I apologize in advance for the length of my post here but I do feel like I have a good amount of personal experience with the subject. I had a great deal of experience with opiates and sex because I have been taking opiates more than half my life and basically daily for going on close with no intention to stop taking opiates due to chronic pain and no intentions of letting my sex life go to shit because I like sex and I have found that the key to a good sex life is to be honest with yourself and your partner.
This is a subject I have dealt with for a long time and persevered so I am sharing what helped and helps my sex life and am here to help with the dialogue and share my experiences as well as hear what other people have to say because even those who know a bit more can always learn something new. I personally feel I have been able to help women I dated/fucked/where friends with on this subject irl.
I don't really have any male friends and seeing how I am straight I often end up sleeping with my female friends... I am not going to derail and detract from this thread by going on about my sex life past what I already said. If anyone wants to know how I manage to sleep with a female friend and still stay friends they can ask me later.
Right, so over a decade of daily opiate use and being rather sexually active my whole life I know a bit or two about both and I am not about to let my sex life go to shit and I do not find there is any miracle drug that makes things better so much as finding an understanding of the situation. As far as drugs that helped me, vitamins are as far as I am going into that with this post.
I know that some and it seems most opiate users I know can't have an orgasm on opiates, I can.
I did notice that once I stopped taking oxycodone and oxymorphone which I was rx'd, I had a bit of a growth spurt, my feet grew (had to get new shoes), I got a bit taller even, my testicles definitely increased in size, and I actually had growing pains in my legs.
It took me a while to realize that it was most likely due to the oxy type medications that seem to suppress testosterone more than other opiates because I switched to a weaker class of opiates and my sex drive increased rather quickly.
So it depends on the medication sometimes, the dose for sure, and I never found skipping my morning dose to really help because I would still be in withdrawal too much to really want to fuck and the same for the women I was sleeping with. I have held off on a dose till after sex and that works.
It doesn't hurt to get more exercise as for me that seems to nullify some of the side effects of opiates. So maybe, just a theory but I think exercise might get things working better, exercise is always something that improves your health.
Opiates to cause a vitamin deficiency, at least according to my dentist who told me I had a B vitamin deficiency and once I started taking B vitamins (B-100 complex is what I think is the best) my gums got better along with my skin, hair, nails, and my energy levels skyrocketed. I saw it more as a transition back to how I was before opiates took their toll because I was starting to get weak and have some dental problems.
So, making sure to keep you dose balanced, eating healthy, and exercise all seemed to work in my favor in terms of maintaining my health and I would feel rather comfortable to conclude your overall health does affect your sex drive. No one can really dispute that as your doctor will tell you the same thing.
Also, I don't know if anyone mentioned this but (this is rather subjective as it is my opinion and mainly backed up by rather anciet oriental medicine regarding mostly opium and I am not sure if modern medicine backs it up but it my case I truly believe that to be that case) the theory that most damage to your body from opiates results from withdrawal, so don't put yourself in that position by taking your medication improperly, I am not suggesting doing more opiates but if you find yourself going through withdrawal on a regular basis, you might find yourself having some health problems as withdrawal can be rather extremely brutal on the body and mind, at least for myself.
I have suffered from extreme weight loss, fatigue, temporary depression and so on due to fluctuations in my dose, abusing my medication in the past, and as a result of running out of medication, and susequntly getting dopesick to cause a myriad of malaise and well the addiction part to make me lose interest in sex as I was feeling way to shitty for intercourse and during those time periods either I would service myself, my gf and I would masturbate one another as we could barely move or my parnter would go score some dope to end the withdrawal and I had one gf who would expect sex if she was to get me medication or dope to which I was more than happy to oblige at the time.
That being said I do not like to put myself in the position of going through withdrawal and I found the only way for me to do that was to get the right medication for myself, take it as properly as possible, and avoid things like needles as that skyrocketed my dependence on opiates. I have never had serious drug addiction problems and I am not sure as I consider myself a drug addict as I find opiate dependent to make much more sense to me as my desire to take opiates these days is based on the fact that I have some very serious problems with chronic pain and no one can take opiates in large amounts without becoming phsycially dependent.
