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CoastTwoCoast said:
*HUGS* Thank you. I'm just glad it's over. A few weeks ago, he came by with flowers. He wanted to get back together or at least remain friends. I told him it's best to let go and move on. He kept trying to make me feel guilty for wanting to move on and take care of myself. I blocked his number again after that and his folks number too so he can't reach me at all.

Those emotionally abusive/manipulative types are really skilled at preying on those who are caring individuals. He constantly bombarded me with "I love you" to sucker me back in and guilt-trips. If anything, it teaches you the red flags to look out for. Toxic relationships are draining.
Yes, we deserve much better. <3
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Manipulative people will prey on anything they deem as weakness; if you're compassionate; caring - they see it as a weaak spot ( its hard to swallow but its a fact). They prey on anyone strong of personality, or wounded; once they're open-minded - anything is fair game - people like this are cunts lol - decent people( damaged or not, will want to repair things - if it is worth repairing; in friendship; and the spiritual link is worth it; thy're has to be solid and effortful proof on the part of the other ( wiht most its only trite posturing so, I wounldn't hold out and you can do FAR better!)then fine ( this can only happen with strict boundaries) - parasites on the other hand arent worth your breath - run like the dickens from them - pointless endeavours! ;)
If he is making you feel guilty - best cure is tell him to, 'fuck off' - no point in buying into manipulation - fools do that; make you feel guilty for their ineptitude. What an idiot - seriously, get yourself someone real - be real, have your standards ( just keep your faith close to your chest - because many guys will prey on that ( Awful, I know but its a fact ) so,...again, you deserve better my love. ;)
 
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Asclepius said:
Manipulative people will prey on anything they deem as weakness; if you're compassionate; caring - they see it as a weaak spot ( its hard to swallow but its a fact). They prey on anyone strong of personality, or wounded; once they're open-minded - anything is fair game - people like this are cunts lol - decent people( damaged or not, will want to repair things - if it is worth repairing; in friendship; and the spiritual link is worth it; thy're has to be solid and effortful proof on the part of the other ( wiht most its only trite posturing so, I wounldn't hold out and you can do FAR better!)then fine ( this can only happen with strict boundaries) - parasites on the other hand arent worth your breath - run like the dickens from them - pointless endeavours! ;)
If he is making you feel guilty - best cure is tell him to, 'fuck off' - no point in buying into manipulation - fools do that; make you feel guilty for their ineptitude. What an idiot - seriously, get yourself someone real - be real, have your standards ( just keep your faith close to your chest - because many guys will prey on that ( Awful, I know but its a fact ) so,...again, you deserve better my love. ;)
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People like that are cunts indeed! haha

Funny how you mentioned they will also prey on your faith because that happened too. He brought up the Christian thing and acted like I was supposed to forgive him and take him back. I forgive him, but no way I was going back.

Everything you said is right. It's good to have this opportunity to learn and grow from this experience. It will make me stronger and I'm glad it's behind me now. Relationships are the last thing on my mind these days.

You're the best! I really appreciate you. :)
 
So, it took me a few short minutes of checking digital time stamps to realize I was right to not trust you.

It's a shame you couldn't be honest with yourself, let alone me.

*shrug*
 
CoastTwoCoast said:
People like that are cunts indeed! haha

Funny how you mentioned they will also prey on your faith because that happened too. He brought up the Christian thing and acted like I was supposed to forgive him and take him back. I forgive him, but no way I was going back.

Everything you said is right. It's good to have this opportunity to learn and grow from this experience. It will make me stronger and I'm glad it's behind me now. Relationships are the last thing on my mind these days.

You're the best! I really appreciate you. :)
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Pardon my profanity - I like to thing of it as enthusiastic assertiveness! ;)

Well fuck it, ya know; if some so-called partner disrespects you - it's time-to-end -it.

Take time-out but don't rule other people out - just take your time. <3

Ethics and faith are usually overlapping things. As far as I'm concerned, if your ethics are tied-up in your faith and someone uses that to combat you and not rationally question you - well that's innapropriate. If, your partner uses that to denegrate you - then they are a giant cunt - any decent man would be able to express his grieveances and leave with respect to himself; if there were discrepencies between your value systems as a couple, imo. IF anyone bullies you; fuck 'em. thats a weak game (obviously) people can have opposing views on faith based topics and NOT resort to shitty behaviour). My best to you darlin'. <3
 
Asclepius said:
Pardon my profanity - I like to thing of it as enthusiastic assertiveness! ;)

Well fuck it, ya know; if some so-called partner disrespects you - it's time-to-end -it.

