I apologise in advance for any offence, none's intended, although maybe it's impertinent for me to comment at all. However, this is a real bugbear of mine...I just think it's wrong (as one shouldn't do it, and wrong as in wrongheaded/unhealthy) for a partner to have any say at all about who one should speak to, except in very specific circumstances. Even if your partner doesn't make his views known, and you're just anticipating a reaction or assuming that's how people think and that's how the world works, why should it have the slightest implication for your relationship that you speak to a stranger, unless there's infidelity (of any shade) involved?