I want to make a strong case here in favor of something I perceive many ladies hate profoundly:
Idea of being with a girl which might or might not be an ideal lifelong partner (given that such really exists) as opposed to just sitting and waiting for a "princess charming", and vice versa.
There are numerous advantages to this, first of all, experience of interacting and possibly even living full time with another person and learning about the other but even more important about yourself.
Using my beloved car analogy, it would be like you refused to drive an old Ford since you cannot currently afford an expensive Mercedes SUV, and you walked to work instead. No one in his right mind would do this. Seems that "leagues" and hard-fact qualities do play a role and some girls are actually out for reach for those who do not possess certain traits, so to be waiting for them would be foolish. On the other hand, it's impossible to ignore a desire for wanting always higher quality, better, more beautiful, more prestigious...
It's love toward yourself at it's best, love for the life of abundance, freedom and satisfaction; instead of being locked into some kind of a Disney-style fairy tale of monogamy and limiting beliefs stating that what you have "must" always make you happy.
Same applies to friends, parents, everyone...Like it's not that we necessarily like all those people we invited to the party or those old folks, but there are NO BETTER POSSIBILITIES right now and currently the equilibrium is set at this particular point. In addition, those people are actually helping us reach our goals and we can help them reach theirs.
Long lasting relationships of any kind can only develop where any move of one party is accompanied by a complementary move of the other party thus keeping the equilibrium in place, otherwise people drift apart.
Many of us, I believe, are in these states of temporary equilibria looking to move...somewhere...possible where our ever evolving desires bring us...possibly where our wishes can be better satisfied...So should't we also enjoy what we've got now until we reach for the better? Eat the cake to survive until we reach the feast?
Just look outside, for all those possibilities, model looking girls passing by all the time, all with their both lovely and unnerving traits, how can't you possible want to explore them all? More is better, more enriches tastes, more gives material to a comparison, more crystallizes what is desired in the long run and unleashes the spirit of evolutionary pro-activism. The first baby steps should not be crippled by shooting for the stars, but instead should be supported by leveraging what we have. People do this all the time, but are simply cynical enough to admit it.
What are the implications, possibly negative, of this mindset
-From the point of view of the one who "deceives"?
-From the point of view of the one who is being "deceived"? (if the 2nd party is ignorant of this frame, given the fact many ladies are unlikely to endorse this openly)
P.S. And, to whomever this might concern, I want to affirm one thing: my relationship did not start in this mindset, but it simply evolved here since it's so difficult to defy going where we feel inclined to
Idea of being with a girl which might or might not be an ideal lifelong partner (given that such really exists) as opposed to just sitting and waiting for a "princess charming", and vice versa.
There are numerous advantages to this, first of all, experience of interacting and possibly even living full time with another person and learning about the other but even more important about yourself.
Using my beloved car analogy, it would be like you refused to drive an old Ford since you cannot currently afford an expensive Mercedes SUV, and you walked to work instead. No one in his right mind would do this. Seems that "leagues" and hard-fact qualities do play a role and some girls are actually out for reach for those who do not possess certain traits, so to be waiting for them would be foolish. On the other hand, it's impossible to ignore a desire for wanting always higher quality, better, more beautiful, more prestigious...
It's love toward yourself at it's best, love for the life of abundance, freedom and satisfaction; instead of being locked into some kind of a Disney-style fairy tale of monogamy and limiting beliefs stating that what you have "must" always make you happy.
Same applies to friends, parents, everyone...Like it's not that we necessarily like all those people we invited to the party or those old folks, but there are NO BETTER POSSIBILITIES right now and currently the equilibrium is set at this particular point. In addition, those people are actually helping us reach our goals and we can help them reach theirs.
Long lasting relationships of any kind can only develop where any move of one party is accompanied by a complementary move of the other party thus keeping the equilibrium in place, otherwise people drift apart.
Many of us, I believe, are in these states of temporary equilibria looking to move...somewhere...possible where our ever evolving desires bring us...possibly where our wishes can be better satisfied...So should't we also enjoy what we've got now until we reach for the better? Eat the cake to survive until we reach the feast?
Just look outside, for all those possibilities, model looking girls passing by all the time, all with their both lovely and unnerving traits, how can't you possible want to explore them all? More is better, more enriches tastes, more gives material to a comparison, more crystallizes what is desired in the long run and unleashes the spirit of evolutionary pro-activism. The first baby steps should not be crippled by shooting for the stars, but instead should be supported by leveraging what we have. People do this all the time, but are simply cynical enough to admit it.
What are the implications, possibly negative, of this mindset
-From the point of view of the one who "deceives"?
-From the point of view of the one who is being "deceived"? (if the 2nd party is ignorant of this frame, given the fact many ladies are unlikely to endorse this openly)
P.S. And, to whomever this might concern, I want to affirm one thing: my relationship did not start in this mindset, but it simply evolved here since it's so difficult to defy going where we feel inclined to
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