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I fell for an Escort, what should I do?

RedRum OG said:
Yeah man, that does suck. Always painful. Live your life well, and it will attract some high quality girls.
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Yeah normally I wouldn't have a problem and I'd go out and find a girl the "normal" way but the lockdown pushed me into getting an escort thanks to my high sex drive which I've never done before btw. I've decided to not get in touch on Wednesday and I've now moved on.
 
You did the right thing. Just move on. Don’t get involved with someone in that business, I will most likely never end well.
 
evo4ever said:
Yeah normally I wouldn't have a problem and I'd go out and find a girl the "normal" way but the lockdown pushed me into getting an escort thanks to my high sex drive which I've never done before btw. I've decided to not get in touch on Wednesday and I've now moved on.
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Control your sex drive stop supplementing dopamine for oxytocin. Find you someone that will give you their all. And don’t let go. It’s not easy. It takes forever and the only time you’ll find it is when your busy doing you and not even worried about a girl. In essence. Focus on your goals. Females will find you. Lockdown or not. I don’t see a chasity belt on females right now. And you really don’t want a floozy at the bar anyways. They are good for only one type of connection

penis in vagina action.
God gave you hands for a reason. Unload and keep moving if you absolutely have to. But the more and more you don’t give in the more and more power you’ll feel as a person. Nor will a woman be able to use her vah gin to hypnotize you into gypsy activities
 
FuneralFather said:
Control your sex drive stop supplementing dopamine for oxytocin. Find you someone that will give you their all. And don’t let go. It’s not easy. It takes forever and the only time you’ll find it is when your busy doing you and not even worried about a girl. In essence. Focus on your goals. Females will find you. Lockdown or not. I don’t see a chasity belt on females right now. And you really don’t want a floozy at the bar anyways. They are good for only one type of connection

penis in vagina action.
God gave you hands for a reason. Unload and keep moving if you absolutely have to. But the more and more you don’t give in the more and more power you’ll feel as a person. Nor will a woman be able to use her vah gin to hypnotize you into gypsy activities
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I'm 35 in a few weeks and I've been single for 5 years now and I'm starting to panic as I'm not getting any younger. I'm worried sick about growing old lonely and single which will lead to major depression or worse! I'm sure you understand the situation I'm in.
 
evo4ever said:
I'm 35 in a few weeks and I've been single for 5 years now and I'm starting to panic as I'm not getting any younger. I'm worried sick about growing old lonely and single which will lead to major depression or worse! I'm sure you understand the situation I'm in.
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Plenty of people find love in their 30’s my cousin who we never thought would marry just married and had a baby at 38. You just ain’t doing enough burnouts in the evo. Or time to trade it for a wrx. If you woulda a an wrx you woulda been married. That or if you just got out the military
 
But all jokes aside have patience your future girl is searching for you just as much as your searching for her. Problem is. While your searching your missing out on things you need to work on before God the universe whatever you believe in will give it to you. You can’t come half ass negative attitude about anything. You’ve told yourself you’ve lost before you’ve even faught. Stack them papers and these corona 18 years olds will be out soon. They don’t know another male but their dad and a computer zoom. Come on man I just woke up outta klonopin daze. I wish you woulda been with me yesterday at the dealership bitching about my whip

held the door for the lady, but act like she’s not important at all she gone look to see you loooking. Don’t look. Focus on your service contract, then send her flowers one day with a note that says. Love Tim McGraw
She will think your silly, fun, thoughtful, but you still don’t give a fuck about how nice that ass looks in them jeans
No matter what. Resist the look. They know when eyes wander. From now on make a social dating site. And show a sweet site but don’t act like you give a fuck one way or the other if she’s going bust that baby bounce slip and slide open for your.
 
I don't know how to deal with the craving of wanting a girlfriend, I get that depressed about it I often think about suicide 😪

I've used hookers / escorts but I'll end up getting attached to one of them if she's nice so I need to stay away from them.
 
evo4ever said:
I don't know how to deal with the craving of wanting a girlfriend, I get that depressed about it I often think about suicide 😪

I've used hookers / escorts but I'll end up getting attached to one of them if she's nice so I need to stay away from them.
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You can’t hinge your happiness on someone else. You need to learn to be alone and to be happy with yourself first. It’s cliche as fuck but it’s the truth. You’ll never be truly happy in a relationship if you aren’t first happy with the person you are. Work on yourself first. Fuck a relationship, they are messy and you need to be pretty well grounded to take them on and deal.
 
Stop fucking escorts. It's not going to make you happy. Sounds like it's just confusing you. Focus your energy on finding someone less complicated.

If you can fall for an escort, you can fall for someone else. The fact that she was into you too, means you've obviously got some redeeming qualities.

People get all stuck up in their heads thinking depressing thoughts and devaluing themselves as individuals.

