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I cum way too fast

Try it again. Second time is the best. Or third - depending how old you are.
I wouldn't worry about it. If you are really connected, you'll find your way in..
 
So I'm not a guy but it takes me like 3 hours to cum idk if my fb just sucks but I can't never get off. Sometimes on a rare occasion I'll give him head which really turn me in because of his reaction. Then I'm able to cum after like an hour but fuck the feeling yiu get right before you cum is amazing
 
Try the new drug Dapoxetine as it helped my husband who is also a very quick cummer and I think you should take one tab just one hour before sex.It will help you with your problem I guess.
 
I also suffer from this problem occasionally. You just have to know that 90% of it is mental problems such as lack of confidence or anxiety/depression. However i I have some tricks and a funny story.

My masturbation tricks are when jacking off prolong it as long as you can, learn to feel where you can stop/take a break before it's too late, and just become overall comfortable knowing your own feelings down there.

When actually having sex there are three main things to do. First, control your breathing by maintaining deep breaths through the mouth works best for me. Next, relax your muscles don't try to flex your dick to make it bulge(don't be afraid of it not looking the biggest without flexing because most women aren't sizest) avoid positions like missionary where you must flex arm muscles. Finally, if you feel yourself getting far too excited almost past the point of no return think of football, baseball, or recite your ABC's.

The funny story is about how I lasted the longest in my lifetime. Do not repeat what I did it was part of the stupidest decision of my lifetime also. But I had done Lady H at approximately 2pm that day. 6 hours later at 8pm I proceeded to start sex with my S/O. I could not achieve orgasm. I tapped that ass for 2 hours straight until she couldn't take anymore due to exhaustion. But the negative effects severely outweigh that one good thing. Do not consider doing H only for that.
 
An urologist will be able to help you with that very easily. That´s a very common thing to happen after all.
 
An over the counter product called PROMESCENT will work wonders for you, go to their web site at promescent.com where they have a store locator that you can put your zip code in and find a pharmacy near you that carries it.
 
What I do on occasions is buy a $20 bag of coke and rub a little on my dicks head..it numbs it up and you don't feel anything for about 10-45 mins..I bag useally lasts about 10 sex sessions lol
 
Honestly, I'm jealous of everyone of you. Its not enjoyable to have retarded ejaculation. I would rather have the pleasure of enjoyable sex and not make it this arduous job of extreme focus just to make sure I don't piss the girl off for not getting off. Regardless if you are open about it at the start of a relationship, your significant other will always ponder that idea like they aren't good enough to get their boyfriend to climax.
 
GrymReefer said:
Honestly, I'm jealous of everyone of you. Its not enjoyable to have retarded ejaculation. I would rather have the pleasure of enjoyable sex and not make it this arduous job of extreme focus just to make sure I don't piss the girl off for not getting off. Regardless if you are open about it at the start of a relationship, your significant other will always ponder that idea like they aren't good enough to get their boyfriend to climax.
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same here. and they never believe the "it's not you, it's me" line, even when it's the truth. Now, if she is REALLY kinky, I can cum pretty quickly, but more times than not i end up exhausted and her sore as hell and me not coming. Ive even faked a few orgasms just to make 'her' happy (easy since i dont have pornstar cumshots)
 
I blow my load way too early!!

I am 12 and I started Jerking off about a year ago. I know I am young, but I find myself cumming much too early and has got me worried about my future sex life. Got any advice?
 
It's cuz you're 12, dude. :) All this comes with experience. When you're not so excited anymore it gets a lot easier to control. Pretty much every guy starts out cumming way too early.
 
do breathing exercises instead.

cumstoofastguy said:
It only takes me a minute or so to jerk off. as soon as i stick it in a woman i cum instantaneously... i cant even get 1 pump off. as im putting it in i explode. is very embarrassing :( i have to say i need a minute hold on and i will eat her pussy and put on a new rubber.


i have done those penis exercises but they dont help at all.. help me :(
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I'm bumping an old thread here but maybe my reply will inspire some of you. I'm 40 and have been with a lot of girls in all parts of the world.
I can say this, how long I last during sex depends on 1/ how turned on I am with the girl, 2/ how long I have been without sex and 3/ how long since I last cum.
I travel to Asia on business and I prefer to go without cumming for at least one week. When there I then visit bars and pick up the sexiest girl I can find and take her to my hotel. She does not have to be the best looking in the bar, but one I feel the most chemistry with. Some of my most passionate sex was with girls that other guys would rate average in the 5-6. Some of my worst sex was with dancers that would rate 8-9 -no chemistry. Anyway, an average looking girl can be extremely sexy if she acts and dresses the right way. To give you an idea, a girl I picked up recently in Kuala Lumpur was a Vietnamese escort, young and simple. Her body was slender and toned all over, face was ok. Probably a 7 overall. Chemistry was good. We got to my hotel and wow did I like her. I haven't cum for a week and was horny as hell, and soon thrust it in her from top. I was pumping her for a few minutes on the bed, going in deep and I swear I came close to blowing my load at least 3 times. But I said to myself, there's no fucking way I'm gonna cum, no matter what happens. So I held back. Its very difficult even with my 25 years of edging practice. You must pull out and breathe a lot if you feel like you gonna cum. This works for me. Anyway I pumped her for a good 20-30 min and then we rolled over to sleep. I felt satisfied and full of energy from this girl, and told myself I'll finish off in the morning. So I wake up and turn over and she's all naked sleeping. The sight of her super fit body was too much for me. I felt my cock swell like a zeppelin airship, ball milk churning in my sack wanting to spurt. I had to have her like that right there. So I got on top and thrust my cock in and oh god her pussy felt so good and tight. Problem was, it felt too good and I was already on the edge even before my dick went in her. So after just two or three thrusts I felt it coming and could not hold back no more. Two more thrusts in that pussy and I pulled out moaning and exploded like a geyser of ropes rope all over her abs, tits and face. She needed a towel to wipe herself down. Anyway, the point is, I'd rather have sex where there's so much passion I cum hard and fast then sex where you're for hours pretending and trying to finish off. Leghunter out.
 
