I'm pretty sure that it's a permanent issue that some men have and others do not but I wonder if anyone has got past it. Background:
27yo, healthy and fit in most other ways. Somehow in the last five years I've notched up 22 "sexual encounters", which may or may not include actual penetration. Many of those and a lot of other opportunities that I discarded at an earlier stage were lost due to my complete inability to achieve a decent erection with anyone new.
The one girl I could immediately and easily get hard for, even without direct stimulation, was someone I fucked exclusively (on my part at least, lol) for two or three years and I got very used to her. If I remember correctly, it was a bit hit or miss at the start and I did have some trouble for the first few weeks. However, when I met her she was my first in about six months and so I wasn't used to anyone else at the time and was perhaps more able to adapt.
It was a rough friendship and frankly we didn't ever like each other very much at all, but the sex was great and I guess my brain became wired to respond to her. She has a very high sex drive and was helpful and enthusiastic, which is also good as I'm finding most chicks just lie there and wait to be fucked, and don't get into it very much.
So - I've tried Viagra (25 and 50mg doses) and I can't really say it does a lot. I feel some nasal congestion and become slightly flushed and I would say that erections come slightly easier, but unless I knew I had taken the drug I wouldn't actually be sure anything was happening. Nonetheless, it has enabled me to fuck a few new chicks but still with a lot of work and I can't keep it up for long or really do very much. If I do get hard with it then it's solid but just in the first couple of minutes and then I lose it for good. Perhaps because my problem is largely psychological a PDE5 inhibitor just isn't going to make much difference.
Added to the problem is that 99.9% of my sex has been in some kind longish-term situation where of course we didn't bother with condoms, and honestly I can't feel a single thing through even the thinnest condom. So that doesn't help, either.
Has anyone managed to get out of this situation? Things I'm trying:
1) Absolutely no more sexual contact with the girl mentioned before - hopefully in time I'll "forget" what that was like.
2) Attempt to engage with a number of one-time or short-term girls to expose myself to variety and maybe get used to that.
3) Keep using Viagra for first times when possible.
And before anyone suggests "finding one person to get used to again", well it's a nice idea isn't it but ultimately I don't believe such a thing is possible or sensible, and I'll just end up stuck again like this, haha. A chick who's fun and into sex is going to be into sex with other people than just me, so I really do need to be more capable in new situations.
It's hard to say how common this problem is, because of course the majority of men don't really get a whole lot of new sex, and in the minority who do we would expect to see an over-representation of positive, encouraging qualities such as erection facility, as that's part of what makes them that sort of chap in the first place.
Any ideas???
Thanks,[/Q. Well honestly the thing is the stronger your heart the better and easier you will achieve an erection. I would recommend more cardio not stressful cardio just a good pace to keep your heart rate up I realized that I've been lazy a lot after starting my job I thought I got enough cardio doing the work that I was doing as a plumber doing the new houses and then realized that I was so tired after work that my sex life was suffering and I had just recently quit smoking cigarettes I've always been a champion in the bedroom or so I've Been Told but I wasn't as hard as I had in the past then I started doing cardeo and hard as a rock you Heart has to work hard to keep you dick hard this will help I guarantee it