There is someone out there for you.
 
evo4ever said:
Yeah it really hurts cos she played with my emotions and let me get close to her! I mean WTF!! And it actually felt mutual, its a fucked up situation!
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I doubt she was playing with you in a Machiavellian sense. Many people become confused or uncertain about their feelings and, to be fair, you barely know each other having only just met.
 
Of course, there are some stories when such relationships led to marriage, but I think it's just your emotions, don't get your feelings involved with escort. I think you should think less about her, and maybe find another escort girl just to make sure there are a lot of awesome girls who can make you forget everything. As an example, you can call this one https://ar.simpleescorts.com/escort...a-volver-loquito-me-encanta-cojer-24hs-18281/ Recently I spend a wonderful time with her, and in her bed I forgot everything and everybody, it was just an ocean of pleasure. You obviously need such a distraction and relax.
 
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I was talking about this to Mama-san that other day and she told me that while her girls all hate their job as prostitutes a good portion of them end up leaving the business to settle down with a former customer. It sounded like plenty of guys fall in love with working girls. Although she also said that those guys tend to be controlling types who never trust their girl completely after she stops working. They expect the girl to be a stay-at-home homemaker.
 
Atelier3 said:
I was talking about this to Mama-san that other day and she told me that while her girls all hate their job as prostitutes a good portion of them end up leaving the business to settle down with a former customer. It sounded like plenty of guys fall in love with working girls. Although she also said that those guys tend to be controlling types who never trust their girl completely after she stops working. They expect the girl to be a stay-at-home homemaker.
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Very interesting....on one hand, that's surprising, and the other hand, not even slightly surprising

i would never expect a girl to be a stay-at-home homemaker, no matter who where or what shes from....

if somebody's gonna cheat, then they're gonna cheat - no point in trying to control anybody - it all reveals itself eventually anyway
 
evo4ever said:
I'm 35 in a few weeks and I've been single for 5 years now and I'm starting to panic as I'm not getting any younger. I'm worried sick about growing old lonely and single which will lead to major depression or worse! I'm sure you understand the situation I'm in.
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I'm in the same age bracket and have seen enough to convince me that your life can turn out even worst being married than it can staying single. Divorce has become very common and isn't the beacon of stability that it once may have been. You can easily end up worse off coming out of a marriage that you would have been not even getting into one. I know you didn't mention marriage but in a lot of Western localities now the government treats long-term relationships as defacto marriage.

I think the bottom line is that life is hard and lonely no matter what we do and there will always be people who took the path you might have taken and end up being miserable or dead as a result.

There is a quote I really like, from Kierkegaard, about this very thing -

Marry, and you will regret it; don’t marry, you will also regret it; marry or don’t marry, you will regret it either way. Laugh at the world’s foolishness, you will regret it; weep over it, you will regret that too; laugh at the world’s foolishness or weep over it, you will regret both. Believe a woman, you will regret it; believe her not, you will also regret it… Hang yourself, you will regret it; do not hang yourself, and you will regret that too; hang yourself or don’t hang yourself, you’ll regret it either way; whether you hang yourself or do not hang yourself, you will regret both. This, gentlemen, is the essence of all philosophy.
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Like my mum always told me, and BTW she had a successful marriage, you have to find your happiness in yourself. I think that is the best we can reliably do.
 
thujone said:
I'm in the same age bracket and have seen enough to convince me that your life can turn out even worst being married than it can staying single. Divorce has become very common and isn't the beacon of stability that it once may have been. You can easily end up worse off coming out of a marriage that you would have been not even getting into one. I know you didn't mention marriage but in a lot of Western localities now the government treats long-term relationships as defacto marriage.

I think the bottom line is that life is hard and lonely no matter what we do and there will always be people who took the path you might have taken and end up being miserable or dead as a result.

There is a quote I really like, from Kierkegaard, about this very thing -



Like my mum always told me, and BTW she had a successful marriage, you have to find your happiness in yourself. I think that is the best we can reliably do.
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Ain't that the truth

Tell him
 
It’s worth keeping the bulk of your assets in another country to your wife/de-facto. Preferably a small country she’s never heard of. Make sure you familiarise her with your ordinary local assets so she believes that’s everything you’ve got when she takes you to the cleaners.

Difficult to do for Americans who get taxed on global assets (and get taken to the cleaners by exes most often).
 
Atelier3 said:
It’s worth keeping the bulk of your assets in another country to your wife/de-facto. Preferably a small country she’s never heard of. Make sure you familiarise her with your ordinary local assets so she believes that’s everything you’ve got when she takes you to the cleaners.

Difficult to do for Americans who get taxed on global assets (and get taken to the cleaners by exes most often).
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Agh all this cloak and dagger...

I think that people have gotten too comfortable now and that's why these divorces are such life-rending events mostly in the richest developed countries (Anglosphere).

Instead of struggling together and bonds between husband and wife growing strong and resilient, we're all expected to spend 8+ hours of the day at jobs surrounded by people eager to sabotage us.

It's no surprise that we can so easily be influenced to be unhappy when married people live like individuals and feel more like roommates than life[/] partners.
 
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