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Overcoming Premature Ejaculation

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cheesewiz

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So I tend to bust a nut fairly quickly. Like 5 minutes but sometimes I can go 10 minutes. I have good technique and I have no problem giving a girl an orgasm if I can last long enough. I have a good sized dick not to big not to small and can be fairly adventurous. But there are times were I just cant satisfy the girl I am with. My past girlfriend did not mind at all because she was super sensitive. In 5-10 minutes she would cum 3 times so going any longer she tends to dry up and get tired. But there are some girls that like to go like 30 minutes plus. When I take opiates I can fuck forever but it just sucks cause I cant cum. So I have a question for the ladies. Would you like it if I just got you off from eating you out and finger blasting you? And then when you have climaxed at least once I put it in? Cause I hate it when I cannot satisfy the women I am with. It gets me really self-conscious. Oh and how long do you girls like to have sex for, how long is to long?
 
I feel the same way man, sucks. Opiates do the trick, but that's not really a good solution long term.

I can get my girl off every time going down on her, then proceed to enter her and cum while she's still cumming, and that can be satisfying but also demoralizing knowing i just spent 10-15 mins pleasuring her so I could pathetically ride the coattails of her orgasm with my own 20 seconds of fame. Granted, I can last longer when she's not cumming and pussy tightened up as it does during orgasm, but still.

Also, sometimes my girl just wants me to fuck her, not go down and finger her. She wants the cock. And I would more than happily eat her out, but that's not as satisfying to her. I feel so powerless sometimes to cum and feel like I disappoint her and myself it's so frustrating!!!! Ugh. Good thing I have some norcos. Fuck.
 
whenever im about to cum a lil too early i jus pull out n eat her out. i then repeat this.
 
I find amps help with lasting longer aswell as making orgasm enhanced.

Dunno how often you bust a nut, but you should look into a teqnique called edging. Basically keep trying to get yourself off and right before your about to blow, stop, then repeat. You'll find overtime that its actually enjoyable as fuck to do that rather than just going up up up and bam, where instead you can almost reach that peak, then drop it a tiny, and keep bouncing back and forth! It trains you to be able to have a shit ton more control aswell.
 
not a girl but i'll chime in!

Like an earlier poster said - I tend to pull out if I think I'm going to cum too early and just eat her out or finger her. As for duration, in my experience it always varies from girl to girl. Some like extended hour long sessions some like quickies and some are dependent on the situation at hand.
 
i was reading somewhere a lot of PE is psychological, originating from how we masturbate. as a youth if we were taught it was wrong or didnt want anyone bursting in us jerking our lil wankers, we finished as fast as we could. thats transitioned into our sex lives. so you gotta teach yourself to stop and go when you do masturbate so that you change your perception of orgasms and sex
 
If it makes you really self conscious - work on making that 10 minutes 20 minutes. That's by using good techniques.
cheesewiz said:
So I tend to bust a nut fairly quickly. Like 5 minutes but sometimes I can go 10 minutes. I have good technique and I have no problem giving a girl an orgasm if I can last long enough. I have a good sized dick not to big not to small and can be fairly adventurous. But there are times were I just cant satisfy the girl I am with. My past girlfriend did not mind at all because she was super sensitive. In 5-10 minutes she would cum 3 times so going any longer she tends to dry up and get tired. But there are some girls that like to go like 30 minutes plus. When I take opiates I can fuck forever but it just sucks cause I cant cum. So I have a question for the ladies. Would you like it if I just got you off from eating you out and finger blasting you? And then when you have climaxed at least once I put it in? Cause I hate it when I cannot satisfy the women I am with. It gets me really self-conscious. Oh and how long do you girls like to have sex for, how long is to long?
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Dude as long as you care if a girl cums before you do, then you should be golden with most gals. Especially if you eat em out!

Seriously I had that problem a few years ago, and I just made foreplay a bigger deal - then start fucking, and if they're the type of gal that takes a while to get gushing wet and therefore takes a while to cum too, then if you cum, make sure you eaat them out, or one I found to be quite good - when ya cum, keep it in, make sure she's on top and get her to grind you hard - she should get there nicely before you go soft ;)

Mainly I would concentrate on techniques to make that 10 mins 20 on average, sometimes longer.
 
Yeah, once you start to feel it coming on, pull out and "edge." In other words, allow yourself to reset. I've found if I try to edge while still inside, my girl will usually end up squeezing with her unit, or move or wiggle and that's usually that. Plus, she likes to be teased/tortured with the take it out, asks for it, put it back, thing.
Unless you feel like you're only gonna be able to pop once, get yourself off before you know you guys are gonna go at it. Lessens or takes you off that borderline, where you're more then set to go and all horned up.
More than anything, don't psych yourself out ahead of time. No, "Fuck, I hope I don't do it AGAIN!" type shit. Work on your techniques, relax, be confident, and the problem(if you can even call it that) will fade, in time.
 
