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_mistresspoppy_

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I'm one of those girls- the type obsessed with looking "perfect" and having the perfect body. But what is the perfect body to you?
Mostly a question for the gentlemen out here.
I've noticed two "ideals"- the model, who is extremely thin/fragile looking, usually smaller breasts. Then there's the porn star. Obviously all porn stars look different, but they tend to be "thicker". Still really fit, but curvier hips, bigger (often fake) boobs.
I just can't get the model look. I have a flat bony bird chest, but the rest of me is Thicker. I exercise 7 days a week, 1-2 hours a day. Not female body builder kind of exercise- I do mostly cardio with some toning, but food is really important to my family growing up, it was how we spent time together and bonded. At 5'5", 25" waist, 113 pounds, 18% body fat, I'm technically healthy. But I find the borderline-anorexic model body type extremely attractive. It annoys the hell out of me that regardless of how much I exercise, I cannot get that body- because that's not the kind of body you get from exercise, but not eating. With a -very- heavily padded bra, however, I can pull off the porn star build.
And-- do you men out there consider push up bras cheating, or is cleavage just cleavage, regardless of how it's achieved? I've actually been told by an ex that he'd rather me chop up my body and get implants rather than wear a +2 cup size bra. The sad part is, I definetly would, but it's expensive and I have a phobia of needles.
 
Mistresspoppy, that sounds like quite an unhealthy obsession...you exercise 1-2 hours a day, every single day, because you want to look borderline anorexic? Is that really something worth pursuing?

I'm not trying to diminish your feelings at all, it's just that those sorts of thoughts & behaviour are what made me properly anorexic a few years ago. And although I did have the more 'model' look I can assure you ending up at a hospital because I was so dangerously skinny did not make the whole thing worth it. I also highly doubt anyone found it attractive.

If that isn't your body type there's no point trying to force yourself into taking on a skin you won't fit into. It just doesn't work that way and it's only going to serve to hurt you, both physically and psychologically. You need to accept the things you can't really control about yourself - get yourself to your optimal weight and to the figure you think looks best on you, and don't try to push it further than that! You won't be able to so you may as well learn to love yourself as you are.
 
In my experience, what men find attractive is a woman who accepts her own body regardless of the body shape and who can let go and enjoy herself. Trust me, I actually have male friends complain how they find it a complete turn-off that their stunning girlfriend is so obsessed with her look that they'd rather date an average-looking girl who is comfortable in her skin. I once slept with a fashion photographer who told me he couldn't stand sleeping with models any more because their body image issues were getting in the way of being able to express their sexuality freely and it drove him mad. He was actually sooo into my belly, he just wouldn't leave it alone (I'm slim and exercise a few times a week but have an hourglass figure and a soft tummy which sticks out a little. Never have problems finding men who find me attractive) and he really loved how I just didn't care that I wasn't perfect. No one is perfect, but we can make ourselves perfectly miserable trying to pursue an unattainable idea instead of learning to accept and love ourselves.
 
Hrmpf. Let me see if I can be sensitive about this, something I'm poor at.

I'm not a straight guy, I'm actually a gay male, so I'll present this to you from my perspective, having known models, etc, for many years.

Ok, so you're dieting and exercising because the body type you find attractive is what is portrayed in the mainstream media. The ones that perpetuate body dysmorphic disorder. You're not working out to make yourself happy, nor are you achieving the results that you would like. You should be working out for your health, not to fit into the twisted bodytype of fashion hell. Those people aren't happy. You aren't happy. What's to gain from this?

I mean, I get it, too. In the gay culture, you're pressured to be young and fit and fit into some cunts sexual fantasy. Fuck that I say. I have a brain and education, have no trouble finding people to date or whatnot, and they're as happy with my little white skinny pasty ass as I am. I'm never going to be a gymcunt. I'm just not. It's not something I enjoy, and why should I? I'm healthy enough as it is.

You should be happy with you, in the body of a real woman. The one you were born with. Sure, you can struggle to try to change your physical characteristics but....in the end, what are you going to achieve?

Anyway, I'll stop rambling. Just a few spare thoughts, and my two pence.

Cheers!

p.s. love yourself hun, you should!
 
I prefer some curves. Women are supposed to be soft. Toned without being muscle bound. Stick thin with ribcage showing does absolutely nothing for me.
 
Narcissism--somatic narcissism--isn't healthy. At the extreme end it becomes a disorder in and of itself.

Narcissism usually renders one weak, because it requires a reflection that must be constantly sought out and ultimately maintained.

