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Words can’t begin to describe how i really feel, but ill try anyway. Oct 12th , gosh i can even remember the minute, was what i “thought” to be the best day of my life. The girl who i loved for 3 years final confessed that she liked me. After struggling so much, and praying so much, everything worked out great, right? Well not exactly…
The next day when we looked at each other all we could do was awkwardly smile at each other, and we were sort of embarrassed to even look at each other. Until i took her and said, “Listen what are we going to do from here” she replied saying “Well i have Mcats coming up so I’m very stressed out about that” i then made a deal with her that we would be reserved until she’s done and then we can be official. Gosh was i happy.. I was already so ecstatic about asking her out, that i was practically counting the days. The girl of my DREAMS finally liked me. 2 weeks in we were stronger than concrete. but that was the last of that run. i don’t know what exactly happened but day by day, she was acting a little more shady, a little more nervous. What could it be?! was it me? This is where my anxiety and overthinking came into play. I let it go. About a day after it was finally a month since the "greatest day of my life”she said we needed to talk. Oh boy i knew this wouldn’t be good. After much fussing and trying to get it out of her, she basically made it clear to me that she:
-Had commitment Issues
-Didn’t feel comfortable with me knowing yet, thus why she acted like that
-Decided we should decelerate back into friendship
There are no guarantees, we’ll just have to see if this could actually work out
Wow. what a low blow. After this convo i slowly felt like my world was crashing. No one goes through what i went through. Everyone would just leave right away, but i still waited. My heart was broken. What really was it, am i not good enough? Girls have come to me chasing after me, yet I’m so hung up on her. I love her. Now we’re here about 2 months since the “Best day” and i still don’t go whats going on. Whether she is ignoring me, laughing with me, getting mad at me, or even flirting with others infant of me. Its grown into an obsession with her. Its a constant fear that there are no guarantees. She could leave and be happy at any time, i would have to live with the consequences of that failed beginning of a relationship forever. 3 years invested and i was never told that i was good enough. I’ve learned to hate myself. I think its time to leave. To be happy, and to Finally love myself again. I was the face of the youth amongst our area. Everyone knew me, yet, i was the most broken on the inside. Day and night all i do is overthink, pray, and cry. My anxiety levels are through the roof. If i leave, what happens. Is that it? The person i imagined spending the rest of my life with wont be there anymore, and she even be falling in love with someone else. I can’t live with that in the back of my head. So everyday is a new day and a new emotion. When i leave will she regret all that she has done? Whats it going to be. The world may never know. I don’t know what to do, i feel helpless.
The next day when we looked at each other all we could do was awkwardly smile at each other, and we were sort of embarrassed to even look at each other. Until i took her and said, “Listen what are we going to do from here” she replied saying “Well i have Mcats coming up so I’m very stressed out about that” i then made a deal with her that we would be reserved until she’s done and then we can be official. Gosh was i happy.. I was already so ecstatic about asking her out, that i was practically counting the days. The girl of my DREAMS finally liked me. 2 weeks in we were stronger than concrete. but that was the last of that run. i don’t know what exactly happened but day by day, she was acting a little more shady, a little more nervous. What could it be?! was it me? This is where my anxiety and overthinking came into play. I let it go. About a day after it was finally a month since the "greatest day of my life”she said we needed to talk. Oh boy i knew this wouldn’t be good. After much fussing and trying to get it out of her, she basically made it clear to me that she:
-Had commitment Issues
-Didn’t feel comfortable with me knowing yet, thus why she acted like that
-Decided we should decelerate back into friendship
There are no guarantees, we’ll just have to see if this could actually work out
Wow. what a low blow. After this convo i slowly felt like my world was crashing. No one goes through what i went through. Everyone would just leave right away, but i still waited. My heart was broken. What really was it, am i not good enough? Girls have come to me chasing after me, yet I’m so hung up on her. I love her. Now we’re here about 2 months since the “Best day” and i still don’t go whats going on. Whether she is ignoring me, laughing with me, getting mad at me, or even flirting with others infant of me. Its grown into an obsession with her. Its a constant fear that there are no guarantees. She could leave and be happy at any time, i would have to live with the consequences of that failed beginning of a relationship forever. 3 years invested and i was never told that i was good enough. I’ve learned to hate myself. I think its time to leave. To be happy, and to Finally love myself again. I was the face of the youth amongst our area. Everyone knew me, yet, i was the most broken on the inside. Day and night all i do is overthink, pray, and cry. My anxiety levels are through the roof. If i leave, what happens. Is that it? The person i imagined spending the rest of my life with wont be there anymore, and she even be falling in love with someone else. I can’t live with that in the back of my head. So everyday is a new day and a new emotion. When i leave will she regret all that she has done? Whats it going to be. The world may never know. I don’t know what to do, i feel helpless.