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can a man go crazy without sex?

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rubenr4g

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im 23 and its been four years of no sex for me( i been going through some stuff). could this be affecting my mental health? Been considering getting a hooker( the want for sex is that bad)
 
No it can't make you go crazy. Sure you may crave it but it won't make you crazy. Masturbation helps.
 
It will only make u "crazy" if u stress over it..if u just accept u are having a dry spell and work on yourself u will be fine.
 
im in the same position, its a basic desire, but it can be ignored for the most part

i have a working hypothesis that lust can be reduced through a) not watching porn at all (including looking at soft porn or any sexualised imagery) b) not checking out girls tits/ass (just eye contact basically), and c) not fantasising about sex or sexual things, or catch yourself fantasising and focus your attention elsewhere

it takes some presence of mind and will power/intention

my libido isn't as strong as it used to be, but i think that might be from a prolonged absence of human intimacy, or a by-product of depression. that makes it somewhat easier
 
P.o.T.u.S said:
It will only make u "crazy" if u stress over it..if u just accept u are having a dry spell and work on yourself u will be fine.
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Agreed...if you obsess about it then maybe it'll make you 'crazy' (although I'm not quite sure what that means) but it's not an essential need or anything. Why haven't you had sex in so long, if you don't mind me asking? I'm just wondering because I'm not sure a hooker will satisfy your cravings. It depends on what you're really craving...it might not just be the physicality of it.
 
I miss intimacy more than the sex. Even just hugging and spooning on the sofa whilst watching TV, playing with her skin. Sex is just like the icing on the cake.. it's great and all but by itself it can be too sweet. Need the bulk of the cake too, that's where the real substance is.
 
It can cause tension, no doubt. But going crazy? I suppose if you ponder on it for a long time then yeah but that's mental stress not physical stress. For me, intimacy is what I miss more than actual sex. Just the thought of having another warm body near to touch and hold and play with. Much for satisfying than having sex. Even though that's what it normally leads to.
 
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I miss intimacy more than the sex. Even just hugging and spooning on the sofa whilst watching TV, playing with her skin. Sex is just like the icing on the cake.. it's great and all but by itself it can be too sweet. Need the bulk of the cake too, that's where the real substance is.
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Agreed. I could go ages (well, sort of!) without sex but it's the intimacy I'd miss most, for sure.
 
first thanks for the replys. ive told my story on bluelight before but the short version. at 19 i quit drugs because my life was falling apart. when i sobered up my body went into a sort of shock and i developed an anxiety disorder which led to anorexia, binge eating and diabetes in that order. these past 4 years have been hell ( i nearly died twice) and gained a bunch of weight( been dieting and im 50 pounds away from being at my normal skinny 150lbs again). i would have to disagree about it not being necessary, isnt it what we live to do? reproduce...the intimacy thing sounds right though, i do crave that human contact. theres a girl im talking to right now which makes me happy but even then i still want sex. even if its not with her
 
Comes in waves for me.. sometimes i'll have weekly sex for months, other times like now it can be 6 months+ of nothing. It's usually down to circumstances, i'm too focused on other things right now and don't have the time or patience to go through the motions of meeting people. The urge drives me crazy right up to the point until after masturbating and then it's an irrelevant after-thought..

Do what you need to do to sort your life out, which sounds like your well on your way.. and the sex will flow.
 
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I miss intimacy more than the sex. Even just hugging and spooning on the sofa whilst watching TV, playing with her skin. Sex is just like the icing on the cake.. it's great and all but by itself it can be too sweet. Need the bulk of the cake too, that's where the real substance is.
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yeah, people want to feel physically connected, that why lots of people have dogs realistically cos they're taclie
 
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