Last week my we met up with all my brother-in-laws and sister-in-laws to include everyone's children and my wife's parents. On the last day of our trip my father-in-law shared a video tape that he took earlier on that day on the beach of the entire family at random. About midway through the video my father-in-law zoomed in on us as a couple laying on the beach on our towels, he then took the camera and zoomed in on my wife's vagina for more than just a couple seconds. Keep in mind that 15-20 people were watching this video, kids included. You could have heard a pin drop when that part of the video came on.
My wife was outraged and I was heated but we held our composure until the time was right. My wife demanded to talk to both the mother and father about the issue. There was no denial in the allegations, the reply was, "It was just done in good humor." Since this time my wife has had all sorts of suppressed memories surface and she's very upset, feels defiled, degraded, disrespected and scared of the incident. Keep in mind that my wife was emotionally and physically abused by her father and has recently been exploring thoughts of being sexually abused prior to this incident. My wife is disgusted by her past and the many forms of abuse she received throughout her adult life and knows that "something" drove her mad. My wife has never had a normal, civil or loving relationship up until we met. Since I know her so very well its also obvious to myself and PHD's that we've consulted with that severe damage in earlier years steered her into 15 years of emotion, physical and sexual abuse.
Since none of us know one another I thought it would be a good idea hear what any of you think about this. My brother-in-law classifies this as very bad judgment on his part, my sister-in-law thinks states he's always had sick/twisted sense of humor, others have alarmed us stating that we should not allow our daughter or any other children to be alone with the grandfather. We've had some people tell us how sick this is or how he needs help. I've supported my wife through this and even sent an email to her sisters stating that it may be a wise idea to keep an eye out for inappropriate behavior and YES then email may have eluded to her father being a pervert. It appears as though I've struck a cord with one of the sisters by the potential allegation against the father but should I be regretful in expressing my concerns?
How would you "women" feel if your father did this to you and how would you react? How would you "men" feel if this happened to either your daughter or wife?
My wife was outraged and I was heated but we held our composure until the time was right. My wife demanded to talk to both the mother and father about the issue. There was no denial in the allegations, the reply was, "It was just done in good humor." Since this time my wife has had all sorts of suppressed memories surface and she's very upset, feels defiled, degraded, disrespected and scared of the incident. Keep in mind that my wife was emotionally and physically abused by her father and has recently been exploring thoughts of being sexually abused prior to this incident. My wife is disgusted by her past and the many forms of abuse she received throughout her adult life and knows that "something" drove her mad. My wife has never had a normal, civil or loving relationship up until we met. Since I know her so very well its also obvious to myself and PHD's that we've consulted with that severe damage in earlier years steered her into 15 years of emotion, physical and sexual abuse.
Since none of us know one another I thought it would be a good idea hear what any of you think about this. My brother-in-law classifies this as very bad judgment on his part, my sister-in-law thinks states he's always had sick/twisted sense of humor, others have alarmed us stating that we should not allow our daughter or any other children to be alone with the grandfather. We've had some people tell us how sick this is or how he needs help. I've supported my wife through this and even sent an email to her sisters stating that it may be a wise idea to keep an eye out for inappropriate behavior and YES then email may have eluded to her father being a pervert. It appears as though I've struck a cord with one of the sisters by the potential allegation against the father but should I be regretful in expressing my concerns?
How would you "women" feel if your father did this to you and how would you react? How would you "men" feel if this happened to either your daughter or wife?