Time heals all wounds.
But Alex - the continuous cocktail of drugs you are churning through must be negatively impacting your ability to healthily process your grief about Kevin and move on. You are never sober long enough to deal with your emotions and get them under control. And the ingestion of uppers and downers and then a day off here and there must be putting you on a nightmare emotional roller coaster. I would not really trust anything you think you feel at the moment. I certainly wouldn’t try and act on anything you feel at the moment.
Sorry to be the Grinch again. But I’ve tried to deal with relationship / trauma / emotional stuff in the middle of binges and never did so successfully.
Youre absolutely right. When Im sober, as brief as those time periods are becoming. I dont feel the same intensity that I do otherwise. I actually feel more genuine about the love that I have rather then this up/down bipolar aspie drug addict whos a freak about it. When Im medicated properly and staying sober for any period of time. When I think about it in a sober and calm sense of mind it does make sense to just let go. Like the old saying, if you love them then let them go. Im not ready by any means to get out of here financially or otherwise but I am welcome to stay if Im sober and doing well.
I went to the hospital this morning and got some detox meds and all my other meds sorted out. Ive been taking those and I spent 6 hours cleaning our apartment top to bottom. Just one ir two more round like that and Ill have this whole place immaculate and he will be so relieved to come home from his runs at work and see that Ive held my end up and even improved the situation. Do I expect that this sort of work on myself will get me back into it with him? No, that switch is off and I think permanently. It will help maintain the friendship we still have. We talk about everything for hours each day. He does still love and care for me, just not the same way.
something has been happening to me this past day or two where im feeling less heartbroken and more excited to just work on myself, work on our place, get the shit I need to finish to wrap up my school. Im in a youth job connect program for 15-29 year olds who specifically have barriers for employment.
Did you know Im actually getting paid for my volunteer work at BL? They will pay minimum wage for any volunteer work I do. They will he covering 600 dollars to get me a new laptop I can use for business and work purposes. They will pay my entire wage while I train in a job that may be out of my leauge but worth the investment because I bring no financial risk, just their time to train. They will pay for me to take courses snd get certifications I need to get into things like peer support lets say. Im aiming to become an addictions worker and theres an apprenticeship for a youth worker that can get me into that field.
they are even supporting me through my addictions. I was up front from the beginning what Ive been going through and theyve been there all the way even through an overdose and all. Theyre hooking me up with a social worker who is specifically trained in mental health which I currently dont have counseling for although I have an addictions counselor from Toronto I talk to over the phone. This new social worker will be able to drive me to my medical appointments of which I have many for a variety of reasons. My physical and mental health is very poor. Some of it is drug related and some is not.
for some reason I feel so good today. So motivated. I even got rid of my weed and my bong and all which prior to this day I did not give a shit about. Today I feel well and I care for myself and my life again. All I need to do is maintain this pace and Ill be okay. Something happened to me today. Ill never forget it, its almost like a spiritual shift I didn’t really do much to ask for.
youll believe it when you see it. Good things are happening in my life. Me and kevin though. Whatever. I like him no matter what the relationship is like. And if I need to go someday which I think very well may. Im gonna be making sure Im ready to do that for him.