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I caught my girlfriend rubbing one off (also; Women, what kind of porn do you watch?)
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My 3 incher got no chance reaching thstThe anterior fornix, it’s like a pocket near the cervix.
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I was just messing really due to some men being into prostate stimulation although I'd never heard of the a-spot. As I said I must've missed that in sex Ed. It seems pretty risky tho now you've shown me as you said with cervical pain/damage and all that. I had an ex and she had to get looked at because of bleeding which the gynecologist put down to "wear and tear" but it was scary at the time. Also I think that the prostate has been called "the male g spot" which is why I said it even though of course it isn't at all the same anatomically speaking, as far as I know anyway.
And yes I meant the ol' C bean.
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I'm glad my guy ain't into butt stuff because it would be a hard no from me
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It’s fairly recently been made public knowledge that it can pleasurable, but imo it’s nothing on the g or c spot! I only found out about it at most 2 yrs ago myself.
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Interesting. I'm sure they will design all kinds of toys that will be able to reach that spot.
It's funny hearing it described as becoming public knowledge too, like it was an esoteric sex secret that had been kept hidden by ancient occult orders but someone accidentally taught their sexual partner and it leaked (no pun intended).
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Just make sure you get your phrasing right in case he does have a secret kink.
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I really hope that's a bridge I never have to cross. No offense but a mans hairy butt isn't what I would consider sexy
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I certainly agree with you on that. A woman's however - crafted by the good lord himself.
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I doubt that, because I think it’s not that great and it’s uncommon for that spot to be particularly pleasurable for women. Plus, so many women will be unable to stimulate that spot without also experiencing cervical pain. That’s why this new “discovery“ hasn’t spread like wildfire. There are just better spots/approaches to sex already.
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The problem is, my girlfriend is kind of dumb (maybe has an IQ of 106) and doesn't like reading.
Which is kind of why I was so surprised that she was reading that erotica. It was on an app called Galatea.
Having a dumb girlfriend, or rather one with a such disparity from my own (a full 3 standard deviations different) isn't as bad as I thought.
Also, dumb people, have a sort of "dumb person smartness" or clarity to them, not being burdened by convolution of thought. There are definitely times where it's annoying. For instance, she isn't able to articulate herself in a clear and concise fashion, so it can be frustrating trying to communicate with her, particularly at the speed I desire (I'm very hyper and on the inpatient side). But we have less arguments.
When I first met her she told me that she wanted to be a film composer (which is something I do on the side, independent films, random documentaries etc). So I was intrigued and asked her out to dinner (wasnt particularly my type but the film composer thing was interesting. Turns out she had just graduated from a undergraduate screenwriting program, and has no musical ability or knowledge. She was under the impression that you could just apply to a film scoring program and they'd teach you to write film scores. Doesn't work that way though
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Oh damn. Most of those books are very easy reading (maybe not Jacqueline Carey). I never liked erotica anthologies & I find short stories very dissatisfying. But I LOVE to read & I'm just a few pts below your IQ at 149.The problem is, my girlfriend is kind of dumb (maybe has an IQ of 106) and doesn't like reading.
Which is kind of why I was so surprised that she was reading that erotica. It was on an app called Galatea.
Having a dumb girlfriend, or rather one with a such disparity from my own (a full 3 standard deviations different) isn't as bad as I thought.
Also, dumb people, have a sort of "dumb person smartness" or clarity to them, not being burdened by convolution of thought. There are definitely times where it's annoying. For instance, she isn't able to articulate herself in a clear and concise fashion, so it can be frustrating trying to communicate with her, particularly at the speed I desire (I'm very hyper and on the inpatient side). But we have less arguments.
When I first met her she told me that she wanted to be a film composer (which is something I do on the side, independent films, random documentaries etc). So I was intrigued and asked her out to dinner (wasnt particularly my type but the film composer thing was interesting. Turns out she had just graduated from an undergraduate screenwriting program, and has no musical ability or knowledge. She was under the impression that you could just apply to a film scoring program and they'd teach you to write film scores. Doesn't work that way though
I‘ve known a number of high IQ men who don’t mind average/slightly above average IQ partners. It definitely doesn’t work the other way because of hypergamy. Would you marry her?
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Yeah, as far as relationships go, I've found that I do best with women who are either A) of fairly average intelligence but slightly above average (it isn't fair for me to call my girlfriend "dumb", but she definitely isn't bright) or B) of very high intelligence.
But definitely don't do well with women who are moderately bright but not particularly bright (i.e., those who clearly are brighter than average, and are well aware of it, but aren't quite bright enough to realize their own limitations, resulting in a strong tendency to overestimate their intelligence while underestimating the intelligence of others). People in this range also tend to be quick to cling to ideologies, seeing things not as spectrum but as black and white, right and wrong, often fueled by their partial understanding of a given subject etc. Subconsciously however, they are aware that while brighter than average, they aren't as bright as they project, which leads to sense of intellectual insecurity. This leads to unnecessary arguments, or having to entertain their involvement in ideological activities, etc.