leghunter said:
I'm bumping an old thread here but maybe my reply will inspire some of you. I'm 40 and have been with a lot of girls in all parts of the world.
I can say this, how long I last during sex depends on 1/ how turned on I am with the girl, 2/ how long I have been without sex and 3/ how long since I last cum.
I travel to Asia on business and I prefer to go without cumming for at least one week. When there I then visit bars and pick up the sexiest girl I can find and take her to my hotel. She does not have to be the best looking in the bar, but one I feel the most chemistry with. Some of my most passionate sex was with girls that other guys would rate average in the 5-6. Some of my worst sex was with dancers that would rate 8-9 -no chemistry. Anyway, an average looking girl can be extremely sexy if she acts and dresses the right way. To give you an idea, a girl I picked up recently in Kuala Lumpur was a Vietnamese escort, young and simple. Her body was slender and toned all over, face was ok. Probably a 7 overall. Chemistry was good. We got to my hotel and wow did I like her. I haven't cum for a week and was horny as hell, and soon thrust it in her from top. I was pumping her for a few minutes on the bed, going in deep and I swear I came close to blowing my load at least 3 times. But I said to myself, there's no fucking way I'm gonna cum, no matter what happens. So I held back. Its very difficult even with my 25 years of edging practice. You must pull out and breathe a lot if you feel like you gonna cum. This works for me. Anyway I pumped her for a good 20-30 min and then we rolled over to sleep. I felt satisfied and full of energy from this girl, and told myself I'll finish off in the morning. So I wake up and turn over and she's all naked sleeping. The sight of her super fit body was too much for me. I felt my cock swell like a zeppelin airship, ball milk churning in my sack wanting to spurt. I had to have her like that right there. So I got on top and thrust my cock in and oh god her pussy felt so good and tight. Problem was, it felt too good and I was already on the edge even before my dick went in her. So after just two or three thrusts I felt it coming and could not hold back no more. Two more thrusts in that pussy and I pulled out moaning and exploded like a geyser of ropes rope all over her abs, tits and face. She needed a towel to wipe herself down. Anyway, the point is, I'd rather have sex where there's so much passion I cum hard and fast then sex where you're for hours pretending and trying to finish off. Leghunter out.
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Lol, your story gives me a boner. I'm living in VN and find that most of the Vietnamese girls are beautiful/pretty and awesome, especially fairly fit and tight pussy. I've fucked a bunch of Vietnamese women. You had better go to here and get completely satisfied.
 
GrymReefer said:
Honestly, I'm jealous of everyone of you. Its not enjoyable to have retarded ejaculation. I would rather have the pleasure of enjoyable sex and not make it this arduous job of extreme focus just to make sure I don't piss the girl off for not getting off. Regardless if you are open about it at the start of a relationship, your significant other will always ponder that idea like they aren't good enough to get their boyfriend to climax.
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This +1.

It really brings women down when they can't make you cum, they feel like their not sexy or they aren't good enough for you. They don't understand that that's just how you are.
It obviously has its down sides too such as not being able to finish her off...
 
That's a fixable problem, luckily. My advice --
1. Jerk off before your date
2. when you cum too soon, tell her you need a minute before you can continue, but you want to use the time to focus on her, eat her pussy till she cums
3. Afterwards, you'll be hard and ready to go again for a longer round 2!

(As a bonus, when you make a girl come through foreplay first, it makes the sex after feel even better to her & she may orgasm easier from the penetration.
 
trunkofmycar said:
That's a fixable problem, luckily. My advice --
1. Jerk off before your date
2. when you cum too soon, tell her you need a minute before you can continue, but you want to use the time to focus on her, eat her pussy till she cums
3. Afterwards, you'll be hard and ready to go again for a longer round 2!

(As a bonus, when you make a girl come through foreplay first, it makes the sex after feel even better to her & she may orgasm easier from the penetration.
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That's true, however even if for most woman it's easier to orgasm with clit stimulation than vaginal penetration, some still prefer penetration. Also, for some more severe form of premature ejaculation, even if round 2 is better, it can still be too fast.

This website explains how arousal works and why we cum too fast and I'm like the last example. My arousal goes up way too easily. For me, I had to use a combination of all the different treatment to finally get a little control. On top of sex therapy, I'm using delay cream to numb my sex and I'm also on SSRIs. With a combined approach, I finally can last enough to get both my partner and me satisfied.
 
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