Thank you for all your replies I appreciate it. As far as getting my house in order I mean it's a little messy right now but nothing that an hour for cleaning won't fix. As far as doctor appointments for my son I actually have one next week for his 7th grade shots but other than that we have always kept up with that kind of stuff. We both will be doing counciling and groups it's required for the clinic we go to (we got to a state place) but it doesn't start until around 3 weeks after we start the methadone so we can get up to the dose we need which it good because we just started Monday and they started us both at 30mg we only go up 5mg every couple of days so tomorrow we will go up to 35mg then up 5 more Monday and so on until we reach 60mg which is going to take around 2 and a half weeks and we both had a 4 to 5 bundle a day habit so 30mg isn't doing shit right now. The doctor said it probably wouldn't and if we needed to keep using for a little while until we reach the right side we could but try not to use too much so we are down from 40 to 50 bags a day (we snort it) to around 1 to 1 and a half bundles a day (10-15 bags) so that is a problem I know but in order to not be in withdraw and be able to work and take care of our son it's what we have to do right now. But I am working to get completely off it all together I hope maybe by this Monday when we get up to 40mg it will start to help and we can maybe deal with the withdraw but the doctor said with our habit it probably won't start really working until we reach anywhere from 60-80mg. The good thing is once we reach 60mg they said we can go up by 10mg each day after that until we are comfortable. Also this is not something we want to stay on long term we only want to get up to where we are comfortable and then start to come back down. I know coming of methadone is not easy and seriously neither of us ever wanted to go on it but the shit we get is like all fentanyl so getting the time in to get onto subs is around 60-72 hours for us I've gone into precipitated withdraw at 50 hours so that's why we went onto methadone. Our goal is to be off everything but it's going to take time.
As far as cutting his family off well right now he is pissed and says if they do call CYS he is done but idk if he will stick to it he is very close to his family and he makes excuses for them all the time. I get it to a point but I've dropped my entire family because they have brought me nothing but pain and disaster so I had to walk away, he would never completely do that. All I know is if CYS shows up at my door they are the ones who called and I can handle it but I will not stand for people like that in my life.
I appreciate all the advice and I'll keep you posted as to what is going on.im not giving up I want to be sober so bad so nothing will stop me from getting it. I've never felt like this before I've never wanted it more so I'm not giving up.
You've got this.
The doctor has not called CPS as we call it here, so even if his family does call them, there may be a chance they won't even come out because they get SO MANY CALLS. They'd have to outright lie and say you're so strung out your child is neglected. As it stands now, I'd just stay on the right path and not even sweat it.
I recently in had a bout with CPS myself. I was devastated. I was over five years clean and living this super perfect Martha Stewart life. False accusations triggered an investigation, and I had to deal with CPS for about six months.
I have worked on the good side of CPS to adopt two children out of foster care. The investigating caseworker asked me for references, so I gave her some:
All of my adopted children's former foster parents I co-parented with
My adopted children's former caseworker of 6 years (and believe me I called her as soon as they left)
The social services ATTORNEY
And a district court judge
All of whom I love dearly and am friends with to this day.
Will you believe that bitch and her racist supervisor didn't even call not one of my references?
They came out on a Friday. I immediately said I was moving. The investigation worker tried to talk me out of it. I told her, "You're telling me that my toddler is in danger residing in the same house with these two mentally ill teenagers and your best advice to me is a safety plan? I am moving and here is the address I will be at"
Signed up for Plushcare, immediately got anti anxiety and anti depressant medication. Immediately got my toddler son into play therapy and therapy yoga. Immediately began taking three online parenting courses. Started therapy for myself. Blew everyone out of the water.
I worked with CPS for three years, don't fuck with me lady.
And that was that. The proxy caseworker in the new county was AMAZING, I loved having her over, looked forward to our video calls and my son to this day still asks about his best friend.
ANYONE CAN BE INVESTIGATED BY CPS.
You would be AMAZED at the amount of people you know that have had CPS knock on the door. It is by no means your measure as a parent.