GrymReefer
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Never really thought about discussing this until I mentioned it a few times as of recently. Bare with me on this bizarre post and please share your experiences or opinions. Or just sympathize with me because you too know the curse...
I have retarded ejaculation.
I'll explain my story in sections to prevent confusion or difficulty in interpretation....
Pre 16 years of age- I knew what the typical orgasm felt like. I personally lost my virginity at 12 years old and was generally sexually promiscuous as a young child obviously. Like every other dude on the face of this planet I masturbated excessively as a young teenager in between whatever awkward sexual encounters I experienced. From my memory I guess I was normal in time? It would take me a good 10-15 minutes before I got off.
The surgery- I had a laparoscopic varicocelectomy to correct a vascular defect causing me an immense amount of pain as well as intratesticular pressure/swelling. I had it done when I was 16 years old and I was fully functional about 3-4 days later. Minimally invasive surgery. 3 incision marks in the umbilical region (left inguinal canal, directly below belly button, and 2 inches above where my penis connects to my pelvic area)
Post 16 years of age- Ever since the surgery orgasms are seldom experienced. Minimal amount of time I take to get off would be around 2 hours and I've went for 8 hours before I finally had my first climax (it was completely sober 8 hours. Just very determined) I don't even try to masturbate anymore. Reason number one. If I did my left/right forearm comparison would be embarrassing and reason number two is that I got too ravenous one time and I literally ripped the skin off my dick. (took forever to heal. everytime I got morning wood is would rip the scab)
I haven't had a sexual experience now in 2 years because I just gave up. I'm 23 years old and I just pretty much gave up on sexuality. I gave up because I realized that girls I slept with would have some insecurity issue with me later on because they thought they weren't good enough in bed. (really bothered me) Also it is very difficult to find a girl who isn't too nasty to actually try to have sex for 6+ hours straight. I had one girlfriend in my existence and it took me a good 9 months to work her up to having vaginal intercourse for a consistent 2-3 hours without too much pain. Also because of my inability to have frequent orgasms, when I do get off its a giant mess and I hate it.
I don't have erectile dysfunction. Its just that I don't really feel anything besides the sensation of touch (I'm assuming the pressure from a hand is what I feel) If I want to try to have an orgasm I have to concentrate on such an immense level that I've been told multiple times that I looked preoccupied during sex or that I was busy thinking about something else. I just have that look of preoccupation when I'm trying to concentrate in on any sensation..
Girls: Would you be offended if you couldn't get your guy off? Even after he explained the predisposition? I've tried explaining that its just as gratifying to have her achieve climax(s) from me. The connection is all that really matters.
Guys: Is getting off too fast really that bad? I was told from girls I've messed with that most guys get off 3-4 minutes in.. sometimes faster. Is that accurate?
Idk why I made this thread, but hopefully someone else can fake sympathy for me or maybe someone else already knows this ball game and can give me tips on how to improve my sexual experiences in the future.
I have retarded ejaculation.
I'll explain my story in sections to prevent confusion or difficulty in interpretation....
Pre 16 years of age- I knew what the typical orgasm felt like. I personally lost my virginity at 12 years old and was generally sexually promiscuous as a young child obviously. Like every other dude on the face of this planet I masturbated excessively as a young teenager in between whatever awkward sexual encounters I experienced. From my memory I guess I was normal in time? It would take me a good 10-15 minutes before I got off.
The surgery- I had a laparoscopic varicocelectomy to correct a vascular defect causing me an immense amount of pain as well as intratesticular pressure/swelling. I had it done when I was 16 years old and I was fully functional about 3-4 days later. Minimally invasive surgery. 3 incision marks in the umbilical region (left inguinal canal, directly below belly button, and 2 inches above where my penis connects to my pelvic area)
Post 16 years of age- Ever since the surgery orgasms are seldom experienced. Minimal amount of time I take to get off would be around 2 hours and I've went for 8 hours before I finally had my first climax (it was completely sober 8 hours. Just very determined) I don't even try to masturbate anymore. Reason number one. If I did my left/right forearm comparison would be embarrassing and reason number two is that I got too ravenous one time and I literally ripped the skin off my dick. (took forever to heal. everytime I got morning wood is would rip the scab)
I haven't had a sexual experience now in 2 years because I just gave up. I'm 23 years old and I just pretty much gave up on sexuality. I gave up because I realized that girls I slept with would have some insecurity issue with me later on because they thought they weren't good enough in bed. (really bothered me) Also it is very difficult to find a girl who isn't too nasty to actually try to have sex for 6+ hours straight. I had one girlfriend in my existence and it took me a good 9 months to work her up to having vaginal intercourse for a consistent 2-3 hours without too much pain. Also because of my inability to have frequent orgasms, when I do get off its a giant mess and I hate it.
I don't have erectile dysfunction. Its just that I don't really feel anything besides the sensation of touch (I'm assuming the pressure from a hand is what I feel) If I want to try to have an orgasm I have to concentrate on such an immense level that I've been told multiple times that I looked preoccupied during sex or that I was busy thinking about something else. I just have that look of preoccupation when I'm trying to concentrate in on any sensation..
Girls: Would you be offended if you couldn't get your guy off? Even after he explained the predisposition? I've tried explaining that its just as gratifying to have her achieve climax(s) from me. The connection is all that really matters.
Guys: Is getting off too fast really that bad? I was told from girls I've messed with that most guys get off 3-4 minutes in.. sometimes faster. Is that accurate?
Idk why I made this thread, but hopefully someone else can fake sympathy for me or maybe someone else already knows this ball game and can give me tips on how to improve my sexual experiences in the future.