Everyone's body is different and I often find myself having quite different reactions to drugs than others. For example uppers usually would come me down. I found oxycodone to actually kinda give me energy and in some cases actually aroused (same deal with coke, which I have had other men tell me makes them limp) when taking it with women I slept with. I am not saying oxy is an aphrodisiac by any means just simply pointing out there is no one size fits all solution to opiates, the problems may cause, and the same goes for just about any substance.
So I can say for sure a healthier and more active lifestyle helped with my sex drive and does as the more physically active I am the more I want to have sex.
As far as what vitamins I take, nothing extravagant: Men's mulitvitamin, Vitamin C, Vitamin E (once a week) and B-100 complex. I don't get colds or the flu if I take vitamin C and haven't had the flu in about 14 years. B vitamins cured gingivitis for me but I still take it because I found it helped with other things and I already said the benifits.
As far as I know from the research I put into vitamins that large doses of B and C vitamins are fine but vitamin E you can definitely take too much.
Now I am not a doctor and am not going to bother putting up sources for the information on vitamins and my drug experiences are my own and everyone reacts differently to drugs so I really want my post to be taken with a grain of salt. I can only provide what I know to be true in my case and what I know to be true due to medical reasearch done by doctors and such.
I actually encourage everyone in general not to believe everything the read as the debate on whether or not whether eggs are a healthy food or not seems to change from a definitive yes to a definitive no and I am just using that as an example.
Also, your sex drive might not be related to anything other than maybe your partner no longer is attractive to you or if the "spark" or "majic" is still there. So that being said it can't hurt to spice things up with different positions and other things along those lines, for example maybe a bit of foreplay could change things.
Last but not least, I do notice that it seems the longer you have sex the harder it is to climax so finding that sweet spot as to when you cum is important. I do notice that between 20-60 minutes seems to be the window of when I can cum at the latest. So usually right after the woman cums I go ahead and finish up so to speak asap because I want to get mine too.
I find it important for my sexual partners to get off, but that is part of what gets me off. If I have sex with a women who is selfish in the bedroom sometimes I just say fuck it and get mine as fast as possible every other time I have sex with that woman.
That being said maybe it is your partner, I won't stay with a woman who is sexually selfish to the point of where she isn't concerned about whether or not I get off or a woman who doesn't seem to care about getting off because that is a sure sign she just wants to get pregnant or just has some sexual issues and I personally don't want to be with someone who has issues with sex in that manner, as in they don't really have orgasms and do not think they will.
I have had plenty of women tell me they can't get off on opiates and proven them wrong. There is nothing that is a bigger turn off then a woman telling me I am not going to cum, I find it repulsive that she would think she knows my body better than me. When I am about to cum it takes a while to build up so I suppose there is a certain point where I know I am going to cum soon if I keep going and yeah it can take a few minutes from there and so if I say I am about to cum it might be several minutes later, not several seconds.
Also some people hide their kinks and well I find communication key because sometimes people are into things that are not exactly taboo but frowned upon like even rough sex I found some chicks lie about liking but eventually admit it and then things get better.
I remember a conversation I had with a woman I dated about a year ago and the first time we had sex was just awful and then we talked a bit and it turned out we shared alot of kinks and she just was scared to be open about it and I don't blame her as some of it is stuff that would freak some people out and I am not even talking about something that heavy duty but it is something that can be considered heavy duty depending on the degree of it.
My point is that once we communicated about what we were into, the sex went from shitty for me, but ok to her, to very good for both parties. Afterwards we both were so glad we discussed the issue. I suppose that type of conversation you need to be willing to not pass judgement but people often do anyways.
You don't want to lie to yourself about how drugs affect your body and you don't want to lie about your partner as to what you like and don't like as that would be doing both of you a great disservice and there are people who lie their who lives to themselves and others about what they want in terms of sex and often times they find out way longer than they had to that maybe that someone else even their partner is afraid to discuss various kinks due to fear of judgement and I am not even that kinky but all the same I have experimented around enough to know what I fancy and do not fancy.
