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My partner has become a prude.....

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My partner and I have been together for a little over 3 years and I must say, for the most part and I genuinely mean for the most part, it has been a truly wonderful, happy and all together life changing experience.

We both met following a fairly messy divorce and by no means fell in love immediately but there was a very obvious attraction and an intense connection that is still very much alive. We now live together and still, our relationship continues to blossom.

It's not perfect by any means, but neither of us expect it to be and given what we have been through in terms of general life experiences and previous relationships, it makes us both very happy. And we both share that view as well as the many views I will share here.

The issue that promoted me to write this is one of a sexual nature...unsurprisingly. My partner is almost 10 years older than I am and that would naturally suggest that she is more sexually aware and experienced than I am, however, over the course of the time that I have known her and through very open communication and discussions, she has perhaps shared a fee too many stories of her sexual history to a point where I have had to say, c'mon love, I appreciate you feeling comfortable enough to share those experiences with me but I don't want nor need to hear the detail such as "he gave me a good seeing too" or "he pounded me" etc......over time she has done this less, but still, the memories of those actions and discussions come to my mind.

I am not a shy guy, and I am not sexually inexperienced and generally very open to most things. I am 40 and slept with 12 women, 4 of whom were long term relationships and one a friend. My other half on the other hand has slept with well over 100 and a.self confessed sex addict who opted for treatment to assist with her addiction. Since we have been together, I have discovered (not all through personal experience) her love of the same sex and have met a few of her female previous sexual partners, her love of watching two guys fuck and then share her together, her love of threesomes and gangbangs, her love of sucking cock and being pissed on to name but a few. How do I know this, well....she told me, a couple of her female friends have corroborated the stories, two of whom she begged me to have sex with BUT didn't and then I was kindly sent a video of her participating in a gangbang, where she was clearly the centre of attention doing all the things and clearly enjoying and enticing men to do to her such as anal, cum swapping, spanking, photographing, video taping, threesome with one cock in her mouth and one in her vagina and then the guy prepares her ass for his cock and then fuck her.......and all of which I say, okay......I would prefer not to have seen any of that, but now that I have, I cannot help but ask why (despite our great and regular sex life......we have sex at least 10 to 15 times a week and sometimes more ) why is she so reluctant to allow me to even touch her ass with my finger or tongue or even suck my cock when I have heard and seen her say that she loves anal and sucking cock?!

What am I to think? It's not as though this video or her exploits happened years before we met, more like months and weeks.......do I.assume that she feels guilty and wants to pit that part of her life behind her now that she has found "true love and happiness" or that I just don't simply do it for her in ways these other guys have despite her suggesting that I do more for her sexually than anyone ever has.

I'm confused, feeling a little low and just not sure what to do as she appears to have become very prudish and yet she watches hard core porn now and again where the porn stars are doing all the things that she did not long before we met.

Would appreciate sensible thoughts or suggestions.
 
My friends have told me about times where girls cheat and they will allow things they would never let them do like anal/get head. I beleive she doesnt truly enjoy doing them because theirs little pleasure for her BUT she does enjoy pleasing random people and that adds to the excitement so thats why she allows it at the time.. As for your problem im sorry i have no insight besides that but i wish you the best of luck.

In my experience those are the worst type of woman sorry to say
 
I'm not super clear on timing - rehab, prudishness - vs when you got together (which is 3 yrs ago). In my opinion (I should say in my experience, although much more limited) there a question of self-esteem here (or the lack thereof) and possibly her trying to build some?

While this may sound a little simplistic as an advice, I have found that humour is always good to talk to a partner about anything, and by the looks of it your relationship and (surely) both of you deserve a bit of talking things through. she might even be able to have a facilitator (aka therapist) guiding you through it.
 
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