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Is porn just bad for society?

Markomarkh

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Hi all, im38 now. I've been a porn user since I was 13 when seeing one of my brothers old porn videos, it was Black and white, and was about nuns fucking in church or sommat along those lines, it was mind blowing and shocking at the time, I've been an addict to staying up late and watching lots of sex in Friday night films In the past, then when the Internet came along I continued watching and looking for images, all this time I haven't really formed a real relationship with real women because it's easy at a click of a button. But these videos of late have become very degrading and cheap amateur videos that I see on pornhub is just immoral, especially videos of couples sexing it up in club toilets is just scummy and sending the wrong message to young teens, think it's heart breaking seeing pretty girls doing the scummiest things. This could be your sister or daughter, how would you feel if you saw that. I know it's just teenagers drunk and being rebellious but doing it in a public place with a mobile phone spying on you is just against the law ain't it? Has porn broken down the morals of society? Does porn need to be regelated more or banned ? Also is porn good for keeping the population down and stopping STDs spreading?
 
On the whole it's definitely bad for a society, and in the majority of cases for the individual too.. having an easy, free, convenient way to over-utilize a lever in your brain that releases a cascade of feel good brain juices is just too much for many people to handle.

Western society has been on a downward trend for almost a century now, and porn is just one of many contributing factors that play a part in that. Rampant drug use is another. I know many here reject that idea, or both, but well that's what you get.. you ain't the same person you were before you sampled whatever it is you use.. it's snared you and your thinking.

At 38 women of a similar age to you will have lost a lot of the vanity that propped up, well, their entire psychology when they were younger.. it's called hitting the wall. Either they break down completely or they come to accept what is and become a bit more humble about things - these are the women you should look for.

It's sad in a way what's happening to the younger generation, of which I'm a part.. we've been absolutely betrayed by our parents generation. But then fuck it.. humanity on the whole has become a pile of garbage, so don't take it out on yourself.
 
It's sad in a way what's happening to the younger generation, of which I'm a part.. we've been absolutely betrayed by our parents generation.
only if you don't take responsibility for yourself and blame everybody else for your problems...

alasdair
 
Not all porn is the same. I think it is the kind of porn that determines whether or not it is harmful. Some is art or fashion photos while other porn is violent or sleezy like the toilet porn you found.

Our generation does not have the opportunities the Baby Boomers had. The economy and job situation is much worse. I don't think porn is the cause.
 
Just watch the movie Don Jon. Joseph Gordon-Levitt was addicted to porn and he jerked off up to 20-30 times a day at one point. He thought porn was better than real sex and didn't know it was a problem until a girlfriend caught him watching porm right after they had sex for the first time. She broke up with him.

Long story short, an older woman taught him how to have an emotional connection with a woman and actually lose himself during sex. It was a great movie about how too much porn can detach you from real intimacy.
 
There's good porn and bad porn. Porn published where the will of anyone involved is in doubt is bad. Porn promoting/ or seeming to involve anything illegal is bad e.g. rape porn. If every aspect of it is fully consensual, it doesn't matter if it's a bit niche, it's fine.

Masturbation is a different kettle of fish. Generally speaking if someone is masturbating more than once a day or once every other day, it's going to affect their desire for their partner or any potential suitor. Also, it can become obsessive affecting a person's life.

At the same time, people can't just walk around horny as fuck. Everyone, maybe men more than women, needs a release. If those who need that release don't get it, that could have a terrible outcome on society. Besides, there is evidence that regular masturbation is good for a man's fertility. I've certainly hit a bull's-eye every time I've needed to.

If people want to use porn to stimulate themselves and help their imagination then so be it. The only issues I see with consensual porn without excessive masturbation is when the consumer exhibits either obsessional behaviour - e.g. forming a 'relationship' with actors/ actresses - which some entice you to do, or the consumer compares themselves to these actors/ actresses, in terms of performance/ looks, 'size' and anything else and is in any way mentally affected by it.
 
I'm neutral on this.
I think humiliation and violence in porn are somewhat unpleasant.
On the other hand I think censorship is worse.
There are other areas of society and issues which need taking care of more urgently than porn, like gun ownership and repressive drug laws.
 
