My aunt and her son has moved in with my mother, brother, and I after she was evicted from her apartment. She had no where else to go and contacted my mother whom she hasn't spoken to in quite some time. She's been living with us for about three months now and august 2nd she received a $26,000 check for back pay from disability. The first two months she was borrowing quite a bit of money from me as she had the $1,000 monthly income from disability and $700 from her widow's benefits.
Being naive and overly trusting I never kept track of the amount of money she borrowed. I thought, "hey she's family, she seems like a good person, and she'll be getting a huge check soon so no worries, right?" Before she got her check she assured me that she would not only pay me back but also give me some more money so I could buy a car.
Well yesterday I asked if it would be okay if my dad took me car shopping. I didn't explain why (my reason being was that he is a man and honestly more intelligent than her so I would get a better deal) I just asked, thinking that she really didn't feel like taking me anyways and that it wouldn't be a big deal. She said yes and seemed a bit annoyed, but I really wasn't sure if she just wasn't feeling well and maybe that's why she responded the way that she did.
This morning I asked her to write me a check for $6,000 (what she had agreed to give me about a week or so ago) so I could go car shopping. She sighed and told me to find a car and then she would write the check. It was definitely obvious that she was irritated, so I just asked for the money that she owed me back. She wrote me a check for $2,700 which was way less than she borrowed. Like I said, I hadn't been keeping track but there was no way it was only $2,700. I gave her $700 cash, she depleted my savings ($2,200) and had been taking at least $100 from my weekly checks for about a month or so after my savings was gone.
I told her that she owed me more and she got very irritated, saying that I had hurt her feelings by asking my dad to take me rather than her. She said that she felt that I just wanted her money and didn't care about her. I explained that I didn't think that she would mind and had I known I never would have asked. After I very heated argument she wrote me a check for $3,500 (around what I thought she owed me).
I feel very bad for hurting her and never wanted to. I'm not a very sentimental person so I just thought that she wouldn't mind, I know now that that was insensitive of me. I don't know what to say to make her understand that I love her and that I'm not using her for her money. Any input or advice would be greatly appreciated.
Being naive and overly trusting I never kept track of the amount of money she borrowed. I thought, "hey she's family, she seems like a good person, and she'll be getting a huge check soon so no worries, right?" Before she got her check she assured me that she would not only pay me back but also give me some more money so I could buy a car.
Well yesterday I asked if it would be okay if my dad took me car shopping. I didn't explain why (my reason being was that he is a man and honestly more intelligent than her so I would get a better deal) I just asked, thinking that she really didn't feel like taking me anyways and that it wouldn't be a big deal. She said yes and seemed a bit annoyed, but I really wasn't sure if she just wasn't feeling well and maybe that's why she responded the way that she did.
This morning I asked her to write me a check for $6,000 (what she had agreed to give me about a week or so ago) so I could go car shopping. She sighed and told me to find a car and then she would write the check. It was definitely obvious that she was irritated, so I just asked for the money that she owed me back. She wrote me a check for $2,700 which was way less than she borrowed. Like I said, I hadn't been keeping track but there was no way it was only $2,700. I gave her $700 cash, she depleted my savings ($2,200) and had been taking at least $100 from my weekly checks for about a month or so after my savings was gone.
I told her that she owed me more and she got very irritated, saying that I had hurt her feelings by asking my dad to take me rather than her. She said that she felt that I just wanted her money and didn't care about her. I explained that I didn't think that she would mind and had I known I never would have asked. After I very heated argument she wrote me a check for $3,500 (around what I thought she owed me).
I feel very bad for hurting her and never wanted to. I'm not a very sentimental person so I just thought that she wouldn't mind, I know now that that was insensitive of me. I don't know what to say to make her understand that I love her and that I'm not using her for her money. Any input or advice would be greatly appreciated.