Is there room for humor in SLR? vs. 'comic release'

[Colonel Contin]

I've always found a good joke or a cheeky jab quite refreshing when properly placed. And, while I am fully aware that derailing a serious conversation or turning a blind eye to somebody's feelings is a crass maneuver, the subject of sex often lends its self to the occasional humorous quip. So I guess my question is this: how sterile and matter-of-factual should the discussion of sex, love, and relationships be?

"Practice good judgement", "don't be hasty", and "hold to sensitivity" is each a given, BUT - and I have fully considered the very real possibility that I'm just not very funny - sometimes I wonder if the 'bedside manner' tone pervades to the point that the mild irony in some of my commentary is lost... Intermittent sarcasm taken at face value is a dangerous thing (it scares me, anyway), but ironic undertones or deviations from the literal can sometimes be instrumental in making a point.

"Sex can at once be both frightening and hilarious"... but enough about me without a shirt on.

 

[Journyman16]

I've always found a good joke or a cheeky jab quite refreshing when properly placed.

I'm guessing a 'cheeky jab' should ALWAYS be properly placed. :D

 

[Colonel Contin]

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Here are a couple quotes from the actual SLR guidelines: "use common sense", "[be] yourself", and my favorite: "This does not mean there is no place for humor here. By all means, have a laugh"

I think I made it explicitly clear that I am capable of 'using common sense' and have no intention of hurting anybody's feelings. My question was more concerned with ironic subtleties slipping under the radar and being confused as 100% literal.

Anyhow, I guess "(0)" applies to 'undertones' as well. Note taken.

 

[pofacedhoe]

in text format its not always clear whether people are being serious or sarcastic.

not sure where this thread is going really.

there is place for humour but we often get trolling which aint on or people making harsh comments to those looking for advice which does not lend itself to an open and friendly discussion.

its very context dependent

if you have a problem with mods raise it with a senior mod but airing your grievances publicly isn't gonna be tolerated either. the mods have lives outside this volunteer role and as such dont have huge amounts of time to clear up threads and deal with long term repeat crap.

i'm very tolerant but if i seen it happen from one user 10 times i'm not gonna ignore it same way as a one off

yes a sense of humour is good but remember that its needs to be funny to multiple people for it to be a joke

either way this isnt about sex or love or relationships and is for sure going to attract trolling so i'm gonna close it.