I'm with lola on this one.
 
At least you realize that, for your body type, the super-skinny-model look isn't very realistic. If you don't have that particular bone structure, it doesn't matter how skinny you get, you aren't going to look that way. It may take some time to figure out what the best look/weight for you is. It's better to find what is best for you and then find a partner that is attracted to that rather than trying to attain an appearance that you think other people will like, when it isn't realistic for your body type.
 
I learned that there a three basic body type, endomorphic, mesomorphic and ectomorphic. I'm an endomorph (which means chunky) and there is not much you can do about it.
 
Shut up. Who the fuck cares? Your body is your body.

I was always super skinny (80lbs) and I used to get made fun of all the time--till the point I was eating "peanut butter balls with maple syrup" before bed. I gained like 5lbs. I'm currently 90lbs? 5'1". I had no problem getting guys. Small boobs. It's goes waaay beyond your looks--it's your personality too! Guys always say, a super hot playboy model type comes in and opens her mouth-- she's instantly unattractive because she lacks a personality.

Also, your ex and is an ex for a reason--he sounds like a douche-- FORGET EVERYTHING HE TOLD YOU.

EDIT: I use push-up bras all the time--who cares? It's not like they're going to see it. Even if they do--there's a naked chick in front of them. What are they going to really say, oh you used a pushed up bra and tricked me! I only bang girls with C cups. Srsly.
 
Me likes morrrrrenitas. Flacas! :):) thats dark n skinny. Also to the op, sounds like you are fine. Nice to hear someone who takes care of their body, dont worry about gaining something if you dont have it. Just be happy:) Tranquila, ok?
 
I'm 5'7 and quite large framed. Like Marilyn Monroe/Linda Evans type built. But I'm happy enough with it as those types tend to be well-proportioned. Plus blessed in the chest area and wider hips.

And there's enough guys who go for that look. I guess it makes a change from the stick-thin built many women have (not to do with fat but muscle-mass and bonestructure). At least it draws a lot of looks and attention - I guess it's more "body" for them to respond to.

Though the ideal female built I think is the Madonna-type - like a smaller, more feminine version of me. I'd trade my body for that - though I wouldn't be 5'7". Anway, I know men enjoy variety, so it's not such a big deal. Beauty and proportion is more important than size.
 
Madonna: no.

it's not so much about what you can control but what is natural in terms of looks. Symmetry and proportions play a big role in what is deemed attractive by most people.

some girls may be in great shape but i wouldn't go near them, others may not give a shit and are instantly attractive when i see them. it's usually just something about them, how they carry themselves, what they are wearing or how they are wearing it, just the feeling i get when i see them, hardly anything objective. Body type does play a role but definitely more of a minor one and preferences vary depending on the girl. There is no ideal body type IMO. What i find attractive and what other guys find attractive varies so much.

Anyway, every guy has preferences, so aside from symmetry/proportions, it doesn't really matter. I'd much prefer to be around someone who isn't obsessed with their body image than someone who is, that definitely makes a difference.
 
Symmetry + beautiful shapes + colours (and natural size)

All the diet/exercise in the world can't make up for that.

The honour goes to your grandmothers.
 
Change you exercise routine. Make it more fun and less about goals. Swimming is perfect for body development. Yoga too.

My wife has a regular body type. Her breasts are usually B cups. (She's pregnant now so they are D).
 
I seen you in a "Picture" thread, awhile back your pretty much my dream girl as is if only u were 3 and 1/4 inches taller :( So u have to wear high heels at all times. Everything after dream girl is sarcasm lol/pointing out what your ex said was retarded.

Ideal woman a lil shorter than me, and tbh as long as she's in shape, is a decent person and can get my horrible sarcastic nature. Thats all i need. Tho blonds, that are skinny/thin/in shape with a, b, or c breasts as long as they look natural really get my attention very quickly. Deer in headlights yeah thats usually what happens.
 
Why do you covet this body type so much ? If you do not have the body structure to be that little it's not really possible unless you starve yourself to that size. Anorexics don't get that skinny by working out .
 
people who like/are comfortable with themselves give out better vibes than those who desire to be something else
 
It sounds like an unhealthy obsession.

pofacedhoe said:
people who like/are comfortable with themselves give out better vibes than those who desire to be something else
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Exactly!!! Some people will find you attractive, some people will find you unattractive. That is the beauty of this world. It would suck if every guy in this world was only attracted to one type of female. It obviously isn't true either. Just be yourself <3
 
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