TheMagicCoder
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My girlfriend has a Cannabis problem and she will not recognise it. Right now I am honestly considering leaving our relationship because I can't handle with how volatile she is. And she can't even see it! It's now affecting our life, our child's life, and our money.
Bit of background info. We've been together 8 years. She's smoked Cannabis most times through our relationship. I noticed it was a problem when I went to prison 3 years ago and it's been the same ever since. I sold my off road bike, all my music production gear, to ensure she had enough money to pay the rent and get food. All was spent on alcohol and weed. While I was in prison she ended up in debt and in serious money problems because of cannabis to the point where she got evicted.
We buy half ounce each month. Mine lasts the month, and sometimes longer. Hers will lasts about a week and it's gone. She will smoke joint after joint until she has no more. When it's gone she will ask me for some, or scrape the grinder, or pick nub ends. She will do this constantly. If she doesn't get a smoke she she gets very emotional, and often times angry with me.
For example yesterday I'd just finished my exercise and was due to take a shower. She asked if I could go to the shop. I said "I'm shattered and sweating let me take a shower". She stormed out the house "F**k it I'll do it myself I am sick of this you don't care how I feel". She got very angry towards me verbally. I remained calm, but I did fuel the fire by telling her she has a fucked up weed problem and needs to sort it out.
We spent the day not talking to each other.
This happens often. When she's in these moods she doesn't realise she's in one and if she does she will not admit it has anything to do with weed. She did it just. She asked if she can sub a quarter until we get paid next week and I explained it's not a good idea because we're already over budget and I haven't even got paid yet.
Since I said it's not a good idea her mood went low. We ended up in an argument over something silly. When I said "this is because you have no weed" she hit the roof, got emotionally, and then started telling me how I don't listen to her. I fucking do listen! I just hate being moaned at, and shouted at, because she hasn't got weed. She doesn't understand I see her attitude change. If I gave her a bit of weed she would change to be very happy, overly happy. I see these changes in mood all the time and it pisses me off when she takes her frustration out on me.
There's been times when we've loaned so much weed that we can't afford to eat properly. She doesn't seem concerned by this. I am! Fed up of feeling like I'm walking on eggshells. We've been distant recently because of her weed problem and she just doesn't see the problem. Sometimes she will admit she has one, but when she's fighting with me she will insist her behaviour isn't because she doesn't have weed and is my fault for "not listening to her" ... yet if she had weed she wouldn't be acting the way she does.
Any advice?
Bit of background info. We've been together 8 years. She's smoked Cannabis most times through our relationship. I noticed it was a problem when I went to prison 3 years ago and it's been the same ever since. I sold my off road bike, all my music production gear, to ensure she had enough money to pay the rent and get food. All was spent on alcohol and weed. While I was in prison she ended up in debt and in serious money problems because of cannabis to the point where she got evicted.
We buy half ounce each month. Mine lasts the month, and sometimes longer. Hers will lasts about a week and it's gone. She will smoke joint after joint until she has no more. When it's gone she will ask me for some, or scrape the grinder, or pick nub ends. She will do this constantly. If she doesn't get a smoke she she gets very emotional, and often times angry with me.
For example yesterday I'd just finished my exercise and was due to take a shower. She asked if I could go to the shop. I said "I'm shattered and sweating let me take a shower". She stormed out the house "F**k it I'll do it myself I am sick of this you don't care how I feel". She got very angry towards me verbally. I remained calm, but I did fuel the fire by telling her she has a fucked up weed problem and needs to sort it out.
We spent the day not talking to each other.
This happens often. When she's in these moods she doesn't realise she's in one and if she does she will not admit it has anything to do with weed. She did it just. She asked if she can sub a quarter until we get paid next week and I explained it's not a good idea because we're already over budget and I haven't even got paid yet.
Since I said it's not a good idea her mood went low. We ended up in an argument over something silly. When I said "this is because you have no weed" she hit the roof, got emotionally, and then started telling me how I don't listen to her. I fucking do listen! I just hate being moaned at, and shouted at, because she hasn't got weed. She doesn't understand I see her attitude change. If I gave her a bit of weed she would change to be very happy, overly happy. I see these changes in mood all the time and it pisses me off when she takes her frustration out on me.
There's been times when we've loaned so much weed that we can't afford to eat properly. She doesn't seem concerned by this. I am! Fed up of feeling like I'm walking on eggshells. We've been distant recently because of her weed problem and she just doesn't see the problem. Sometimes she will admit she has one, but when she's fighting with me she will insist her behaviour isn't because she doesn't have weed and is my fault for "not listening to her" ... yet if she had weed she wouldn't be acting the way she does.
Any advice?
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