$ublimaze
Bluelighter
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- Feb 17, 2011
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I been friends with J and his ex for 9 years. They been together for that long also. They broke like 6 months ago or something. After 9 years. They live across the country. He in winnipeg. her in ontario. I visited her like a month ago cuz i was in her home town and she fucking tell me that shes fucking this guy who she had cheated on J with a long time ago. She asks me to not tell J, cuz it would hurt him. I'm like FINE. That makes sense. You two are broken up. Why should he have to experience that hardship on top of it all when they been broken up for 6 months? Why the fuck would I tell my friend?
So its been a month since she told me that. And I was thinking of like how its really shitty hows shes doing that. Like its hard to convey but the circumstances are just bad. Cuz her and him kinda stayed friends. and they grew up together. Its a big deal that shes doing that behind his back. Like probably any other guy woulda been ok.
So they been broken up. They werent talking whatever. So I'm like why the fuck should I tell him this. Plus he lives like a thousand miles away. Then today. Were chatting on gmail. and he starts telling me how hes gonna move back to ontario to be with her. ANd im thinking God No. This girl like flat out betraying you. So I just try to be clever and im like "Bro shes not faithful to you" And hes not really getting it. I'm going "Shes not faithful to you now" and like I really wanted to tell him cuz hes my good friend and I want to save him bullshit. Like this girl doesnt deserve him. This is all over chat btw. ALso. She is my friend. And she is like asking me specificially not to tell him. So I dont want to betray her trust either. Anyway. I tried getting him to promise he wouldnt freak. Before I told him. I was like nah yo if I'm not sure u wont freak and call her right away or something I dont want to tell u. This just made him mad and it was not fun to talk to him that way.
So finally I tell him. & hes just crushed. Like I can tell hes speechless on his end. At first hes just trying to get his head around it. Then he says that like he is thankful i told him. But then he got really mad. He pretty much took it out on me. Which is ok I guess. I cant blame him. It musta really hurt. I didnt want to tell him. Fuck this bitch for putting me in this situation. Honestly. She should have told him.
Hes really mad I didn't tell him right away. But like I didnt think what I was doing was wrong. I thought I was helping him but as soon as it became clear that keeping that info from him wasnt helping him, I told him. Isn't that what a good friend should do? This just happened so hes super mad and I understand like he gonna say all this shit about how I betrayed him and this. Thats cool for now cuz it just happened and hes hurting, but I'm afraid hes gonna keep that up. I think he might like take it to heart and blame me for this bs. My question is do you think I was obligated to tell him? Is that like some homie code that u tell ur friends who their ex gf is fucking? I don't think so, but he seemed to think so.
So its been a month since she told me that. And I was thinking of like how its really shitty hows shes doing that. Like its hard to convey but the circumstances are just bad. Cuz her and him kinda stayed friends. and they grew up together. Its a big deal that shes doing that behind his back. Like probably any other guy woulda been ok.
So they been broken up. They werent talking whatever. So I'm like why the fuck should I tell him this. Plus he lives like a thousand miles away. Then today. Were chatting on gmail. and he starts telling me how hes gonna move back to ontario to be with her. ANd im thinking God No. This girl like flat out betraying you. So I just try to be clever and im like "Bro shes not faithful to you" And hes not really getting it. I'm going "Shes not faithful to you now" and like I really wanted to tell him cuz hes my good friend and I want to save him bullshit. Like this girl doesnt deserve him. This is all over chat btw. ALso. She is my friend. And she is like asking me specificially not to tell him. So I dont want to betray her trust either. Anyway. I tried getting him to promise he wouldnt freak. Before I told him. I was like nah yo if I'm not sure u wont freak and call her right away or something I dont want to tell u. This just made him mad and it was not fun to talk to him that way.
So finally I tell him. & hes just crushed. Like I can tell hes speechless on his end. At first hes just trying to get his head around it. Then he says that like he is thankful i told him. But then he got really mad. He pretty much took it out on me. Which is ok I guess. I cant blame him. It musta really hurt. I didnt want to tell him. Fuck this bitch for putting me in this situation. Honestly. She should have told him.
Hes really mad I didn't tell him right away. But like I didnt think what I was doing was wrong. I thought I was helping him but as soon as it became clear that keeping that info from him wasnt helping him, I told him. Isn't that what a good friend should do? This just happened so hes super mad and I understand like he gonna say all this shit about how I betrayed him and this. Thats cool for now cuz it just happened and hes hurting, but I'm afraid hes gonna keep that up. I think he might like take it to heart and blame me for this bs. My question is do you think I was obligated to tell him? Is that like some homie code that u tell ur friends who their ex gf is fucking? I don't think so, but he seemed to think so.