We have been back together about a month now (we've been off and on for 6 years). We were separated since the middle of July.
During our time separation he started talking/planning on being with a women he had dated about 1 1/2 years ago (during one of our separated times) again.
(Side note: I know he liked her back then because he moved her in with him but a few weeks later ended the relationship because she stabbed the dog, tried slitting her wrists and many other reasons)
Now, this women is currently in jail. She's been there since the spring. She's getting out within the next month or two. She was planning on coming here but we are not back together.
The first couple weeks we got back together she kept calling his phone and writing letters. He wouldn't answer as he didn't have money on her account for calls (I mentioned earlier she is in jail). I asked self the question "why wouldn't he tell her we are back together?" After all, in her defense she has the right to know and not be lead on and in my defense, I deserve the respect of those doors closing and not being a constantly reminded ( by her phone calls/letters) of their relationship.
One day she called the house. I answered. He and I together told her that we are back together. Yes....she was confused ( I get it). But at that point she should get the hint. Since then she constantly writes and calls. We ( well I ) wrote a letter to her apologizing for the situation, that we are not holding her letters from friends ( she asked) and that she no longer contact us in any way. My boyfriend signed off on it. At this time he also promised to block the prison number so she can no longer call.
From there I didnt question anything. I believed he did what was right. However, as of two days ago, I found out that she has been constantly calling him- including today. It doesn't show that he answered but still.
The other night when she called I got upset and said " I thought you blocked the number?" He got an attitude with me about it and said " I have but they keep coming through." I said well "why haven't you answered and told her to stop calling or attempt to take other measures to stop this?" He said " because I havent"
He is not at all sympathetic to how this would make me feel. I'm always the crazy jealous insecure one that pisses him off.
Am I wrong for thinking he should answer the call and tell her off and to stop calling? Or maybe he should change his number?
Or to take some other forms of measure to cut that rope and make sure she is out of our lives? Or am I wrong and just being jealous and insecure?
I feel like he should be putting some kind of effort into letting me know I have nothing to worry about and putting an end to all of the past reminders of our issues. Especially since I try so hard not to be a naggy person.
During our time separation he started talking/planning on being with a women he had dated about 1 1/2 years ago (during one of our separated times) again.
(Side note: I know he liked her back then because he moved her in with him but a few weeks later ended the relationship because she stabbed the dog, tried slitting her wrists and many other reasons)
Now, this women is currently in jail. She's been there since the spring. She's getting out within the next month or two. She was planning on coming here but we are not back together.
The first couple weeks we got back together she kept calling his phone and writing letters. He wouldn't answer as he didn't have money on her account for calls (I mentioned earlier she is in jail). I asked self the question "why wouldn't he tell her we are back together?" After all, in her defense she has the right to know and not be lead on and in my defense, I deserve the respect of those doors closing and not being a constantly reminded ( by her phone calls/letters) of their relationship.
One day she called the house. I answered. He and I together told her that we are back together. Yes....she was confused ( I get it). But at that point she should get the hint. Since then she constantly writes and calls. We ( well I ) wrote a letter to her apologizing for the situation, that we are not holding her letters from friends ( she asked) and that she no longer contact us in any way. My boyfriend signed off on it. At this time he also promised to block the prison number so she can no longer call.
From there I didnt question anything. I believed he did what was right. However, as of two days ago, I found out that she has been constantly calling him- including today. It doesn't show that he answered but still.
The other night when she called I got upset and said " I thought you blocked the number?" He got an attitude with me about it and said " I have but they keep coming through." I said well "why haven't you answered and told her to stop calling or attempt to take other measures to stop this?" He said " because I havent"
He is not at all sympathetic to how this would make me feel. I'm always the crazy jealous insecure one that pisses him off.
Am I wrong for thinking he should answer the call and tell her off and to stop calling? Or maybe he should change his number?
Or to take some other forms of measure to cut that rope and make sure she is out of our lives? Or am I wrong and just being jealous and insecure?
I feel like he should be putting some kind of effort into letting me know I have nothing to worry about and putting an end to all of the past reminders of our issues. Especially since I try so hard not to be a naggy person.