These are the unfortunate type of people who have a constant need to be "right" and take great offense if proven wrong, whereas a very bright individual knows at all times that they may be wrong (and are open to hear perspectives that may challenge their understanding due to their innate desire to learn), and a person of average intelligence knows the same (except they lack the desire to learn why they might be wrong, but are just aware that they might be wrong since they are not under any illusions that they possess a complete understanding). This of course doesn't just apply to females. Interactions with both males and females of this variety are tiresome.
So she either needs to be very bright or just above average. I've never dated a girl who was actually below average, but I don't think that would out. That said, my current girlfriend has the lowest intelligence of anyone I've ever dated, being just above average intelligence. There is less conflict in some regards but it feels kind of lonely at times, and her ability to clearly articulate herself tests my patience (particularly since I'm such a hyper and energetic person).
Would I marry her? That's what her mom wants to know
. Probably not. Would I have kids with her probably not?Then again, maybe having kids with someone substantially less than myself would produce offspring that are sufficiently intelligent, but more stable than someone like myself.
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DK midwits are some of the worst.Yeah, as far as relationships go, I've found that I do best with women who are either A) of fairly average intelligence but slightly above average (it isn't fair for me to call my girlfriend "dumb", but she definitely isn't bright) or B) of very high intelligence.
But definitely don't do well with women who are moderately bright but not particularly bright (i.e., those who clearly are brighter than average, and are well aware of it, but aren't quite bright enough to realize their own limitations, resulting in a strong tendency to overestimate their intelligence while underestimating the intelligence of others). People in this range also tend to be quick to cling to ideologies, seeing things not as spectrum but as black and white, right and wrong, often fueled by their partial understanding of a given subject etc. Subconsciously however, they are aware that while brighter than average, they aren't as bright as they project, which leads to sense of intellectual insecurity. This leads to unnecessary arguments, or having to entertain their involvement in ideological activities, etc.
These are the unfortunate type of people who have a constant need to be "right" and take great offense if proven wrong, whereas a very bright individual knows at all times that they may be wrong (and are open to hear perspectives that may challenge their understanding due to their innate desire to learn), and a person of average intelligence knows the same (except they lack the desire to learn why they might be wrong, but are just aware that they might be wrong since they are not under any illusions that they possess a complete understanding). This of course doesn't just apply to females. Interactions with both males and females of this variety are tiresome.
So she either needs to be very bright or just above average. I've never dated a girl who was actually below average, but I don't think that would out. That said, my current girlfriend has the lowest intelligence of anyone I've ever dated, being just above average intelligence. There is less conflict in some regards but it feels kind of lonely at times, and her ability to clearly articulate herself tests my patience (particularly since I'm such a hyper and energetic person).
Would I marry her? That's what her mom wants to know
Then again, maybe having kids with someone substantially less than myself would produce offspring that are sufficiently intelligent, but more stable than someone like myself.
Do you want marriage/kids? Sounds like it’s not a super serious relationship, but you’re content in it?
Given regression to the mean (& the trend of falling IQ), even if you do procreate with a high IQ woman, your offspring will likely be less intelligent. I can’t decide if modernity is the worst or the best time for high IQ people.
So you're dating a dumbass and you are insecure because she is masterbating...? And really curious about what porn it may be in case you do not compare?
BRO fuck all that. Like just drop it all out of your head. It's not important. I would be a bit worried if she constantly reaching for the dildo after having your nasty gurthy Johnson all up in her....then you may have a license for insecurity, meaning you're not making her happy or getting the job done. Trust me she's either watching passionate sex with some rock hard abs for porn or train after train dick dick dick dick dick everywhere. Case closed.
BRO fuck all that. Like just drop it all out of your head. It's not important. I would be a bit worried if she constantly reaching for the dildo after having your nasty gurthy Johnson all up in her....then you may have a license for insecurity, meaning you're not making her happy or getting the job done. Trust me she's either watching passionate sex with some rock hard abs for porn or train after train dick dick dick dick dick everywhere. Case closed.
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I guess you didn't read all the posts I made in this thread huh.
If you had read all of what I wrote, you'd realize that the question was more of a philosophical one rather than an actual one (i.e., how does a dominant male perceive his female mate looking at various types of porn in the context that we are still the very same species of primate who for much of our history practiced a harem style mating model). In a harem-style system, which many of our primate relatives practice, a single male mates with multiple females -- effectively monopolizing them and excluding other males via constant intense competition. The dominant male has exclusive mating rights with the females in his group. Keep in mind modern humans (homo sapiens) -- peoole that look exactly like you and me -- have been around for around 300,000 years, and our current modern monogamous style of relationships only started becoming somewhat common perhaps 10,000 years ago (and only very common in the last 5,000 years). So the competition for a mate and the associated instincts are deeply ingrained.
And again, I didn't care whatsoever, I was just curious what it was. Is it not natural to be curious what kind of porn your girlfriend is into? Turned out it wasn't even porn, it was the show Euphoria (which has a bunch of sex scenes) as well as some erotica that she was reading. Had it been some crazy BBC gangbang stuff, I would have been ok with it, but if I had a choice I'd probably rather it not be something like that, since something like that is the kind of thing that might linger in the back of one's mind given our evolutionary history.