Take time-out but don't rule other people out - just take your time. <3

Ethics and faith are usually overlapping things. As far as I'm concerned, if your ethics are tied-up in your faith and someone uses that to combat you and not rationally question you - well that's innapropriate. If, your partner uses that to denegrate you - then they are a giant cunt - any decent man would be able to express his grieveances and leave with respect to himself; if there were discrepencies between your value systems as a couple, imo. IF anyone bullies you; fuck 'em. thats a weak game (obviously) people can have opposing views on faith based topics and NOT resort to shitty behaviour). My best to you darlin'. <3
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Well, I knew he wasn't exactly spiritual in the first place. He wasn't a believer, but he wasn't against my faith either (Or at least he didn't speak openly negatively about it to me). It didn't stop me from loving him. There was a reason this happened. Maybe I was called to help him get to where he is now and he did give me hope in the beginning. It was just time for that door to finally close in order for better opportunities to show up in my future.

What I ultimately learned is that If one person is constantly seeking Jesus and the other is not, you are not compatible as a couple. Both people need to be on the same page. You can't keep building someone else up spiritually all the time and giving them strength. You need encouragement too. You need someone to remind you of God's promises and help to keep your faith stirred up in your time of need as well. That was missing from the relationship. It's all a lesson learned. I know what to look for next time and what not to settle for.

It was just at the very end, when he brought up Christianity, I knew it wasn't genuine, it was only to make me feel guilt like I should forgive him for anything and take him back. It was another form of manipulation basically. I saw right through it. Not trying to turn this into a religious debate. I don't even consider myself religious anyway.
It can go for anything major a couple may disagree on. Like if one person wants kids/marriage and the other never does, that's obviously not going to work either.

I want the best for you too!! You're an incredible person with a beautiful spirit. Who couldn't adore you? <3

(Message me anytime if you want to continue talking)
 
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CoastTwoCoast said:
Well, I knew he wasn't exactly spiritual in the first place. He wasn't a believer, but he wasn't against my faith either (Or at least he didn't speak openly negatively about it to me). It didn't stop me from loving him. There was a reason this happened. Maybe I was called to help him get to where he is now and he did give me hope in the beginning. It was just time for that door to finally close in order for better opportunities to show up in my future.

What I ultimately learned is that If one person is constantly seeking Jesus and the other is not, you are not compatible as a couple. Both people need to be on the same page. You can't keep building someone else up spiritually all the time and giving them strength. You need encouragement too. You need someone to remind you of God's promises and help to keep your faith stirred up in your time of need as well. That was missing from the relationship. It's all a lesson learned. I know what to look for next time and what not to settle for.

It was just at the very end, when he brought up Christianity, I knew it wasn't genuine, it was only to make me feel guilt like I should forgive him for anything and take him back. It was another form of manipulation basically. I saw right through it. Not trying to turn this into a religious debate. I don't even consider myself religious anyway.
It can go for anything major a couple may disagree on. Like if one person wants kids/marriage and the other never does, that's obviously not going to work either.

I want the best for you too!! You're an incredible person with a beautiful spirit. Who couldn't adore you? <3

(Message me anytime if you want to continue talking)
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Thank you beautiful one; much appreciation. Y know, no matter what anyones religious or spiritual conviction, is - there is a universal code of ethics - if anyone undermines that - fuck 'em...as in we all hav our boundaries - people need respect; if that is lacking then; there is something drastically wrong with humanity, eh?

I admire you and respect your faith ( although i'm not religious) but as far as im concerned, good characters are not apparent by their creed but by their behaviour. I really hope you get someone better - every bad experience teaches us something about our mistakes and moreso, about ourselves - its good to be humble - its easy to blame others, but when you get to dig into the worst of yourself - there is gold there, eh!

