Lucy20
Ex-Bluelighter
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- Feb 20, 2019
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@Lucy20 you seem serious about this guy, which is great. However, I just wanted to add the viewpoint that his kid isn’t just for summer, this kid is forever.
Right now it’s just the summer, but that could change for any number of reasons. If you stay with this guy, then you will end up being a caregiver/role model for his son, possibly year round.
I’m all about a kid having as many positive role models as possible, just tbc. I guess it’s just a question of how you feel about being committed to both of them.
Keep a place to go to for a breather; the kid does sound like a handful.
I have to admit that as much as i love him i am also questioning if its something i could do and be happy for it. Taking on a well behaved child is alot. One with issues is hard.
The kid needs stability and right now the mother isn't giving that so the father has to. I couldn't love a man who didn't want the best for his child. He is almost as new to this as me so he is still learning
We have talked about boundaries, common respect and behavior and my boyfriend is trying, but he is not being 100% committed to it. He says he wants to slowly start discipline (take away games/time out) because of the situation and he is scared of his son thinking he is mean. It has to be consistent through but i don't really have much say
I want this to work but it is hard because i don't know my place yet. I won't discipline the kid unless im told to. I don't want to overstep.
Confusing situation thats for sure