Ziiirp
Bluelighter
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- Dec 18, 2011
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Dear BLers,
I do not have any experienced and supportive beings in my circle of friends, so I cannot talk to anybody about this serious issue that I am trying to solve. I have a friend, which was my girlfriend for several years, whose only wish is to raise a child (I guess English/American people call it baby crazy). During the relationship it was not revealed, that her only purpose of our togetherness was getting a child out of it, respectively I was not aware of the pathology of the case. The thing is, that due to physical complications her biological clock steps faster than average (while my own seems to step slower ).
I won't tell everything about the physical complications (there are also problems, that will cause a high-risk-pregnancy for her), that let her think, that soon(er than average) her ability to procreate is vanished (which I doubt, because I personally do not trust M.D's statements because of personal empiric data). During the last 2 years of our relationship she mentioned, that she wanted a child app. 50 times a day, whereas after the 50th time I said : "I do not want to raise a child in that environment, either we escape or I'm leaving on my own...please stop talking about this isssue if you do want to stay in the City of Schmocks!" ()
That is why we broke up. We (tried to) stay friends and I agreed to the suggestion, that I procreate (in my religious view it should be called openíng the door for a cluster of energy, that chooses the shell sub-consciously) with her and chances are, that she will raise the child alone, because I hate the current environment and I want to leave for an uncertain amount of time. I said, that I'll try to handle the financial part after I leave. I have generally nice job opportunities in my field, so if I'm not in chill-mode in my new country I'm able to support her.
I think she will loose the will to live, if it not happens soon. How can I solve the issue without ruining the child's life. How can I solve the issue without risking her life during pregnancy ?
Seriously I just want to leave everything/everyone ASAP here but it will take some months until I will be able, too, and I'd like to solve at least this thing for good.
Thanks for reading my scrambled b-shit.
I do not have any experienced and supportive beings in my circle of friends, so I cannot talk to anybody about this serious issue that I am trying to solve. I have a friend, which was my girlfriend for several years, whose only wish is to raise a child (I guess English/American people call it baby crazy). During the relationship it was not revealed, that her only purpose of our togetherness was getting a child out of it, respectively I was not aware of the pathology of the case. The thing is, that due to physical complications her biological clock steps faster than average (while my own seems to step slower ).
I won't tell everything about the physical complications (there are also problems, that will cause a high-risk-pregnancy for her), that let her think, that soon(er than average) her ability to procreate is vanished (which I doubt, because I personally do not trust M.D's statements because of personal empiric data). During the last 2 years of our relationship she mentioned, that she wanted a child app. 50 times a day, whereas after the 50th time I said : "I do not want to raise a child in that environment, either we escape or I'm leaving on my own...please stop talking about this isssue if you do want to stay in the City of Schmocks!" ()
That is why we broke up. We (tried to) stay friends and I agreed to the suggestion, that I procreate (in my religious view it should be called openíng the door for a cluster of energy, that chooses the shell sub-consciously) with her and chances are, that she will raise the child alone, because I hate the current environment and I want to leave for an uncertain amount of time. I said, that I'll try to handle the financial part after I leave. I have generally nice job opportunities in my field, so if I'm not in chill-mode in my new country I'm able to support her.
I think she will loose the will to live, if it not happens soon. How can I solve the issue without ruining the child's life. How can I solve the issue without risking her life during pregnancy ?
Seriously I just want to leave everything/everyone ASAP here but it will take some months until I will be able, too, and I'd like to solve at least this thing for good.
Thanks for reading my scrambled b-shit.