Hey all,
Got an interesting and weird situation that I both just need to get off my chest and also to get some opinions on.
I have a love interest, we are both extremely in love with each other but I am yet to enter a relationship with her as we live interstate from each other and I will only ask her face to face.
I have a slightly weird personality when it comes to love interests - I am the sort that can be a little messed up when thinking about the whole casual sex thing. I cant have sex with a person without a genuine connection and I have been playing with a close friend of mine here casually knowing it wont lead anywhere. That being said if I know my actual love interest is playing around I get very jealous.
Now the crux of issue is that I found out when we were having a good long talk last night that 3 months ago at a big convention, a guy that we both knew decided to make a move on her and when she was absolutely off her face and I wasnt there, they ended up having sex. She didnt really have any feelings for him and it was all casual but she was angry about it next morning because she normally wouldnt have done anything but was very drunk. The problem was that he was dead sober. If it was any other guy, I wouldnt mind as much but he is a user and the thought that he took advantage of her makes me both pissed off and want to fuck him up and leave him with a few broken facial bones and its also a sticking point when I think of asking this girl to be mine because the thought of them having been together makes me shudder.
At the time, ill also be clear, it was before we both said we loved each other and were talking about being together and I know that and she said she is trying to forget that it happened because it was a drunken mistake. She said being with anyone else sexually or even romantically makes her feel bad and sick like its wrong because she only wants me and I trust her when she says that. I feel like she could be my one because we are so perfect. I am just trying to get over this guy having been with her and its sticking. What the hell can I do? Am I wrong for thinking this way? I'm a bit heartbroken even though I have no right to be. :/
Got an interesting and weird situation that I both just need to get off my chest and also to get some opinions on.
I have a love interest, we are both extremely in love with each other but I am yet to enter a relationship with her as we live interstate from each other and I will only ask her face to face.
I have a slightly weird personality when it comes to love interests - I am the sort that can be a little messed up when thinking about the whole casual sex thing. I cant have sex with a person without a genuine connection and I have been playing with a close friend of mine here casually knowing it wont lead anywhere. That being said if I know my actual love interest is playing around I get very jealous.
Now the crux of issue is that I found out when we were having a good long talk last night that 3 months ago at a big convention, a guy that we both knew decided to make a move on her and when she was absolutely off her face and I wasnt there, they ended up having sex. She didnt really have any feelings for him and it was all casual but she was angry about it next morning because she normally wouldnt have done anything but was very drunk. The problem was that he was dead sober. If it was any other guy, I wouldnt mind as much but he is a user and the thought that he took advantage of her makes me both pissed off and want to fuck him up and leave him with a few broken facial bones and its also a sticking point when I think of asking this girl to be mine because the thought of them having been together makes me shudder.
At the time, ill also be clear, it was before we both said we loved each other and were talking about being together and I know that and she said she is trying to forget that it happened because it was a drunken mistake. She said being with anyone else sexually or even romantically makes her feel bad and sick like its wrong because she only wants me and I trust her when she says that. I feel like she could be my one because we are so perfect. I am just trying to get over this guy having been with her and its sticking. What the hell can I do? Am I wrong for thinking this way? I'm a bit heartbroken even though I have no right to be. :/