I'm currently 10 days no porn/no masturbation. I feel fantastic and have a lot more drive and focus.

I doubt I will be-able to keep this up for much longer with masturbation, but I really think i'm done with porn. The dopamine rush from watching it frequently was leaving me drained and unmotivated in other aspects of life.
 
only if you don't take responsibility for yourself and blame everybody else for your problems...

Two separate issues. Whether or not someone decides to take action to better themselves is irrelevant to the fact that that we have been royally betrayed by the boomer generation, and not only that but standing against the tide of moral degeneracy is tiring and a ultimately fruitless pursuit. Religion and social constructs helped keep a lid on it for a long time, but thanks to the wisdom of the boomers we've abandoned all that because we're just so damn enlightened in the modern era.
 
Hi all, im38 now. I've been a porn user since I was 13 when seeing one of my brothers old porn videos, it was Black and white, and was about nuns fucking in church or sommat along those lines, it was mind blowing and shocking at the time, I've been an addict to staying up late and watching lots of sex in Friday night films In the past, then when the Internet came along I continued watching and looking for images, all this time I haven't really formed a real relationship with real women because it's easy at a click of a button. But these videos of late have become very degrading and cheap amateur videos that I see on pornhub is just immoral, especially videos of couples sexing it up in club toilets is just scummy and sending the wrong message to young teens, think it's heart breaking seeing pretty girls doing the scummiest things. This could be your sister or daughter, how would you feel if you saw that. I know it's just teenagers drunk and being rebellious but doing it in a public place with a mobile phone spying on you is just against the law ain't it? Has porn broken down the morals of society? Does porn need to be regelated more or banned ? Also is porn good for keeping the population down and stopping STDs spreading?

Is it or isn't it bad can not be defined in black and white terms.

But I do think that it can be damaging for the individual if they become obsessed with it i.e causing depression/anxiety/lethargy and effecting sexual ability. I guess it is possibly rooted in the idea that we are designed to survive and reproduce, so if by dinner time you've just had six wanks, it's probably going to effect hormone levels or something like that, and ultimately make the body/brain believe that your work for the day is done.
 
You can approach this situation comparing it with knife – should the usage of knife be regulated and limited, because some people use knives to kill themselves or other people…….? At the same time the vast majority use knives to make their everyday lives better and easier………

Similarly with porn – you can destroy yourself and your real-life sexual relationships if you use it in abnormal amounts. But you can also use is to enrich your sexual life and look at beautiful girls doing nasty things.

And that is the main problem in our society – brutal violence, blood, murders, dead bodies etc. are on our TV screens even in daytime, and no one cares. Because society is so brainwashed that think that it is normal. Some naked girls do nasty things, that do not harm anyone, and most part of the society condemns it……..

I’m against porn where girls are tricked in with lies, which usually ends with broken lives, but if it is her deliberate decision and she beforehand knows that she will be capable of living with this label “porn”, then it is absolutely ok.

And porn don’t have to be beautiful…..I think that even your deepest sexual desires are not beautiful, when viewed from the perspective of what is in our society considered nice…… Besides……..nice sex usually is synonym to boring sex……..

And in your case, it seems that the problem is not the porn, but your excessive usage of it…..
 
...the fact that that we have been royally betrayed by the boomer generation...
i don't think it's a fact. i think it's your opinion.

i don't feel betrayed by the generation that preceded me. you do. is one of us right and the other wrong? no, i don't think so. i think it's just a matter of perspective.

alasdair
 
Two separate issues. Whether or not someone decides to take action to better themselves is irrelevant to the fact that that we have been royally betrayed by the boomer generation, and not only that but standing against the tide of moral degeneracy is tiring and a ultimately fruitless pursuit. Religion and social constructs helped keep a lid on it for a long time, but thanks to the wisdom of the boomers we've abandoned all that because we're just so damn enlightened in the modern era.
So just to clarify your position here... in your view, the religions of the past and all the irrational, oppressive, and frankly backwards belief systems that came with them, were a preferable state of affairs to what we have today?

