rast4man
Bluelighter
- Joined
- Sep 11, 2015
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So im at the tail end of a year and a half relationship after a 2 year break. Upon reflection, I've noticed a pattern where I will meet a woman and instantly we mutually become very infatuated with each other. We don't properly date (courtship), spend time getting to know each other and generally do things the right way.
What happens, is we date, become physical and move in together within the first month. The end result, 3 times in a row, is that we endure the relationship for a year or more, start learning about each other (the good and bad) and then it just starts going downhill from there.
For once, I would love to try and find someone that actually wants to get to know each other during the courtship phase and take our time while maybe talking about moving in after a considerable amount of time has passed.
This past relationship was suppose to be the one. We talked about marriage (I proposed after less than a year)and having a child together. I'm almost 40 and I've never been married nor have I ever had kids. It's pretty disheartening.
Am I alone in having had acted like this? What am I doing wrong? Why am I picking women that get overly infatuated and move things along so fast that I just go with it!?
Feedback appreciated.
What happens, is we date, become physical and move in together within the first month. The end result, 3 times in a row, is that we endure the relationship for a year or more, start learning about each other (the good and bad) and then it just starts going downhill from there.
For once, I would love to try and find someone that actually wants to get to know each other during the courtship phase and take our time while maybe talking about moving in after a considerable amount of time has passed.
This past relationship was suppose to be the one. We talked about marriage (I proposed after less than a year)and having a child together. I'm almost 40 and I've never been married nor have I ever had kids. It's pretty disheartening.
Am I alone in having had acted like this? What am I doing wrong? Why am I picking women that get overly infatuated and move things along so fast that I just go with it!?
Feedback appreciated.