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Am I aiming too high

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lonelyoldman

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When I go on dating and hook-up sites, I only like the hot.girls. I also don't like them to have too much of a job or career as that'd be awkward for me with my rubbish job.

But none of the girls I like like me back and vice versa.

The ones who like me just aren't attractive to me e.g. overweight or plastered in tattoos (nothing against tats but they turn me of). None of the hot girls like me.

Anyway I'm almost normal weight now but not muscular and quit smoking 3 weeks ago and in process of quitting drinking.
 
You always seem to be overly critical of yourself or seem to have low self esteem - have you tried going to a gym and maybe toning up or making a positive step to improve your health ? Often just taking control over something like that can have a very positive effect on you and in-turn the way you present yourself etc.

On the dating sites have you actually had any dates (not hook ups) or are you just looking for sex so you only hit on the 'hot chicks'? Try meeting a few people, you don't have to be head over heels with them but just getting out there can also have a great impact on you.
 
That sucks. But to answer your question, yes, I think you are, especially physically.

Try aim lower, not the girls with the tattoos and obviously the major turn offs. But what about the average looking girls? The ones that look decent that seem like a nice person? Why not see if they like you back and then at least it'll give you a chance to get to know someone. If they have a great personality, they'll look even more attractive, trust me.

Don't be so shallow.
 
My sexual inadequacy is getting me down. I expect this is a common problem given only a small percent of men can be the most attractive.

Thing is, there are things I'm measurably better than the majority of people at. I qualified for the british maths olympiad at school, putting me in the top few percent (one or 2, idk) of A level maths students. Didn't prepare for the BMO so didn't do that great.

I was dux of my high school which is pretty cool in spite of *****y attendance because of bullying.

I'm far better than average at guitar and there are lots of other hobbies I'm getting good at.

But I'm just fixating on my sexual inadequacy. Will this get better with age?

Is there a medication to remove sexual urges completely? I've been on sertraline which made me impotent but that didnt' hit the spot. I felt even more inadequate as I still had urges but couldn't get an erection
 
^, Aw, I'm sorry you feel so down.. medications aren't the answer.

Being smart and being able to play music is great! It's not all about looks too, it's also about personality. You have to get out there and meet people. Even if they are just average girls. Can you join a meetup website to meet other people who play the guitar?
 
Try hookers. They could give a shit what you look like as long as you can pay. This is all about getting laid right? Or you can just forget women and use porno for sexual release. It will save you a lot of grief in the long run. I was one of those good looking guys that girls wanted but in the end being with women was wasted time. I'm so glad I never married and did all that shit. I ended up pretty wealthy also. I was able to retire in my 50s. Count your blessings.
 
Pretty_Diamonds said:
^, Aw, I'm sorry you feel so down.. medications aren't the answer.

Being smart and being able to play music is great! It's not all about looks too, it's also about personality. You have to get out there and meet people. Even if they are just average girls. Can you join a meetup website to meet other people who play the guitar?
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Sorry if I've come over as a shallow sociopath in this thread and others. I think I spend too much time on the internet reading all this stuff about alpha,beta,omega males and feeling terrible about myself.

I used to be a romantic and think I still am underneath but feel unworthy of love and feel it is unattainable given my circumstances, so I'm just trying to get my v-plates away at least so I don't feel awful about myself.

I know what you mean about personality. When I think of the girls I've crushed on in life, none of them have been stunners when I look back but they were to me at the time because they made me crush on them with their personalities.

I've got an autism dropin I go to to play guitar, and there's a guitar group people have been trying to get me along to for a while so I might give that a bash.
 
I'd have given up all my beautiful gfs to be good at a musical instrument. You've got a good thing going.
 
Lol. That's good! Yes, personality is important so don't be so shallow. Maybe you can meet with a therapist to work on your self-esteem and confidence issues?
 
Try hookers. They could give a shit what you look like as long as you can pay. This is all about getting laid right? Or you can just forget women and use porno for sexual release. It will save you a lot of grief in the long run.
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Ha! I dig your style. And this is totes the way I would go also.
 
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