I've been seeing this girl for around 3 months now and dating her for a month and a half. In the beginning, all we did was hook up, hangout (at my place), and go to the occasional dinner. A month and some weeks go by of doing this and I eventually ask her to be my girlfriend. She said yes and we have been official for a month and a half to this date.
IMPORTANT: I am 19, she is 21, the child is 1 year old.
I love everything about her. I am not in love with her yet because it's too early to tell but I could see myself in love with her in the future. She's just right for me, we've both been through a lot of similar experiences for better or for worse and we really relate. Our chemistry is off the charts. It's just my ideal relationship.
However, there's always one problem isn't there? She has a child who is a year old. The child is not mine and the Dad is a deadbeat, in and out of jail, drug addict, broke my girlfriend's cheek bone, just a fucking loser in general.
My Dad passed away when I Was 15, but I lost him to drug addiction when I was around 12. So I know what it's like to not have a Dad around due to whatever reason. And I can't help but have sympathy for this poor little girl who was brought into this Earth by a man who just abandoned her.
Me being 19 years old, all my friends are of course making fun of me, calling me step-dad, etc. I have played with this child, pushed her in the stroller, took her to the zoo, took her to dinner, and bought her toys that she picked out. I really love this little girl. All the time my girlfriend has been there with us of course.
Deep down, it does kind of bother me that this loser beat me to it. I don't spite the child, I spite the Father for putting his dick in my perfect girlfriend and not having enough balls to take care of his own. Honestly, I am a little upset that they share a bond of having a child together. It makes me jealous.
But so far, I have been more of a Father to this little girl than her own Dad, yet somehow I feel like I might be crazy? I mean people make me want to feel crazy because I've read comments on how I must be desperate, I shouldn't throw my life away at 19, I'm too young to take care of a child. etc. But I can't help but want to take care of this little girl simply because I know how it feels to not have a Father, yeah it sucks that she isn't mine but I just want her to know that not all men are going to abandon her in her life. And I also hate watching my girlfriend struggle financially. Being a single Mom with no help from the Father is not easy on her. She is always stressed and I just want to make both of their lives better. Because I know if we last I will eventually love them both.
What are your thoughts on this?
Thanks
-Kyl
IMPORTANT: I am 19, she is 21, the child is 1 year old.
I love everything about her. I am not in love with her yet because it's too early to tell but I could see myself in love with her in the future. She's just right for me, we've both been through a lot of similar experiences for better or for worse and we really relate. Our chemistry is off the charts. It's just my ideal relationship.
However, there's always one problem isn't there? She has a child who is a year old. The child is not mine and the Dad is a deadbeat, in and out of jail, drug addict, broke my girlfriend's cheek bone, just a fucking loser in general.
My Dad passed away when I Was 15, but I lost him to drug addiction when I was around 12. So I know what it's like to not have a Dad around due to whatever reason. And I can't help but have sympathy for this poor little girl who was brought into this Earth by a man who just abandoned her.
Me being 19 years old, all my friends are of course making fun of me, calling me step-dad, etc. I have played with this child, pushed her in the stroller, took her to the zoo, took her to dinner, and bought her toys that she picked out. I really love this little girl. All the time my girlfriend has been there with us of course.
Deep down, it does kind of bother me that this loser beat me to it. I don't spite the child, I spite the Father for putting his dick in my perfect girlfriend and not having enough balls to take care of his own. Honestly, I am a little upset that they share a bond of having a child together. It makes me jealous.
But so far, I have been more of a Father to this little girl than her own Dad, yet somehow I feel like I might be crazy? I mean people make me want to feel crazy because I've read comments on how I must be desperate, I shouldn't throw my life away at 19, I'm too young to take care of a child. etc. But I can't help but want to take care of this little girl simply because I know how it feels to not have a Father, yeah it sucks that she isn't mine but I just want her to know that not all men are going to abandon her in her life. And I also hate watching my girlfriend struggle financially. Being a single Mom with no help from the Father is not easy on her. She is always stressed and I just want to make both of their lives better. Because I know if we last I will eventually love them both.
What are your thoughts on this?
Thanks
-Kyl