SluttyPeach
Bluelighter
- Joined
- May 24, 2012
- Messages
- 1,839
This isn't sexual in nature of course but it does indeed strain my relationship with my baby brother.
He's 16 and I'm 8 years his senior. We both currently live with my mom, who is not stern enough with him. In other words she babies him too much.
Anyway, he has gone to court in the past for truancy which also gets my mom in trouble. But either he doesn't care, or just doesn't realize the gravity of the situation. They have threatened to take him away from us and everything! Last year my mom and I both paid out of pocket to homeschool him since he has learning disabilities and the others pick on him, but this year he decided he wanted to go back to public school so we re enrolled him. Now I can't say I blame him for not wanting to go somewhere he is uncomfortable but he is nearing adulthood, and as adults we have to do things we don't want to do no matter what. I've tried and tried to get him to understand all this but it seems to go in one ear and out the other. In my opinion he needs to grow up and act his age. Otherwise he will just have to learn the hard way but I want a better life for him than going in and out of jail like my dad and I have. I've cleaned up my act not only for myself but to set a positive example for him.
I don't punish him physically but I have taken away his videogames/Internet privileges but my mom gets mad at me for it, so of course he runs to her crying and I'm the bad guy. Our father is incarcerated so he isn't here to back me up. I don't have legal custody of him but my mom and I have raised him ourselves for a long time. When he was sent to juvenile detention for his truancy my mom reinforced that they were wrong for doing that, thus he will not accept responsibility for his actions and feels entitled to do as he pleases. She even tells him "you don't have to listen to big sis when she's being mean" even though I have never cussed or hit him.
I just don't see why my mom won't let me punish him for laying out of school. What would any of you do in this situation? Any advice would be appreciated.
He's 16 and I'm 8 years his senior. We both currently live with my mom, who is not stern enough with him. In other words she babies him too much.
Anyway, he has gone to court in the past for truancy which also gets my mom in trouble. But either he doesn't care, or just doesn't realize the gravity of the situation. They have threatened to take him away from us and everything! Last year my mom and I both paid out of pocket to homeschool him since he has learning disabilities and the others pick on him, but this year he decided he wanted to go back to public school so we re enrolled him. Now I can't say I blame him for not wanting to go somewhere he is uncomfortable but he is nearing adulthood, and as adults we have to do things we don't want to do no matter what. I've tried and tried to get him to understand all this but it seems to go in one ear and out the other. In my opinion he needs to grow up and act his age. Otherwise he will just have to learn the hard way but I want a better life for him than going in and out of jail like my dad and I have. I've cleaned up my act not only for myself but to set a positive example for him.
I don't punish him physically but I have taken away his videogames/Internet privileges but my mom gets mad at me for it, so of course he runs to her crying and I'm the bad guy. Our father is incarcerated so he isn't here to back me up. I don't have legal custody of him but my mom and I have raised him ourselves for a long time. When he was sent to juvenile detention for his truancy my mom reinforced that they were wrong for doing that, thus he will not accept responsibility for his actions and feels entitled to do as he pleases. She even tells him "you don't have to listen to big sis when she's being mean" even though I have never cussed or hit him.
I just don't see why my mom won't let me punish him for laying out of school. What would any of you do in this situation? Any advice would be appreciated.
Last edited: