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[Jnlove]

I'm a totally straight guy or so I thought until recently. I don't know what to think or where to go but here goes.

I'm a happily married man and father if small child and not too long ago memories of sexual abuse at the hands of my biological father have resurfaced. Now at random and really inopportune times I fantasize about sucking on a large cock and getting covered in cum. I have NO attractions to men and the memories of what my dad did sicken me but the thought of a huge cock in my mouth gets me harder than seeing my wife naked. How do I get rid of this fantasy? Do I have to do it to get over it and if I do how do I find someone that none of my friends know? Or is there a better way to keep this desire from plaguing me?

Please, any advice would be welcome.

 

[PriestTheyCalledHim]

It sounds as though you are bisexual or even possibly gay.

Do not cheat on your wife instead tell her what is gping on. Did you ever get help or talk to a counselor or therapist to deal with being sexually abused? Good luck.

 

[apatheist]

Cocks don't all come with a guy attached to them. Toys might be a good option here.

 

[Jnlove]

It sounds as though you are bisexual or even possibly gay.

Do not cheat on your wife instead tell her what is gping on. Did you ever get help or talk to a counselor or therapist to deal with being sexually abused? Good luck.

I didn't even know I'd been abused until about a year ago. But I'll talk with her about it. Thanks ?

 

[Jnlove]

Cocks don't all come with a guy attached to them. Toys might be a good option here.

That sounds like a possibility. I know that a big part of the turn on is getting cummed on my face but toys may be enough without it

 

[apatheist]

That sounds like a possibility. I know that a big part of the turn on is getting cummed on my face but toys may be enough without it

There are toys that do that too, actually.

 

[Bearlove]

At what age did the sexual abuse occur? If these memories are just surfacing after being suppressed for so long then perhaps the feelings that you associate with them are getting confused. You may understand the sexual side of the abuse a bit more and are associating the memory of sexual gratification (on your fathers behalf).

These memories and your understanding of them can be leading to the sexual arousal your feeling.

Can you not see a therapist?

 

[ChipTrippyFox]

So your wife does not know about this? How do you think she would react if you told her? I know it is always a sensitive topic to say "Honey, I fantasize about ______ with someone else" but it's always better to be honest rather than decietful, right?

 

[NickelSlick]

For abuse you probably need to see a counselor.

Also: if you have these urges outside of that also then no worries man. Most of us flirted with the idea of some homosexual act, or if we are gay than a heterosexual one. Some of us even get off on the occasional hot thai trannyporn ya know ya know. Hey man no one's judging just figure out what you want and go for it.

 

[Bearlove]

So your wife does not know about this? How do you think she would react if you told her? I know it is always a sensitive topic to say "Honey, I fantasize about ______ with someone else" but it's always better to be honest rather than decietful, right?

sometimes though - having a secret fantasy about ___________ is exactly that, just a fantasy, not something you actually would carry out and just the idea of having it secret is part of the fun.

(If your thinking about harming others etc then maybe you need to address it).

Sex abuse in children has a very strange way of manifesting itself years later - including sexual arousal.

 

[smackydowners]

youre bi-curious. if it means this mch to you, then yur gonna have to discuss this with the mrs, or just look at it like the way you like other women. dont cheat on your wife.