B1tO'RoughJack said:
If it makes you really self conscious - work on making that 10 minutes 20 minutes. That's by using good techniques.

Dude as long as you care if a girl cums before you do, then you should be golden with most gals. Especially if you eat em out!

Seriously I had that problem a few years ago, and I just made foreplay a bigger deal - then start fucking, and if they're the type of gal that takes a while to get gushing wet and therefore takes a while to cum too, then if you cum, make sure you eaat them out, or one I found to be quite good - when ya cum, keep it in, make sure she's on top and get her to grind you hard - she should get there nicely before you go soft ;)

Mainly I would concentrate on techniques to make that 10 mins 20 on average, sometimes longer.
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aka watch porn
 
I used to have this problem but I noticed a huge improvement when i stopped using mdma. Now that I rarely take any drugs (maybe twice a year) I'm going for 20 minutes on average.

B1tO'RoughJack said:
Dude as long as you care if a girl cums before you do, then you should be golden with most gals. Especially if you eat em out!

Seriously I had that problem a few years ago, and I just made foreplay a bigger deal - then start fucking, and if they're the type of gal that takes a while to get gushing wet and therefore takes a while to cum too, then if you cum, make sure you eaat them out, or one I found to be quite good - when ya cum, keep it in, make sure she's on top and get her to grind you hard - she should get there nicely before you go soft ;)
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and this.
 
cheesewiz said:
So I tend to bust a nut fairly quickly. Like 5 minutes but sometimes I can go 10 minutes. I have good technique and I have no problem giving a girl an orgasm if I can last long enough. I have a good sized dick not to big not to small and can be fairly adventurous. But there are times were I just cant satisfy the girl I am with. My past girlfriend did not mind at all because she was super sensitive. In 5-10 minutes she would cum 3 times so going any longer she tends to dry up and get tired. But there are some girls that like to go like 30 minutes plus. When I take opiates I can fuck forever but it just sucks cause I cant cum. So I have a question for the ladies. Would you like it if I just got you off from eating you out and finger blasting you? And then when you have climaxed at least once I put it in? Cause I hate it when I cannot satisfy the women I am with. It gets me really self-conscious. Oh and how long do you girls like to have sex for, how long is to long?
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^ ask the girl you're with, I'm sure she'd love the idea.
 
Yo man fuck that premature ejaculation shit. It's like what Dave Chappelle said: "If I come it was RIGHT ON TIME".
 
MrSpeedyG said:
Try think about random shit if you need to aswell haha
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This is really good advice! When I feel like I am about to cum and I want to keep it going, I have this thing where I count to 100 in my head the long way and then backwards (ie: "1 one thousand 2 one thousand 3 one thousand" etc)...it works for me! :)
 
"Finger blasting" lol. okay, I'd advise you to speak to your partner and find out for sure what makes her cum. Most women enjoy clitoral orgasm, so possibly focus on giving your partner a couple of clit orgasms before penetration. The majority of women find orgasm through penetration quite difficult. Read up on some of the best oral techniques and spend some good quality time on oral. Not just at the start of sex, during foreplay...there's nothing wrong with starting with some good oral foreplay at the beginning, a little penetration, then returning to the oral when you feel you might bust a nut. There's no 'proper' way to fuck, except the way that's going to satisfy your partner - which is an enjoyable learning curve. :)

Happy humping...
 
You can try a lot of things to help this..

If you are not using condoms DO.. if you are find a thinker one..

Try a desalinization....they make lubes, gels and creams for this.. a dap on the head does the trick..

Cock rings... the ones for the glands, the base or around the cock and balls.. find out what one works for you.

Pulling down on your balls if you start to feel it coming on.. HARD...Pull HARD..

Pulling out and squeezing the gland (aka the head) pretty hard then starting back at it..

you can mix and match pretty much all of this and help to train your self to last longer..
 
masturbating slower/edging + kegels will take care of everything...
 
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masturbating slower/edging + kegels will take care of everything...
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That there is THE #1 thing you can do. I spend this summer training my PB muscle 10x per day until I could no more and lasting is no longer a problem. However, it does take at least 12 weeks of DAILY practicing for it to work. You can practice at any convenient time - when driving to work, watching TV, etc.

Also, SSRI's can help, but they can also cause inorgasmia. Opiates lower testosterone and IMHO orgasms on opiates SUCK.
 
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