I like that shaved look on you pal, Hey man I've been in your shoes. I'm 30 and at the I don't give a fuck stage but when I was 23 I was obsessed with getting laid and I was a virgin also. I was 23, overweight, wore glasses and was known as kinda nerdy. I was the nerd out in the crew, My friends and I all where like a 6-7 guy crew, we when out together, hung out went to bars, etc., they would get girls and I would not, I felt just like you, what could I do to be more "fuckable" to get laid. My roommate was my best friend growing up, we lived in a college town so there was an endless flow of girls, new ones every fall!
He was shorter than me I am 6'4 he is 5'7, he was not built but not fat just an average body, but he had a cute face and most of all TONSI'm of self confidence! That is the ticket pal. I did not have a lot of self confidence but not like incredibly shy, I went out to the bars with him, he would get a few girls at our table, we all would talk, him and I would tell jokes, talk BS and at the end of the night he would bring one home and I could never close the deal, have one interested but would get nervous and then get awkward.
I landed a bad ass dream job that summer I became a tour photographer for a major country music star (Can't say the name for legal reasons) and went on tour with the band, the roadies and band showed me how to score an easy one night stand just to get laid. and I lost my virginity, I was nervous, stoned and a little drunk, she was a young good looking party girl who went to a concert with her friends to have a good time, after the show we got a few backstage passes and went cruising to find girls just to get laid, we took them to the tour bus the guys would pick a guitar we would smoke and drink and talk them out of their pants, my first time the guys made it a point to make sure I got laid, they knew I was a virgin, they liked me and roadies have a bond to help each other out, so they made sure I got laid, I think I lasted about a minute before I came! all that lead up and blow your load in 60 seconds! LOL
It was awesome and I learned that it is best to not be so worried about getting laid, it will happen. Now I'm in better shape, I lost a few pounds and changed hair cuts, lost the glasses, changed my attitude and I am much happier, I have to worry about health issues so sex is not on my forefront. Hey pal, I love to have sex, IT IS AWESOME but I don't worry about when the next time I'm gonna get laid. When I want to get laid, I go out hit a bar find a girl, strike up a convo, watch her for a few minutes before approaching, gather some observations, if she is playing pool, ask to play her in a game, make small talk, get in a real conversation and be confident and don't be awkward and you will go longer.
Also try and find a girl and get to know her and develop a relationship and that can be fulfilling and boost self confidence.
On a side note, I am bisexual, I knew it when I was a teenager. I hid it and was in the closet for sure. But I met some new friends at work, I had a part time job as a bouncer at the most popular club in town, we are a big college town, Auburn University, so I could always act like I was still in college and it was OK because I'm living in a college town, it is a different mindset. I eventually moved in with two of them so all 3 of us worked at the club. I was the oldest being 28-29 they where 22-24 and where still in the party years so I went back to my party years too. My now best friend was my roommate. We did everything together, worked, partied and lived together. Well, I made my mind up that I was not going to hide who I really am, not showboat it but not be super secretive. I had never told anyone that I was bisexual, I hid it and the fact that I was using an app just for hooking up basically. Whenever I got horny and wanted to get laid, I would go out and if I could not pull in a girl I would hit the app up and find a guy to hook up with and I met a guy and we hit it off and he was 100% gay and told me to be myself and not let other's judgment make me be fearful, to be honest with myself most of all.
So one morning after a long Friday night he had gotten laid and I brought home a girl and a guy for a wild threesome, he had gotten up earlier than usual, heard the male voice in my room, he knew I had company that night but just assumed it was a chick and not both! so that morning after my two left, his was still passed out in his bed, it is like 6am we are sitting on the sofa drinking coffee, (I'm 30 and drink coffee every morning before work, he is a marine so he drinks black coffee) he is like "was there a dude in your room, I thought you brought home that girl you bought drinks for most of the night" I was like yeah but I need to tell you something about me and then I told him the whole being bisexual thing and he was totally cool with it and me. he told me "dude that don't even bother me, you do your thing I don't care, we are friends and will always be friends, my first roommate was gay like gay as christmas gay" he told me! So that was my first coming out and since that, I have told several people and they are cool with it.
So get confidence in your self, you look fine with the shaved face, I cant grow facial hair, at 30 I still cant and I do not let it bother me, my 24 year old roommate can grow a full beard in a week, I don't shave for a week it looks like day old growth on him! He is sexy, and gets a lot of girls, I don't let it bother me and he tells me that he is jealous of me because I have more as he puts it "options" when we go out lol!
Sorry for the long book-like post but I wanted to be as helpful as possible and get the message across clearly and if you have any questions feel free to ask, I am an open book and glad to try and help, I like to try and help others best I can.
