I have guilt over the murder of my then 3 year old son...why did I have to workthat day, why did I leave him, why didn't I see warning signs, etc.
Truth is, I have also wanted to die many times and in my despair and grief during the first few years, I came pretty close, but something in me kept fighting.
Listen, I ask you to write down all the positives and negatives in your life and realize that when we are under the influence of drugs and alcohol, we are not ourselves, we do and say hurtful and crazy things. We have all been there, we have. Relationships get strained, we get depressed and no matter how hard we try to be positive, negativity creeps in.
You are special to those you love, I can tell this in your post. And you are not too far gone to be redeemed, to love YOU again, and become anew.
Part of being an addict is realizing that you are an addict, understanding that there is help for your addiction and you can change if you want.
- Set realistic goals for yourself .. Even if you relapse, know that you can do this, even if you have moments of weakness.
- Forgive .. Yes, forgive you first and forgive those you love second. And know that eveyone has different personalities and we sometimes clash but learn to be grateful for the little things in a relationship.
- Lastly, understand that we damage our brains and bodies with addiction. I don't care if people disagree, we do. Once you burn up the natural pleasure zone, it takes time to heal and sometimes it never does fully, but learn to be happy again. Try exercising, volunteering, etc and take it slow.
Vitamins, eating healthy, cutting your alcohol consumption safely daily, weekly, monthly.
Never quit drinking cold turkey, it's dangerous.
And try to get help with the underlying depression. Of course chemical imbalance combined with alcohol is major. Maybe medications and therapy can help.
I wish you all the best. Hang in there. Hugs.