Advice from classy ladies please.

[Jabberwocky]

As a dude who used to have this same issue, I have a few things to say.

• This "problem" will go away with time, so don't give up. It certainly went away for me Plus, sooner or later, one day you'll be wishing you could bring back the days of the 2 second orgasm, trust me
  
• Never under estimate the importance and value or foreplay, oral sex and your fingers.
  
• Few things feel better to most ladies than delicate fingers and a good old fashioned tongue and some lube, so go stock up on Aquaglide. As long as you've got some good lube, or at least as long as your partner is well naturally lubricated, you can always use your nose as a way to pleasure her while you're licking her lady bits along with your fingers. And if you've shaved your chin too, hell I've used my forehead to great avail before!
  
• Talk to your partner about what you can do to provide her with the most gratifying love making experience. Communication isn't just underrated, but essential to a good sex life.
  
• After talking with your lover about how best to please her, take a trip to your local sex shop and buy, at the very least, a vibrator and dildo (either two separate things or a combo device).
  
• While I would caution you not to be stupid and start using heroin in order to keep your boner lasting longer, there are a lot of drugs out there that you can use to prolong your erection (trust me, nothing, not even being able to fuck for literally 12 hours straight - trust me, I've done this - justifies a opioid addiction). I've noticed that I can keep a boner longer (although it can prevent me from orgasming myself, not that it still isn't totally worth it) whenever I use more or less any opioid, DXM and higher doses of pregabalin. I'm sure other drugs would also provide a similar effect. Strangely enough, stuff like Viagra and Cialas didn't do shit for this issue, whereas ironically enough heroin and opioids, traditionally associated with loss of sex drive, did.

If you do those five or six simple things, you so called problem will be solved!

 

[dopemaster]

Well you could have her blow you and then wait like ten minutes.

Either that or you could warm her up a bit first.

I don't have that problem but the first few times I had sex I thought about baseball and yeah that made it alot easier to last longer.

I guess like when you are about to cum chill the fuck out for a second and don't and then start banging again. I suppose after a certain point during sex like longer than 20 minutes it is really hard for me to cum so some people get off really fast and some people do not.

It seems like your partner is rather understanding. One of my best friends had this problem and his wife treated him like shit because of it so infidelity and being dragged into mmf 3somes. I told him not to marry her but yeah he did not listen.

So I suppose my advice would be to go down on her a bit so that you can achieve orgasm at the same time. It would help with your feelings of inadequacy for sure. It's called foreplay.

 

[Pretty_Diamonds]

Hey, I'm a lady (classy most of the time) I've been with my partner for 13 years, from reading ur post it seems like ur in the same situation as my partner, most of the time he gets excited far too quickly leaving me frustrated that I didn't get my fun too, I find that foreplay before hand works wonders, get her to the point where she is about to orgasm with your hands, tongue, whatever but don't let her go the full way, do this a few times, then by the time you enter her she will most likely come quickly before you do. If I was her I would take it as a compliment, you obviously think she's very hot and her vagina is tight enough to get you off so quickly! Some women can't come thru penetration anyway, so maybe she enjoys handplay more than the actual sex, women are also happy to know they've pleased their partners as much as men do. Have u tried getting yourself off first? Then when ur erect the second time does it still only last a few minutes? I find my partner lasts much longer the second time round, in his words the first time he's like a loaded gun haha! Good luck!

I dig this and as a classy lady, agree! Lmao.

Right before she's almost going to come, enter her, she'll come before you.

Or... after you reach orgasm, can't you wait a few moments and go again?