BE good to yourself love, time and wisdom will bring you good things. <3
 
You were always a coward. However, what is worse is that you're a fraud. You must linger in a near perpetual state of cognitive dissonance. The hypocrisy must overwhelm you. It won't be long until you're unable to tell the truth at all; and it is then, when, you will become an unperson - like me.
 
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zephyr said:
^ I'm sorry mate :(
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Thanks. My ex found his brother dead in bed yesterday morning. It was really hard calling his mom to give my condolences. I'm just trying to be supportive at this time. His brother was very sweet, a quiet introvert. Unfortunately, he got hooked on opiates when this girl introduced him to it. I'm thinking his heart gave out from the abuse. Sad.
 
Yes. It's a terrible loss for your ex, it's really great to have support, you dont have to be anything but a kind person in this time for your ex, try to not get drawn in further. :(.



This is to my ex.



Dear ex,


You have done my head in.


I might be a scientist by trade, I may have a very long and high steady standing in the field all over the country.

However, I dont think I could possibly have had IVF with my ex hubby's frozen sperm and not recall this, nor are you that awesome I would go to those lengths to "trap" you.

Face facts.

We had drunken unprotected sex on a number of occasions, guess the pull and pray method isn't the infallible birth control hoped when drunk right?


I have no idea what a "cryon" chamber is, have zero ability to break chain of custody and my company does not even have a liquid nitrogen license here on my state.

So you are quite frankly the most fucked up piece of shit I have ever had to deal with.


I hope you seriously kill yourself so my daughter doesn't have to deal with your shit.

Btw you have accidently copied my lawyer in to receiving the emails you are sending to court so thanks for the heads up.

I guess you are not happy that the test has to prove it is you that gets tested and you have no way to get another schmucks sample.

Ha ha fuck you.


Die cunt die.
 
You are definitely on a bad path. Time will tell.

Hopefully you will make good on your word.
 
Little Bro: fuck you and yor fucking dxm cold medication "it helps my asthma" fucking bullshit.

It helped your asthma so well you're in jail and have been diagnosed with schizophrenia you intelligent stupid little fuck!!!

And what is with the shit in your room?!?

Why were you stealing things from everyone?

Especially the women in your life?

Why were you hoarding shit and bloodstained papertowels in bags with flavored lubes, food and wrappers, cheap jewelry and clothing that wasn't yours?

And where did you recently found so many phone destroying methheads? Were they real?

I don't really want answers to these questions because the knife booby trap in your closet indicated you were afraid or ashamed of someone finding these...things

...but I want to slap you for the cold pills...you stupid little shit...fucking chlorpheniramine? I told you that shit don't metabolize fast. I told you it would rot your brain.

I hope you're okay.

I hope you can make the best of this fucked up situation of your own making.

I wish I could give you a hug and ask you what went so wrong that broke you down into so many pieces.

I want to call, but I don't know who will answer.

No one's bailed you out because for the first time in many years we know where you are and you are safe.

That's fucked man.

Just fucked.

Mom wanted to throw away your gallons of smooth and colorful rocks that probably came from a drainfield and we stopped her. We know you use them to keep yourself armed and ready for when the alien ship appears again.

I love you little bro.

I'll write you soon.
 
Just because you're on your period doesn't mean you can be a right cunt to me and I won't get pissed.
 
Our time is over for good. You were sent back into my life as a test. Yes, you were sent, but definitely not Heaven sent like I thought in the past. I had to send you right back out of my life. Now that I know your tactics, it was easy to dodge your controlling and manipulative ways. You kept using grief as a way to keep me in chains. You're not sincere at all. You made it more about us than your deceased brother, with all your "love-bombing" as if we were still in a relationship. You wanted me to fall into the old pattern of saying "I love you too." No. This time, I love ME more!
If I were still blinded by your ways and stuck around, you would have only continued to drain me for your emotional support and ego boost.

Thanks for the life lesson though. I know exactly what to look out for in the future. I will no longer compromise and I am saving myself until marriage.
 
^ Boundaries need to be huge - it benefits both parties. Giant kudos to you, on the sober judgement, CTC - I dont want to conflate experience but I've been through a similar situation - unblelievably difficult, hun but unbelievable strength comes from these times. Your good days will come darlin, just you wait and see. <3
 
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