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Bluelighter
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And I want to help him come out.
Long story short, my friend comes from a very right wing background (homophobic and racist) both his parents (whom he still lives with) are very right wing and homophobic so I can't imagine how difficult it must be for him if he is gay
We have a mutual gay friend so he knows he can come out to us with no harm coming to him.
Anyway, to why I think he is in the closet:
He is 25 and never had a GF, he says he has had sex but there is no "evidence" for this, no pics, no names, no texts
When we are on a night out, he rarely speaks to the girls in the group and only the men
When he gets drunk, he gets very "touchy feely" to the guys, he will hug for long periods of time and grind up against all the guys as a "joke"
He can be quite emotional (can cry easily and gets upset easily) not that this is a gay trait but it's one of the reasons to make me think he may be gay
Everytime he meets a girl (or tells us he is talking to one) it always ends before we meet them or even get to know a bit about her.
He once said a hacker was threatening to put naked pics of him online, the story of how said hacker got the pics is a bit murky (the hacker is a dude)
Every single girl who has known him (and me) thinks he is gay.
He is fairly homophobic (like a cover up)
Now I love the guy, he is a very close friend but I want him to be happy in himself, i just want advice on how I can let him know I am here for him if he wants to come out and that if his parents disown him then "fuck 'em", trouble is, I think he may get very offended if I raise the issue to the point he won't speak to me again because it would "expose him" and he will shut down.
God knows what it is doing to him repressing all these feelings if he is gay...
Long story short, my friend comes from a very right wing background (homophobic and racist) both his parents (whom he still lives with) are very right wing and homophobic so I can't imagine how difficult it must be for him if he is gay
We have a mutual gay friend so he knows he can come out to us with no harm coming to him.
Anyway, to why I think he is in the closet:
He is 25 and never had a GF, he says he has had sex but there is no "evidence" for this, no pics, no names, no texts
When we are on a night out, he rarely speaks to the girls in the group and only the men
When he gets drunk, he gets very "touchy feely" to the guys, he will hug for long periods of time and grind up against all the guys as a "joke"
He can be quite emotional (can cry easily and gets upset easily) not that this is a gay trait but it's one of the reasons to make me think he may be gay
Everytime he meets a girl (or tells us he is talking to one) it always ends before we meet them or even get to know a bit about her.
He once said a hacker was threatening to put naked pics of him online, the story of how said hacker got the pics is a bit murky (the hacker is a dude)
Every single girl who has known him (and me) thinks he is gay.
He is fairly homophobic (like a cover up)
Now I love the guy, he is a very close friend but I want him to be happy in himself, i just want advice on how I can let him know I am here for him if he wants to come out and that if his parents disown him then "fuck 'em", trouble is, I think he may get very offended if I raise the issue to the point he won't speak to me again because it would "expose him" and he will shut down.
God knows what it is doing to him repressing all these feelings if he is gay...