So me and my gf decided we are gonna fuck other people. We have both been kinda keen to do this for quite a few years but not enough to really give it a go until recently, where we've had more free time.
Anyway, I'm pretty good looking, so is she, and tinder is great at finding people.. Kind of? I seem to have this issue where almost every girl I talk to I feel is a bit nuts. I put that gently. Some nights I am feeling like why did I even talk to these girls, they are sucking my energy.
I'm 30. Is it an age thing? I haven't dated random girls for 7+ years. Back then, it seemed easy.. Girls didn't want to tell me how they are going to kill themselves, they get abused, they just got out of a toxic relationship, their baby daddy is crazy stalker. You name it I get this kind of stuff way, way too regularly. No matter how clearly I try and state my case, that I'm just here for casual dates/hooking up, that I already have a partner.. It just seems to get more nutcases no matter how I play it.
Anyway it's not all bad. I've met a few cool girls that seem pretty level headed. Well I think that then I'll wake up to a random text about how we cant meet again with cryptic bullshit that doesn't make sense to me. Girls that are/were keen to fuck or that we have fucked, acting like I've done some shit while I'm sleeping.
Its got to the point where I assume crazy until proven not. I'm starting to doubt my own ability to read people because it seems everyone is the flakiest up and down hard to read mother fucker, regardless of how legit they appear.
I feel like I'm pretty strait up. I don't lie. I am what I am. I don't lead anyone on. Girls usually come back for more if we do manage to meet? But this rodeo seems a bit off. Have I become out of touch? Is dating different now? Am I just having bad luck?
I thought maybe it's because most girls I match with are 25-28, so compared to the 20-23yo market I used to play with, these girls have all been through a bit more shit? But then the craziest girls I've talked to have been below this average 25-28yo range so that doesn't hold water.
I feel like I've become a magnet for girls with issues. I just want casual fun. Go bowling, get drunk, talk shit and fuck. Something like that is perfect. I don't see why it's so hard to find chill girls who can do this without freaking out after or confiding in me like I'm their psychiatrist.
Also for what it's worth my gf hasn't found guys to be like this in terms of mental instability but they are certainly flaky and hard to actually get to meet up. She's pretty hot, you'd think guys would be lining up for easy sex. And you'd think they were, looking at her tinder. But they cancel last minute, or come up with reasons to delay etc. It's weird. Im party to these convos like bro are you really turning down this fine ass? It's being handed to you! Lol
Anyway, I'm pretty good looking, so is she, and tinder is great at finding people.. Kind of? I seem to have this issue where almost every girl I talk to I feel is a bit nuts. I put that gently. Some nights I am feeling like why did I even talk to these girls, they are sucking my energy.
I'm 30. Is it an age thing? I haven't dated random girls for 7+ years. Back then, it seemed easy.. Girls didn't want to tell me how they are going to kill themselves, they get abused, they just got out of a toxic relationship, their baby daddy is crazy stalker. You name it I get this kind of stuff way, way too regularly. No matter how clearly I try and state my case, that I'm just here for casual dates/hooking up, that I already have a partner.. It just seems to get more nutcases no matter how I play it.
Anyway it's not all bad. I've met a few cool girls that seem pretty level headed. Well I think that then I'll wake up to a random text about how we cant meet again with cryptic bullshit that doesn't make sense to me. Girls that are/were keen to fuck or that we have fucked, acting like I've done some shit while I'm sleeping.
Its got to the point where I assume crazy until proven not. I'm starting to doubt my own ability to read people because it seems everyone is the flakiest up and down hard to read mother fucker, regardless of how legit they appear.
I feel like I'm pretty strait up. I don't lie. I am what I am. I don't lead anyone on. Girls usually come back for more if we do manage to meet? But this rodeo seems a bit off. Have I become out of touch? Is dating different now? Am I just having bad luck?
I thought maybe it's because most girls I match with are 25-28, so compared to the 20-23yo market I used to play with, these girls have all been through a bit more shit? But then the craziest girls I've talked to have been below this average 25-28yo range so that doesn't hold water.
I feel like I've become a magnet for girls with issues. I just want casual fun. Go bowling, get drunk, talk shit and fuck. Something like that is perfect. I don't see why it's so hard to find chill girls who can do this without freaking out after or confiding in me like I'm their psychiatrist.
Also for what it's worth my gf hasn't found guys to be like this in terms of mental instability but they are certainly flaky and hard to actually get to meet up. She's pretty hot, you'd think guys would be lining up for easy sex. And you'd think they were, looking at her tinder. But they cancel last minute, or come up with reasons to delay etc. It's weird. Im party to these convos like bro are you really turning down this fine ass? It's being handed to you! Lol
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