that's a good way of putting it.
so you're more attached to just being in love. with anybody. doesn't matter who? to me that does sound unhealthy and not 'love'. ymmv.
i honestly don't know. i met somebody once. she was, simply put, the most beautiful woman i had ever seen. i asked her out. we dated for 4 years. i told her i wanted to spend the rest of my life with her. she didn't want to be with me and we broke up. it retrospect, at the time, i couldn't love her when we first met because i didn't know her at all. but it certainly felt overwhelming and different at first sight - moreso than anything else i have experienced...
"
(Would you believe in a love at first sight?)
Yes I'm certain that it happens all the time"
who knows? maybe ringo knows
alasdair