But again, if you read the whole thread you'd see that I'm definitely not insecure about her rubbing one out, which, as I explained, was why I went and bought her a bunch of erotica books to encourage it.
The second question I had was more generic and was just asking women what kind of porn they watch in general -- to which only @fairnymph was kind enough to respond (who, since many of you don't know, is by the way, a true OG bluelighter from the orginal bluelight, and also happens to be strikingly attractive from my recollection).
And if you had read the whole thread my, "what porn do women watch" was as to test my theory that younger women (24 and under) are consuming alot more hardcore porn than women say 30 and over. Part of this theory is based on my own person experience; the phenomenon where younger women keep on staring at the lump in pants when I'm in the gym (in an extreme manner I've never witnessed before). And some of the worst offenders are the ones that actually come up to me and ask me what my snapchat or instagram is. Stuff like that has happened before but never close to this level: there has been a clear shift and it appears as something fundamentally has changed. And I'm almost certain that what has changed is that younger women are watching way more porn, and begin watching it at young age. Inevitably, this could easily result in them being more fascinated with size. I mean I haven't gotten any younger or handsomer. The only difference is a shift in demographics.
Think about it. I mean when i was in high school my cellphone was one of those old school nokia phones with a grey screen, which was totally incapable of viewing porn on. As a horny young teenager I used to have to go on the computer late at night and watch it on dialup; which for those of you who have attempted this, knows how slow of a process it was to watch porn back then. Young females back then weren't horny enough to go through all the effort that us young men had to go through. And this always been the case, historically speaking, whereby hardcore porn has been fairly difficult or complicated to obtain, and required work to get. But these days, an young adult woman who is now say 22 years old, was able to watch porn instantaneously on her phone when she was in high school. Not only that, people talked about it more, were generally more aware of it more, her friends watched it and talked about it etc. When I was in high school, extremely few 16 year old girls were going on painful slow dialup internet and actively watching porn, but I bet that number (or proportion rather) has shot-up dramatically. In anycase, I'm almost certain that this is the sole explanation of what's been happening to me at this new gym (which is the first gym I signed up at post-pandemic, and this new area that I moved to has alot of young people).
And before anyone tries to call me a pervert again, no I'm not interested in underage girls, they are obnoxious, awkward, and annoying, so say even it was legal to sleep with them, I'd still be uninterested because even amongst the teenagers who's physical form resembles that of a grown women, there is still something distinctly unsexy about them. I see them try to be sexy, yanking their shorts up their buttcracks and etc, but they just seem like dumb kids. So I have no interest in them, yet they have interest in me, and I'm almost 100% positive it's because their watching porn. I am a somewhat prettier guy than average guy but I don't think any of those people would have actually asked me for my contact info if they hadn't notice something else.
I wonder what the long-term effects of porn exposure to young women will be over time. Young men have for many years watched or tried to watch porn, and would often have to go through significant efforts to acquire porn, but young women watching alot of porn is a new phenomenon. Well I guess I observed one of the effects first hand.
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I would love kids, in theory, though in practice I'm not so sure it's a good idea (for various reasons like, will they inherent my addictive personality, am I willing to actually to host birthday parties, go to endless events etc, will a war with China break out in the year 2045, etc.).
With my girlfriend I'm content in my lack of discontentedness. But obviously it leaves me with a kind of emptiness. But it also leaves me more stable and less likely to abuse drugs to cope with the ups and downs that are inevitable with a more intense, passionate relationship. I have bad coping skills.
I've actually wondered before, not in any actual actionable sense, if perhaps I'd be best with polygamy (multiple wives). Not because of any sexual benefits but rather due to fact that I like having emotional relationships with woman. All women are so different, and I'm such a varied person that I like women who are extroverted, warm and lighthearted, but I also like women who are pensive, introverted and troubled/complex. Also physically I have no type, not even with regard to race. When i close my eyes and try to picture the perfect woman, I can't come up with anything.
Not that I'm going to start practicing polygamy, which sounds like it would be exhausting in practice, but conceptually it sounds nice in some regards. Maybe part of it is the drug addict part of me, because I love that feeling of falling in love, the high is incredible. You go to sleep feeling it and wake up and jump right out of bed with a skip in your step. The comedown however is horrendous, it's been the cause of every drug relapse I ever had.
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Porn is horribly destructive, at least to men. I think it’s awful, a symptom of our dying civilisation. I can only imagine it will increase promiscuity in young women. According to one of my good friends, a 26 yr old manwhore who has been with hundreds of women, young women do indeed watch a lot of porn. And he mostly fucks smart, cute women. He is horrified by how badly adjusted young women are. He himself doesn’t get spontaneous erections, takes several hours to come (or even get fully hard), or needs porn to finish. He claims all his friends take Cialis daily.
Very annoying to read all the people challenging you rather than simply ANSWERING YOUR Qs! Typical ofc in many threads, but that’s no excuse. I’m irate on your behalf! Thanks for the kind (& accurate) words btw.
