saying she is too tired to do the move, she can't do it, she doesn't have the strength even though she knows it's the right thing. I keep trying to reinforce her strength but it's difficult. She has been through so much - like her sister driving off a cliff to commit suicide, abusive ex-husband, my brother's dad running away as soon as he found out she was pregnant, both her parents dying when she was really young, being horrendously bullied at school, all of this shit, being cheated on constantly and having a druggie son put her through loads of stress (me).
We just dont know what to do, how to get out of this trap we are in. I don't even know how anybody here could help....I just don't know about how to get around this. I don't know much about mortgages and shit. She is worried about being homeless, so she has to keep this guy living here which is one of the main problems. But there aren't swathes of homeless middle-aged women on the streets so there must be some financial support available, but where?
God, what a mess.
Thanks for reading, brothers and sisters.
C
