Wow, thanks everyone
. I really appreciate all of the kind, understanding words. I've always used Bluelight for harm reduction info, but so nice to know it's also such a welcoming community for moral support
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TPD, that's a really good point. I think she means well. Her boyfriend is also an addict who recently relapsed and went back to rehab, so she may just be sick of all our bullshit, haha, you know? I haven't dropped the H bomb on her because people seriously freak out over heroin, especially IV heroin. I've just told her I'm back on opiates. But she did say a while ago that she has a hard time telling the difference between supporting and enabling, with both me and her boyfriend. So if I give her the benefit of the doubt, I think maybe she's just trying to avoid enabling me? But of course, support and communication never enabled anyone. And I really miss her. I always felt better after talking to her, and she's really nonjudgmental and compassionate. I think the fact that it all seems a little out-of-character makes it worse.
10YearsGone, that's so interesting that you say that. I've actually been told by multiple therapists that I have the same issue, everyone feeling like they're connected to me but me having such a hard time connecting back. As an super introvert, I don't have a *ton* of friends, but like 99% of the friends I have are people who seem to feel really connected to me even though, from my point of view, they don't know me nearly as well as they think they do and I don't feel connected back. I'm a very guarded person. This friend is probably the only person, aside from my two younger sisters, who I feel so connected with. But she has a lot of friends, so it's entirely possible she doesn't feel the same level of connection back. I always feel like I want to hang out with her more, but she's so busy because she's so social, that I only see her like once a month. And yeah, especially for someone with trust and abandonment issues, the realization that someone is more important to you than you are to them really stings. I'm planning on asking her about it straight this weekend, I think. Might as well get it out in the open.
Jay, thank you so much
. You seem like a really awesome person. I'm so sorry about your mom and sister, that's really awful. I can't imagine going through something like that. I often feel like I've had a rough life, and then I hear about the things other people have had to experience and I feel like a little pussy. Anniversaries of traumatic events in particular are extra hard on people, at least in my personal experience, so I hope the holiday wasn't too rough on you. Sending good vibes your way. And the world needs more drug counselors with firsthand experience! Neither of the two I'm seeing currently are in recovery themselves. I wish they were. It would make them easier to relate with. So the fact that you've had so much firsthand experience is a huge asset. Totally agree with 10Years, you'll be an amazing counselor.