I get extremely horny on meth and my thoughts race with the dirtiest sexual fantasies. If myself and my partner are both tweaking and both interested at the time to play out these sexual acts I don't see anything wrong with it. Ive seen alot of people on this forum talk about how disgusting and degrading it is to say have role play rape fantasies or call your partner a cock sucking slut or a dirty hooker and treat her like one.
But in all honesty what two sexual partners consent to, is their own business and if they feel that they would like to share their stories on this forum then I don't see anything wrong with that at all.
How much different is it honestly if a gay guy on this forum discusses how much pleasure he has in sucking off other men? Alot of straight people might b offended and react by taunting and harassing the individual because they aren't in favor of his sexual orientation. But I am straight and I yet even though I view homosexuality to b personally distasteful, quit frankly its non of my friking business and I take no offense to it.
It seems that alot of people using this forum are way too hyper sensitive about other personal sexual desires and fantasies and shouldn't be using this site at all.
I also think many of you should read a book called "My Secret Garden". It's a 1973 book compiled by Nancy Friday who collected women's fantasies through letters and taped and personal interviews. After including a female sexual fantasy in a novel she submitted for publishing, her editor objected, and Friday shelved the novel.
Later, after other women began writing and talking about sex publicly, Friday began thinking about writing a book about female sexual fantasies, first collecting fantasies from her friends, and then advertising in newspapers and magazines for more. She organized these narratives into "rooms", and each is identified by the woman's first name, except for the last chapter, "odd notes", which is presented as the "fleeting thoughts" of many anonymous women. The book revealed that women fantasize, just as men do, and that the content of the fantasies can be as transgressive, or not, as men's. The book, the first published compilation of women's sexual fantasies,
refuted many previously accepted notions of female sexuality.
I can recant one female sexual encounter in this book submitted by an anonymous female that fantasized about being raped by a dog... The fantasy never happened but as disgusting as I think that is, I respect that everyone is entitled to their right to hold what every sexual desires or fantasies they wish, and to share such intimate and personal stories with others is such a kool thing. So I think some of you really have to chill out.
Very interesting.
Honestly in my experience, and going by what I've read, women have dirtier sexual fantasies than men on average.
You ask most men what their "ultimate sexual fantasy" is and they'll probably mention threesomes or something.
Way more women would instead start talking about fantasies involving degradation, rape roleplay, ageplay, kidnapping scenes, you fucking name it.
Most of the women I've been with had some form of rape fantasy. This is not at all uncommon if the data is anything to by. Example:
A team of psychologists led by a woman has uncovered some surprising findings on one of the most secret aspects of female sexual fantasy.
www.huffingtonpost.co.uk
According to the stats in the above article, 62% of women in one study had some type of rape fantasy.
What about porn? Well we know women are far more likely to read erotica than watch porn videos. Go to Literotica, the biggest erotica site on the net, and the most popular categories are "incest/taboo", "non-consent", "fetish", and "BDSM."
But what of those women who do watch porn? Although a minority compared to male viewers, female porn viewers are much more likely than the males to watch "extreme" porn such as hardcore BDSM, painful anal, public humiliation, rape scenes, gangbangs, etc than they are to watch vanilla stuff. Example:
New data reveals that women in their droves are searching for porn with tags like "extreme brutal gangbang", "forced" and "rape".
www.vice.com
A quote from the Google researcher whole compiled this data from full access to Pornhub's database: "If there is a genre of porn in which violence is perpetrated against a woman, my analysis of the data shows that it almost always appeals disproportionately to women."
This chart is also pretty interesting. Not super scientific since it's just based on an internet survey, but from my experience in the BDSM scene it seems about right to me:
I find it curious that if you look at what ranks as 3 and above (and therefore has significant sexual interest among respondents) most of the kinky stuff is pink, meaning majority female interest, whereas the blue dots are more vanilla like "uniforms" and of course "group sex" cuz threesomes and nurse outfits are apparently the kinkiest most men get.
And just to speak of my own anecdotal experiences, many women will complain their ex's didn't feel comfortable even lightly spanking them, let alone doing the more hardcore shit they fantasised about. When they find a guy who is into that stuff they are often quite surprised.
I also have to wonder how many men are simply scared to do what women want even if they make it very obvious they have consent. That's a whole other discussion on its own, but here is one example written by a woman in the New York Times (archive link to bypass paywall):
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TL;DR of that one is the woman invited a guy from Tinder over to her place and he literally thought he had to ask permission for every piece of clothing he took off despite her making very clear she was DTF. So if this is a common attitude now, no wonder men are scared to do a bit of spanking. The woman who wrote the article speculated the guy was scared of the legal system, which seems to hint at fear of a MeToo type thing going down.
Overall I guess my point is men on average may have more testosterone and therefore more desire for sex, especially casual sex, but women are the ones far more likely to be kinky when it comes down to it.
