Rantanplan
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Hello there,
I would like to ask, what I can do, because my Dad (stepfather) is running into a major depression.
But before you will say the next logical thing - he refuses to go to a doctor.
Background:
He used to drink a lot of beer in his life (but not at work and mostly at the weekend). He is tall and always a friendly person. Even when he was heavily drunk, he never got angry. Okay, two times it happend in 15 years, when he raises his voice and was very harsch - but that was all. So at no time his family, or his job, or whatever had a bad time with him.
In the last half year he began to drink less and less. Sure he had his time when he was drunk, but not so often anymore. So his wife (my mom) is still often drunk, when he is not. And in the last months he began to seem like really depressed.
Today I was there for Sunday eating and I realized again, that something is wrong with him. I ask him twice (when my Mom was not there), but he refused to speak about his situation.
And when he drove me back to my home, I told him again that I know, that he is running into a major depression and I offered my help. The only thing he said is, that it has nothing to do with my Mom (and me).
And while I am writing this I remembered that he told some months ago, that he lost his faith in humanity.
So I wrote this, that you have a some kind of picture of the situation.
What I know is (and what is clear), from the chemical brain side, that he lacks of serotonin. So what can I do?
I know that a doctor would be a good choice, but he refuses always to go to a doctor (even if he is injured, he is going always to late to doctor). So this is not an option.
To give a mind a rest, some kind of drugs is may be a way to go. He used to drink in the past, but he realized that it is not good for him and his healthiness, plus he is getting older (towards 60) so drinking is more exhausting than in younger days (this is what he said).
I used to smoke with him three times and he had some fun, but he was not really comfortable with it. At that time he said, a beer is better than a joint.
What kind of drug could he use to get a little rest of his depression? In the past I often talked to him about drugs, so this is not a unknown area to him.
I know is not good to give an advice in that situation over the internet, but anyway you could be possibly there and because of that, you can may be give an advice.
I would like to ask, what I can do, because my Dad (stepfather) is running into a major depression.
But before you will say the next logical thing - he refuses to go to a doctor.
Background:
He used to drink a lot of beer in his life (but not at work and mostly at the weekend). He is tall and always a friendly person. Even when he was heavily drunk, he never got angry. Okay, two times it happend in 15 years, when he raises his voice and was very harsch - but that was all. So at no time his family, or his job, or whatever had a bad time with him.
In the last half year he began to drink less and less. Sure he had his time when he was drunk, but not so often anymore. So his wife (my mom) is still often drunk, when he is not. And in the last months he began to seem like really depressed.
Today I was there for Sunday eating and I realized again, that something is wrong with him. I ask him twice (when my Mom was not there), but he refused to speak about his situation.
And when he drove me back to my home, I told him again that I know, that he is running into a major depression and I offered my help. The only thing he said is, that it has nothing to do with my Mom (and me).
And while I am writing this I remembered that he told some months ago, that he lost his faith in humanity.
So I wrote this, that you have a some kind of picture of the situation.
What I know is (and what is clear), from the chemical brain side, that he lacks of serotonin. So what can I do?
I know that a doctor would be a good choice, but he refuses always to go to a doctor (even if he is injured, he is going always to late to doctor). So this is not an option.
To give a mind a rest, some kind of drugs is may be a way to go. He used to drink in the past, but he realized that it is not good for him and his healthiness, plus he is getting older (towards 60) so drinking is more exhausting than in younger days (this is what he said).
I used to smoke with him three times and he had some fun, but he was not really comfortable with it. At that time he said, a beer is better than a joint.
What kind of drug could he use to get a little rest of his depression? In the past I often talked to him about drugs, so this is not a unknown area to him.
I know is not good to give an advice in that situation over the internet, but anyway you could be possibly there and because of that, you can may be give an advice.