In case it is not obvious from the tone of my question (although I would still appreciate an answer! Perhaps I misunderstand you...) I think this is just a ridiculous viewpoint for a whole bunch of reasons, as is the idea that we have been betrayed by our ancestors. There are many other reasons you could say we have been betrayed (the beginnings of global warming, the extinction of thousands of species, the establishment of a hierarchy within our own species along lines of race and class and everything that goes with that, etc, etc) but the beginnings of a more liberal attitude to sex and sexuality is not one of them.

Remember that these "religion and social constructs" of the past that you are implicitly glorifying in your rejection of more modern ideas, also gave rise to rampant misogyny, homophobia, transphobia, and just centuries of general hatred and oppression towards vast segments of human society. The fact that anyone can now google pictures and videos of sexual acts within seconds, is, in my view, and even if we can say that there is actually any inherent problem with this (which I think is very very debatable) a very small price to pay for the huge progress in other areas, ie, the beginnings of the end of the aforementioned deeply ingrained cultural hatred and oppression... which really just arose from ignorance anyway.



On the thread topic... no, porn is not "bad for society", and I do not believe porn can be said to objectively be a bad thing. The fact is, in the past porn could not exist in the same way it does today. Now, largely because of technology and a lifting of frankly prehistoric ideas about morality, it can. This is the same situation as a vast array of human advances made possible only in the past few decades by an increased understanding of what constitutes rational thought and the continuing advancement of technology... abortion, genetic engineering, social media, online dating... these things were not possible in the past, and now they are. We now need to make decisions about the finer points of the morality of these things, but with the understanding that they are and very likely will remain, to some extent, a part of life. Obviously, non-consentual porn, and those aspects of the porn industry that are exploitative and predatory are not good things. These can be said to be immoral, and bad for society. However, porn ITSELF, is not bad for society any more than drugs are bad for society.

Yes, perhaps more regulation is the answer, NO, the answer is NOT just to KEEP ON BANNING STUFF... It constantly baffles me how on a forum that is largely only necessary because of the current bizarre state of affairs where all but a small and random selection of psychoactive substances are effectively entirely banned globally, people still keep seriously asking if the answer to a social problem is just to ban something else. CAN WE PLEASE STOP TRYING TO BAN EVERYTHING?!
 
I'm not disagreeing with u that we are in some shit SS and do support your view on most topics even most seem not too..Every generation so far has been tryin to fix the problems caused by the generation before it..but also enjoying the fruits of their labor..we are not old enough to see what problems our kids will be facing that we have caused

on the OP il just say I used to watch porn all the time but cut it down to once every few months while on stims..I think it has benefited me in a few places in life so I'm guessing it is just like everything else,moderation is key
 
i think excessive porn spoils sex making it harder to cum if you are not in the middle of something visual.

you link the reward of orgasm to the stimulus of something visual and over time your neural circuits rewire.

its easy to undo. just a week without it and i can cum during sex easily.

but my job involves too much stress and porn helps me cum on time to fit in with work and takes the edge off how fucking tired i am at times


for society its not good as it cheapens sex and this makes a culture where sex is easy and shoved in your face due to desensitization. at the same time ireland in the 50's and repression is hardly good either.

i think the most damaging thing for society is inequality and intolerance, oh and a lack of resources
 
Addictions are what are harmful to society.
Everything in moderation.
I see no difference between porn addiction, than drugs ,alcohol , or smoking if any are done in excess . mental wellbeing and social integration will be affected.
What has changed for the better is women's tastes and desired are now being catered for so its can be a shared enjoyment.
The feminist complaint of women just being abused for men's sexual gratification solely in porn has now been totally undermined and equals provided. The mistress Dominatrix scenario is actually arousing and both humorous to what.
 
I know it's just teenagers drunk and being rebellious but doing it in a public place with a mobile phone spying on you is just against the law ain't it?

Yes if a person is willing to be filmed or is filming their own act its OK as they know what they are getting into. But to gatecrash anyone's privacy is a not good and to post is online without permission is a crime.


Has porn broken down the morals of society?

Yes with the availability of porn easily , young minds are corrupted.

Does porn need to be regelated more or banned ?

Porn can't be banned its all depend on the individual. Its very important to understand that excess of anything can be hazardous whether its good or bad .

Also is porn good for keeping the population down and stopping STDs spreading?

In my opinion it does not make any sense.
 
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